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  1. Hello gang, the tech chap updated some of the software and all seems to be working now. I have tested and works ok for me, so feel free to chat away.
  2. Actually I just noticed your location on your profile. I can recommend a really kind, caring and lovely Dr who happens to be an OCD expert who is based within the NHS in Newcastle. It may be worth (when you are ready) asking your GP to make a referral to Dr Claire Lomax at Centre for Specialist Psychological Therapies, Northumberland, Tyne and Wear NHS Foundation Trust.
  3. Hi Donna, welcome to the forums, and I am sorry that you are struggling. I will do my best to highlight which is which, but in brief yes what you describe are obsessions and compulsions (OCD), although of course I am not a Dr I should point out The need to know is the 'obsession'. The Googling or asking someone is what we call 'reassurance seeking' so would be the 'compulsion'. The increase in anxiety after the obsession is commonplace with OCD, and the need to lesson the anxiety (find the answer in your case) is common with all aspects of OCD and of course leads to the compulsion. Sitting with the thought is partly the way forward, but it's much more complex than that in that we have to understand the thought, what it means to us, why it bothers us so much and look to see if there are alternative ways to process the thoughts. This is done in therapy in the cognitive aspect of therapy. Sitting with being uncertain is also part of it, but is easier after doing the cognitive side of therapy. I really would urge you to speak to a therapist (CBT, cognitive behavioural therapist). Sadly your story of OCD is not unique, it's a story have heard a few times over the years so I know an experienced therapist will have too. For now if you're not yet ready to go down the therapist route, try and understand and educate yourself more. Break free from OCD is a great CBT book written by three NHS experts - Wishing you well, Ashley.
  4. I am aware of a problem chat disconnecting. The nice software engineer chap will take a look for us overnight.
  5. Not exactly, but we have to learn to accept uncertainty.
  6. I think this is right fefee. To get to a point where we can have an intrusive thought (about the devil or being evil or whatever), we have to learn to accept that the thought doesn't mean we are or we believe or that it is a precursor to an event, or that the thought is a fact. It just means we are comfortable accepting the thought being there sometimes.
  7. It's not what works for me, it's what I have observed over the years for the majority. Using evidence/fact tables is a very common CBT approach for other panic and phobias, but OCD is different, and as a general rule with OCD the more you try and give OCD facts, the more it will crave.... it's like feeding the monster
  8. Well I don't wish to rain on what works for you. Generally, for most people the more you weigh evidence to answer an OCD obsession the more uncertainty it creates and the more questions 'what if?' it will pose. Which is why with OCD we have to generally learn to accept uncertainty, stop looking for black or white answers and learn to live in shades of grey.
  9. I would probably agree with you religion wise SJM, but OCD wise the answer may not help because when this is an OCD obsession, the OCD will just throw more questions.
  10. This is 'rumination' in the original sense of the OCD word (these days hijacked to mean intrusive thoughts, original meaning was pondering answers to unanswerable questions). Would it not be dealt with like every other aspect of OCD? Reviewing the cognitive aspect of what the thought means to you, living with the in certainty and doing nay exposure exercises that are needed.
  11. No offence Roy, but that's akin to a therapist telling us to 'stop it'! I am sure if we could resist compulsions none of us would be here! Here is a little light hearted video (that Prof Salkovskis first showed at one of our conference a few years ago) that emphasis the point...
  12. Please seek professional medical advice when it comes to medication. If in doubt about when best to take it please speak to the prescribing Dr or a pharmacist.
  13. Why are you on mirtazapine anyway? Is this being used to treat OCD?
  14. Due to the fact that never every spammer targeting our forum uses gmail., I have taken the decision to prevent forum accounts being registered with gmail email accounts. A reflection on Google's inability to deal with spammers using their email accounts. Whilst this won't prevent spam, I hope it makes it a tad harder for spammers.
  15. I just typed the following to someone else in another thread, and if I am honest I think the same applies here...