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  1. Hi Paul I would agree with the other posters. We have all done wrong in our times, and you would be surprised about the secrets many hearts carry. I know, I have been in jobs in sexual health and counselling and have met people who have been on the Sex Offenders Register and turned over a new leaf, or who have all manner of pasts - criminal, anti-social, drugs and alcohol, whatever. As OceanDweller says - you're remorseful. If there is a God, then that's all it/he/she requires of us. I wish you every success and say you should enjoy the new opportunities this relationship brings with it. Everyone deserves to be happy. Tez
  2. Great thread, guys. Nice to see that our Chief Exec, Ashley, is bringing home the poo - literally speaking - with the dinosaur coprolites. A good way to keep ERP in mind.
  3. Ooh, gosh what a question. As someone who believes firmly in the principles of recovery, living well in spite of illness and disabled liberation, I have always filled in application forms accurately recording that I consider myself to be a disabled person, with a mental health condition. However, where the sickness monitoring comes in, I can also report that I have had very few days off due to my OCD in recent years. Disability Pride!
  4. Hello Chelsie I just wanted to say that I understand where you are coming from. At several points during my 30 year struggle with OCD, I have experienced anxiety which stays high for prolonged periods of time. What I think happens is that the thoughts just go round and round in your head, and the anxiety keeps getting "refreshed" rather than subsiding as the classical model of OCD suggests. However, if you can stick it out, the anxiety will eventually start to go down. When you are having therapy, the cognitive model might help you somewhat explore what is happening in your head. I have found the cognitive side of the therapy to be most helpful. All the best Tez
  5. Don't worry Seb. And don't avoid using pornography, as that will just strengthen the hand of the OCD. You have done nothing wrong - millions of people use porn every day online. Nay, probably billions. Sending you kind wishes, Tez
  6. Happy Tree Friends

    That's the spirit! Not always easy to follow our own advice, but I am so glad that you are feeling a bit better now.
  7. Happy Tree Friends

    Hang in there. You will get over it in time. As Ashley says, even people without OCD might experience flashbacks to unsettling ideas and images before they relinquish their power in the mind. I have seen "Happy Tree Friends". I have a friend with a quite vicious sense of humour who used to watch it. But as someone with a soft side, and a collection of soft toys etc, I also found it upsetting. It will go if you allow the thoughts into your mind and try not to react to them. Their power will wane and you will be able to move on and think of something else.
  8. Hi there. I can only speak from my personal experience, but I found that personally, medication was much better than meditation for getting my OCD under control. I had a psychologist who encouraged me to go to meditation sessions, which I did do at the local Buddhist Centre. They were very nice there, but the classes I went to did not help me. These were unguided mediations and the silence and unstructured nature of the sessions actually just made me ruminate more and more on my OCD symptoms. When I was put on olanzapine by the psychiatrist, that really helped calm me down, get my brain under control and has allowed me to live a much better quality of life these last seven years. All that said, I do have a CD produced by Bristol Buddhist Centre, which features a body scan meditation, where you lie on the floor with a pillow under your head and just follow the instructions to focus energy and attention on the different parts of your body. That I DO find of value. Hope that helps. As said, these are just my experiences. Tez
  9. Yes, a good press release. It's lazy and irresponsible journalism from the gutter press that perpetuates stereotypes about people living with mental illhealth.
  10. Superb issue. My copy dropped through the letter box on Friday and I found it very interesting. The most interesting feature for me was the well researched and thoughtful article on OCD preoccupations with sexuality, sometimes known informally as H-OCD. We really need to work to get therapists to untangle the various strands of identity and OCD accurately so that the most appropriate support can be given to people: at the moment, a lot of the people interviewed, including those who I respect such as Pink Therapy's Dominic Davis, seem to misdiagnose this subset of OCD as a crisis of sexuality, which is a totally different issue. Tez :original:
  11. Self Help Books?

    Hi All My experience of OCD books is quite odd: I have quite a few of them on my shelves, but when I was last very ill - some seven years ago, my psychiatrist told me to not use them as my OCD was too severe and that I needed to focus on the therapy the NHS was providing me with (as incomplete as I felt that to be at the time). I have never really followed the course of treatment outlined in any of the books that are commercially available, for this reason, and I agree with Ashley that sometimes a professional's input is the best thing for OCD - they can respond to the nuances of your particular obsessions and compulsions and give you moral support. That's just my opinion and experience though - others may have very different things to report on the self help book front. Best wishes Tez
  12. Hello Lotty and All I would like to tell you about my medication. Apols to people who have already read my previous posts on this subject as I do tend to repeat myself. I have seen several psychiatrists, and I have been pronounced as having "severe" OCD. However, I have never really had systematic CBT, cognitive therapy or any talking intervention, so I believe that diagnosis might be slightly premature. Truly treatment refractory OCD can only be diagnosed when several courses of CBT have been exhausted plus several medication regimens. And even then, there is still hope, as you can get brain surgery for really severe OCD, so there's always hope. ALWAYS. That's my mantra. I take 40 mg of citalopram and 10mg of olanzapine. It is of great help. I do still struggle, and that's why these forums are such a lifeline. But my moods are so much better than before, as is my ability to cope with obsessive symptoms. I am a firm believer in medication, but as Taurean says, it is better if it goes hand in hand with talking therapies. CBT primarily (although some other talking therapy can help people with difficult types of OCD). Does this help? Tez
  13. Hi Dandy. Yes, it's clearly a case of OCD. Anyone would tell you that, although I know that from where you are standing it is difficult to see "outside" the obsessive thoughts, so to speak. But I deal with many people of all sexualities and the bottom line is this: if you were attracted to girls, it would be pleasurable for you and you would want to pursue that. The fact that you do not, and the idea of it fills you with anxiety and dread, is proof that what you are experiencing is OCD, nothing more and nothing less. I know that we are not supposed to give reassurance in cases of OCD, as this can itself be incorporated in a new obsessional cycle, but you're just not gay. Simple as that. I hope this helps in some small way, but do keep using the OCD-UK forums. They are a friendly and considerate bunch and these forums are moderated 24/7, so you can always get a reply if you need one. Best wishes Tez :original:
  14. Anti-psychotic drugs

    Hi there. I am certainly no expert on teenage psychiatry, but I can tell you that I was a teen once with OCD. [strangely, OCD develops in boys earlier than girls according to most research and this is probably to do with the structure of the male and female brain]. I had full blown OCD symptoms when I was 17 going onward. I think I would definitely have taken olanzapine then if it had been offered to me. As I understand it, olanzapine and other atypical anti-psychotics are used "offlicense" for OCD. This means that their approval by the (USA) F.D.A. (Food and Drugs Administration) is for schizophrenia and hearing voices, but researchers have found that at lower doses, these drugs also stabilise mood and increase rational thinking, taking away some of the worst obsessionality. In terms of sleeping tablets, yes, there is that question, but sleeping pills can bring with them their own set of problems and side effects. Certainly, your daughter will be able to sleep well with an anti-psychotic. You might find that she is a little drowsy, at least whilst getting used to the drugs. I have occasional what I called "Olanzapine moments" (a term I nicked off a friend with HIV who used to have "efaverenz moments" when he was spaced by one of his meds). This means that I get drowsy at work occasionally, and have been known to nod off in meetings!! I usually find that an energy drink and strong coffee counteracts this. I do not know what classes of drugs are licensed for use in people under the age of 16, but there is growing awareness of OCD in children - again, as I say, boys tend to develop symptoms earlier than girls. If in doubt, try the OCD UK switchboard (details on the charity's website), and they may refer you to the charity "Young Minds" (for adolescent mental health) or Sane Line. Keep the faith. OCD is a ****** illness, but it can and does respond to treatment, therapy and long term support. Tez :original:
  15. Anti-psychotic drugs

    Yes, I would also say that it is important to hold hope for the person you are supporting with OCD. Sometimes our own hope goes down the plughole, particularly when we are stressed or in the midst of an OCD type thinking period. It is especially important when someone has a "belief" in the context of their OCD thoughts - something the experts call "Overvalued Ideation". As other posters have said, persevere: it is worth it. Indeed, not pursuing treatment and therapy is not really an option, as OCD will probably become progressively worse until it takes over the whole of the family's life. But, with treatment and (sometimes) medication, people do improve. There is a lot that can be done, and a lot of exciting research into areas like deep brain stimulation and other treatments. For those of us with OCD, these are always hopeful days, that there is a lot of stuff happening on the research front. So, keep fighting for good treatment, and share experiences with other people affected by OCD: that's my advice. Have a good weekend. Tez :original: