legalseagull

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  1. What do you mean when you say he can become violent? Has he ever hurt you? I know the nightmare of living with ocd , I've had it for 30 years. It's no excuse for violence.
  2. I kept my OCD secret for 23 years, then I finally told my doctor and got help. Only my partner knows and we very rarely talk about it. Actually my parents know as well because it started when I was 11, but we never talk about it. They always told me I was stupid for behaving the way I did, which is probably why I'm so embarrassed about having OCD.
  3. Paulie I hope you manage to get more sessions. It would be a shame for therapy to end just when it's starting to help. Heidi I'm sorry you had to wait so long, that's unacceptable. In my area we seem to be able to see a therapist pretty quickly. This is probably because they're keeping waiting lists down by only offering a few sessions and very short appointments.
  4. Yes you're both right, it is outrageous. I'd accepted it as normal. The whole therapy was a joke from start to finish. My OCD is based on my phobia of vomit. When I had the assessment they asked me which thing I wanted treated - my vomit phobia or OCD. I explained that it's all the same thing and can't be separated. All my intrusive thoughts, avoidance and compulsions are about my fear of sickness. It would be like saying to someone who has harm based OCD 'do you want us to treat your fear of harming someone or your OCD'? It's all part of the same thing! They refused to treat it as one thing and so I reluctantly chose my vomit phobia to be focused on, as it's the root of my OCD. They agreed that this made sense. I had one 15-20 minute session talking about my vomit phobia, I wasn't allowed to mention OCD.The next time the therapist just started talking about OCD. I was happy thinking that she'd realised it was ridiculous to treat it as two separate problems. Then I mentioned the vomit fear and she said 'Oh we're not dealing with that anymore, it's too difficult. We'll deal with the OCD and you can come back in 3 months.' End of session. That left me with 3 sessions (15-20 minutes) to tackle OCD. I wasn't allowed to mention my fear of vomit, which is what the OCD is based on. Anyone reading this (long) story - imagine trying to overcome your OCD without talking about the thoughts and fears which it's based on! Unsurprisingly the therapy didn't help. Ashley, I'll email you with the details of where this happened. I don't like to give too specific personal info out on the forum.
  5. This is useful info thanks. In my area we really only get 5 treatment sessions as the first one is an assessment. My appointments lasted 15-20 minutes (despite being told that I needed a lot more help than they could give me). I've since spoken to other people who also only got 15 - 20 minute sessions. At the end I was told, like you said, to refer myself back after 3 months.
  6. Yeah like people have said, it really helps if I keep busy. Sport helps me. It's too dangerous for me to let ocd thoughts in when I'm kickboxing or playing netball as I don't want a ball/fist or foot in my face! Also I try to say to myself 'is this thought useful? Is it making me happy?' The answer is always 'no' if it's ocd. Then I can (try to) let it go.
  7. Whatever self help book you get, make sure you do the book rather than just read it . There should be exercises and actions for you to carry out.
  8. Yeah definitely don't give up exercise, just take it a bit easier to start with then gradually increase it. As others have said it might be worth checking with your doctor if you're feeling really awful after exercise. I suspect you're just going in a bit too enthusiastically.
  9. Yeah just want to agree with pb. It would be silly to stop therapy , wait till you feel worse and then go back. Doesn't make sense
  10. Just wanted to be clear. Since Polarbear said 'him touching you whenever he wants is not sexual assault'. I was clarifying matters. I then went on to give advice relating to the OCD as I'm aware it's an OCD issue, not a sexual assault issue.
  11. Ok, to be clear - if you don't want your boyfriend to touch you and you tell him to stop and he carries on, then that is a sexual assault. You're worried that OCD is making you think you've been sexually assaulted. The answer isn't to avoid all touching and it also isn't to let your boyfriend touch you whenever he wants. He can touch you when you want to be touched. You'll know in the moment how you really feel. The problem is that you keep going over past events in your mind. Ruminating never solved anything. Treat it like any OCD - don't push the thought away and don't analyse it either. Just recognise it as OCD and let it wash into your mind and wash out again. Pretend you're not bothered by your thoughts and over time they will lose their grip on you.
  12. Yep I'm sure there's some great NHS therapists out there. I'd never want to put anyone off getting help.
  13. Anyone can directly contact a private therapist for any issue. You don't need an official diagnosis of anything. It's getting a good quality therapist that's the problem. I've had awful NHS therapists but can't afford to go private. I agree with Ashley - why not aim for a cure?! Every therapist I've seen has said I should aim for managing OCD not curing it, but that seems pretty defeatist to me. Go for cure every time!
  14. This is an interesting question, but it's not always helpful to try to neatly categorize everything. There can be a definite overlap. For me, my obsession is a phobia. My OCD is mostly based on my extreme phobia of vomiting. Yeah I have to agree that a phobia can be extremely, life-ruiningly debilitating.
  15. BelAnna, it's so hard when an animal dies. I'm sorry to hear about your cat. Just keep an eye on Sophie and if she needs a vet then take her. It can be hard to know if it's necessary or if it's OCD making us overreact. If you're not sure you could get a second opinion from somebody else who loves your dog, a family member perhaps. I know joining things is difficult with social anxiety, but it's an issue that needs to be tackled. Treat it in the same way as OCD - think small steps. I'm having a bit of a set-back at the moment with my OCD/emet, thanks for asking. Yes it is a horrible thing to deal with and this is the worst time of year. It's causing me a lot of anxiety. Weirdly though I feel quite optimistic that I can beat it and make my life more exciting this year. I guess after 30 years of OCD I'm just bored of it.