My boyfriend has been struggling with OCD for a few years now. He is already on anti depressants and has made appointments to talk to a counsellor but always ends up not going to the appointments.
I am having a hard time because he makes me do his rituals for him and doesn't see why that is a problem. If I don't do the rituals he turns into a child throwing a tantrum and can even get violent. If I ever don't want to do the rituals for him he turns it around on me calling me selfish and how I only think about myself. Meanwhile I have put my life on hold these past few years for him due to his various other health reasons.
I hate doing these rituals for him. Last night for example I had to wait up for him to be ready to "check the door". I had to be up early and I work 10 hours a day but I still had to stay up later to do this one silly ritual. If I had went to bed without doing this for him he would either come wake me up later and be very very mad or he would be freaking out and crying all night.
Like I said before, whenever I try to talk to him about this he gets mad and just tells me I am a selfish person for not doing his OCD. I don't even spend much time with him anymore because all he talks about with me is OCD.
How do I explain to him it is not healthy for our relationship to expect me to keep doing this? I am about ready to leave this relationship over this. Any advice at all would be much appreciated, thank you.
