PolarBear

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  1. I understand Ashley is busy and that this is not an urgent issue. Nevertheless, this forum exists for the purpose of pointing out issues. I've pointed it out. What gets done about it, if anything, is up to others.
  2. I don't know about wanting to scare yourself but Googling such things is a compulsion. It's a type of reassurance seeking. You can either be seeking reassurance that your fear is unfounded or that it is founded.
  3. Look, I can sort of understand you screwing with the TV settings for five minutes, sitting with the anxiety, then switching back to normal and getting on with your day. I can see that. But what you've been talking about is screwing up the settings even when it's not a problem and 'habituating' to it, as if you're supposed to ultimately sit there and watch your TV forever with the wrong settings. That's just not right and would serve no purpose. However, all that said, your current theme has nothing to do with TV settings and you shouldn't be worrying about them. You should be concentrating on what's in front of you.
  4. Taurean, if you sign out, can you still see the forums OCD in the Media and Support Groups? Because I can't. They disappear from the screen. I can see the OCD support forums and I can see the OCD-UK Member forums, but I can't see the others. It doesn't make sense to me that you would entice a guest with the OCD-UK Member forums and not the others.
  5. Hanging on to the tickets is a sort of compulsion. Once you checked a ticket you can safely throw it away. No sense hanging onto it.
  6. Well, if you sign out and look at the home page, you cannot see OCD in the media, Support Groups, etc, but you can see the Member Only forums such as Central Perk. Doesn't make sense. At least to me.
  7. Did anyone realize that the Forum Group OCD Revelent Discussion Forums, which includes the forums 'OCD in the Media' and 'Support Groups' is not visible unless you are signed in? Is that on purpose or did something get switched off accidentally? I can't imagine why a visitor to the website (a guest) wouldn't want to look at those forums. Then again, maybe I'm missing something.
  8. I feel like I'm getting dragged into a discussion that is bound to go nowhere. But I'll try, paragraph by paragraph. 1. It would count as resisting compulsions. No ERP necessary, no ERP done. 2. According to ERP you do NOT have to set your TV settings off normal or how you don't like them and sit with that anxiety. You are just wrong here. No one is going to be expected to screw up their TV settings and watch it until they habituate. No one. You get an intrusive thought that your TV settings are off, you resist doing compulsions. If anything you are exposing yourself to the possibility that your TV settings are off but you surely don't screw them up intentionally. 3. Yes, ERP is about sitting with the thought and doing nothing (no compulsions). You need not expose yourself to the actual settings being off. You only need to expose yourself to the possibility that they might be off, without doing any compulsions. OCD sufferers hate uncertainty, but it's something you have to get used to. 4. I can see where your confusion comes in but it's because you have a twisted view of what ERP is and how it should function. 5. No, you would be exposing yourself to the possibility that your TV settings are wrong. That's what your intrusive thought said, that your settings are wrong. Your compulsion would be to check and fix the settings. You don't do that. You live with the uncertainty. But NO ONE is expecting you to watch screwed up TV settings.
  9. First, it isn't called 'exposure therapy'. It is called ERP or Exposure and Response Prevention. It has two parts: Exposure and the Response Prevention. The Exposure part is where you expose yourself (make happen) what your obsessions are about. Basically, you expose yourself to that which you fear. The second part, response prevention, is all about not performing compulsions. So you expose yourself so you can practice not performing compulsions. You once used the example of someone being told to eat candy off a toilet seat. There's something missing there -- what compulsion were they to practice not doing? Washing their mouth out? Brushing their teeth? What? Because it is not enough to just expose one's self. You also have to practice preventing the response (compulsion). Examples of ERP include: 1. Someone who washes their hands (the compulsion) after touching a 'contaminated' item. The sufferer as exposure touches a contaminated item and then does NOT wash their hands, sitting with the anxiety until it reduces to a more comfortable level. 2. Someone who always does things in symmetry (example: if they touch a wall with their left hand they have to touch a wall with their right hand). The person purposefully touches a wall with their left hand (the exposure) and then does NOT touch a wall with their right hand (response prevention). You do NOT do exposures just for the sake of doing them or just because doing that thing would make you anxious. You choose your exposures carefully, based on what your OCD theme is.
  10. You are wrong. You keep coming back to ERP is supposed to be about habituating to what you don't want. That's crazy. By that logic, you should wipe your butt with your wrong hand all the time because that would make you anxious and you should habituate to wiping your butt with your wrong hand. Then you should start writing with your wrong hand so you can habituate to it and eat with your wrong hand and on and on. Where does it stop? I'm not going to talk about TV settings because that is not what you are dealing with right now. It doesn't matter if your theme changes in the future. We'll cross that bridge when you come to it. Yes, it is okay to sit there and think its okay to do your therapy incorrectly, because you are so concerned about doing it perfectly that you have lost focus. It doesn't mean you have to try and purposefully screw up your therapy. It just means it's okay to make mistakes. You can center yourself and start off again without damaging yourself or your chances of full recovery.
  11. You're definitely back to ruminating. Your recent post is proof of that. It's a written down rumination sequence. ERP is not a miserable form of therapy for the vast majority of people who do it. I can't say what has gone wrong with you, whether you had the weirdest therapist ever or you have just completely miscontrued what you were taught, but you have a completely odd, wrong sense of what ERP is. You're back to thinking about wrong settings on your TV when that isn't what your current theme is. Your current theme has nothing to do with TV settings so why in the world would you do ERP on that? It makes absolutely no sense. I don't know why you are stuck on this but you're thinking is wrong. Right now you should be focusing on not doing compulsions over your current theme, which has to do with perfectionism related to doing your therapy perfectly. Your biggest compulsion in that regard is ruminating. You know that. That is what you need to work on. It's not going to be easy. If and when the time comes for you to need to do ERP we can discuss it at that time, but not now. I'm not going to get drawn into a long debate with you again about ERP, because it simply doesn't matter right now.
  12. One comes with sexual intrusive thoughts; the other doesn't.
  13. Everything you wrote in the first paragraph above is ruminating. That's exactly what it is. It's you trying to figure things out, trying to find the answer, trying to find the solution to the problem. It's a compulsion and it's keeping you stuck. No amount of doing that is going to bring you the certainty you desire. It just won't. You'll just go round and round in your head endlessly. The way forward is to learn how to stop the ruminating. Be okay with not knowing the answer. Be okay with being uncertain.
  14. Probably. The point is you do have OCD, your disorder has latched onto that incident, blown it's importance all out of proportion and you make things worse by doing compulsions.
  15. A big part of CBT is learning to let go of compulsions. The reason this incident has stuck in your head is because you keep doing compulsions around it, notably ruminating. You can learn to cut that down and stop doing it. It takes a lot of work. Along with that is you have to let it go. You have to make a decision that you're no longer going to dwell on what happened and what could have happened, that you're going to let it go and let it be part of the past.