PolarBear

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  1. I don't think it's good or bad but might be pointless. What do you gain by doing so? The fact is, you have OCD now and your focus should be on learning how to recover from it and doing the hard work necessary.
  2. True enough. Feelings ebb and flow naturally. Your attuned to your feelings right now, which you shouldn't be. Feel what you feel and get on with your day. And watch those compulsions. No good will come from doing them.
  3. How much time did you spend trying to feel love, trying to figure out why you feel numb, analyzing what it means, judging how much you love him and on and on? There's your compulsions.
  4. You must be doing some sort of compulsion. I suspect you sit there and analyze your love, trying to figure out if it is as high as before. That would be a compulsion. You can control to some degree the feeling you get when you get an intrusive thought. You need not freak out every time you get one. When you do, think, "Oh well, maybe I don't love her as much" then continue on with your day without doing compulsions.
  5. That's wonderful, lost. Do you feel a sense of accomplishment when you tidy up a room?
  6. Look, if you go back and check, there is no guarantee that you won't ruminate over it anyway while you're on holiday. You've got to take a stand and say enough is enough. You also have to get your ruminating under control. It's a slow process but it can be done.
  7. I certainly didn't mean to hurt you, though sometimes the truth hurts. It sounds like you've made some really positive moves toward letting go and that's terrific. Remember that fixing the problem doesn't mean getting rid of everything. It's about balance. Even though we have decluttered drastically, we still have a box of our kids things tucked away in a closet. It's all good. The thing is, you just don't want your stuff to run your life. If it isn't, there isn't a problem.
  8. Were you doing well on your meds when you were taking them?
  9. What are you going to do if you pay for more tests and they come back showing that everything is okay? Are you going to finally let it go or are you going to do even more compulsions?
  10. Hoarders make up all sorts of justifications as to why they need to keep things. At the end of the day, they have too much stuff and their lives become consumed by the hoard. We went the opposite way and got rid of pretty much everything we didn't use. We spend no time searching and digging for something because everything has its place. It's freeing.
  11. Keep trying. Know what your compulsions are and work hard to slow them down and stop them.
  12. Repeating words like that is called palilalia I believe.
  13. The core problem is that you are giving meaning to the thoughts and engaging with them by doing compulsions. This is what you need to work on. Practice dismissing the thoughts as irrelevant. Realize that they are just thoughts and do not speak to who you are as a person.
  14. Leave it alone. It's all fake because it comes from OCD. You're not going to think your way to a resolution. All those bits that get added over time is directly due to you doing compulsions because of the thoughts. Refuse to get drawn into mind debates over this. Focus your mind away from the thoughts. Let them come and do nothing about them.
  15. It could be the meds. Stick it out for a couple of weeks but if the fatigue doesn't subside, go back to your doctor and ask to be put on a lower dose or to try a different SSRI.