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About taurean

  • Birthday 27/04/50

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  1. I agree with you, but I don't consider it a big issue needing resolution urgently, any more than my issues with the photo gallery. The general work of the charity is more important, and I know Ashley is focusing his IT energies on revamping the main OCD-UK website and bringing it up to date. He doesn't have, so far as I am aware, other IT guru help to do this currently. It's perhaps a matter of priorities therefore - but I see your point, which is well made
  2. Why care though? Go with the Bear, seems to us here to make perfect sense. I didn't agree with the proposed treatment plan from my first therapist - a very eminent psychiatrist and clinical psychologist. I looked him in the eye, told him I was convinced he was wrong, and terminated the therapy. He was very annoyed, but I was sure I was right - and I didn't have back up you have from this wonderful community. My subsequent psychiatrist, and therapist, confirmed he was wrong. Regular topics and posts on here occur when people are unhappy with what their therapist is telling them - by no means are they right all the time.
  3. You can see them, but you can't read them! I think the main forums are sufficient "taster" to encourage people to sign up, join our community, then benefit from additional services. One of the best decisions I ever made! I think it's important to remember that, although we actually do have wonderful technology due to Ashley's erstwhile professional work in IT, the charity is itself a small entity reliant on the services of volunteers, membership subscriptions donations and fundraising to do its work. There are some quirks in the software relating to the new forums (e g. I have issues re use of the photo gallery) , but for me they are minimal, and the need for the work we do for sufferers who join our community is far more important.
  4. OK But why is that a problem? Guests cannot post they can only read the main support forums - if they sign up as bulletin board users they get extra services.
  5. Keep on the path Phil. Remember Caramoole and Snowdog came through this nightmare, so you can too.
  6. Been catching the sun, as well as some fish, by the lakes today, Great mindfulness experience and made a new friend on the bank. 

    Just waiting now in the pub, over over a pint, for the sun to go down so I can drive home. 

  7. I think I will do my awareness bit by explaining this whenever I come across the term being used
  8. The other danger of using the term is appearing to be different to other sufferers. Well, those of us who have been around a while know that deep down the disorder works in a similar way whatever the theme in which it is expressed - frankly we can obsess and compulse about literally anything, as these forums show.
  9. Big hugs and support from me to all my forum friends who are struggling at the moment. 

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    2. taurean


      That's good :)


    3. daja


      thanks Roy

    4. lostinme


      Thanks Roy, sounds like you and snow ❄️ are doing good well done to both of you :)

  10. Yep. You can't beat OCD if you are carrying out compulsions - they all need to be exposed and dealt with.
  11. And, for me, there is a simple answer - not! OCD obsessive thoughts produce compulsions, whether these are overt, or covert. Where no obvious compulsions are visible, then examining the sufferers thinking processes will usually reveal mental compulsions such as re-assurance-seeking, researching, ruminating. So, for me, the term is a non sequitur and I would like to see it phased out.
  12. For me, the way forward is always to find out what you are thinking and why, then make the changes necessary to work towards recovery. Knowledge is power. This link will help you to understand the basics of the cognitive side of therapy and eager to find out more - check out the self-help books in the shop on the main OCD-UK website. http://www.ocdforums.org/index.php?/topic/75379-dont-ignore-the-cognitive-side/
  13. More or less got a "day off" today ( notwithstanding being retired!) so an opportunity to go out and about in the neighbourhood and just relax 

    1. taurean


      It's been great! Used my Probus London app to check the bus times,  and took a bus t to a favourite place for a baguette glass of wine and a coffee. 

      Bought a new folding purse to use at the health club (old one's fallen apart)  then used the Probus app to find a bus route and time to take me to another favourite location for coffee and a cake :coffee:

      Then the bus app to get me to Tesco, then home. 

      Now chilling out listening to music 



    2. lostinme


      Sounds like your doing well Roy well done :yes:

  14. I don't think it's generally accepted to be a good idea to write intrusions down, build up a log of them, other than for the purpose of therapy - a therapist will often ask the patient to keep a log for a while so that he or she can identify their type of disorder. When I was really struggling, my therapist suggested I wrote down the thoughts as a kind of release mechanism and also exposure mechanism. I found this helpful and then quickly shredded the log afterwards - shredding it was a good feeling anyway. But as you say there are risks that others may find the record. You could do this exercise in a password protected document in your computer or mobile, if you genuinely feel - as I did - that it will help. But as I said, in general it is deemed best not to do this, but to use an approach of noting the intrusion, seeing it for OCD, then - other than during a specific exposure and response prevention exercise - gently but wilfully refocusing away.
  15. Many people have this kind of problem, which is I think tied up with the fear of rejection. Plus the feeling that the other person might feel negative about us (the cognitive distortion of "mind-reading"). I had that fear of rejection.In my early 20s I was working in an all-male environment with little opportunity to meet girls. I broadened my horizons, got to meet some and built up the courage to ask some out - telling myself that if they weren't interested, then "there were plenty more fish in the sea". I went out with a number of nice girls until one was the right one. So it's a question of ignoring any adverse feelings and taking the usual OCD method of "maybe, maybe not" about detrimental intrusions. Maybe she will want to go out with me, maybe she won't - and not being afraid to ask. Do however be sensible and check her ring finger, and observe to see if she may already have a romantic involvement! No need to rush in without a little groundwork, and improve the odds