How can you get forgiveness

[bruces]

Over the years I've ruined my own and other people's lives how can you achieve forgiveness for that 

[OceanDweller]

2 minutes ago, bruces said:

ruined

That’s quite a statement bruces. How so?

[bruces]

Let all my family down and upset them 

[bruces]

I don't know if this is my depression talking but ive suddenly realised I have nothing left to live for 

[Binxy]

Sounds like depression talking to me Bruces.  So you feel like you've let your family down- I'm sure this is being amplified in your head because you are depressed and spend a lot of time ruminating about it.  There is a way forward Bruces, you've been told that you need to start tackling this with CBT  etc. Surely your family will be proud if you fight your way back?  There is always something more you can do.  What are you afraid of?

Be careful Bruces- the mods probably won't let this become another thread where you beat yourself up.

Edited January 18, 2018 by Binxy
Terrible typing skills...

[Ashley]

You can't change the past, but we can change the future.  So if you want to make it up to your family, improve your life and thus improving theirs Bruces.  

[bruces]

That's the problem Ashley not being able to change the past,people say the past doesn't matter but in some ways I disagree,I think the past defines you. 

[Binxy]

Everyone has a history Bruces. Everyone has done things that they're not proud of.  It's part of being alive- we're only human.  The past only defines you if you let it- you have to start looking forwards.

[bruces]

2 minutes ago, Binxy said:

Everyone has a history Bruces. Everyone has done things that they're not proud of.  It's part of being alive- we're only human.  The past only defines you if you let it- you have to start looking forwards.

But what if there is no forwards?

[Binxy]

There is always a way forwards Bruces- this is your depression talking again. If you don't like where you are- do something about it.  It has to start from you I'm afraid

[bruces]

I know it's all down to me but I am also aware that some things can't be fixed 

[Binxy]

Some things also don't need to be fixed. It's what you do next that's important.  Leave the past behind.

[bruces]

I wish life didn't have time limits on it 

[Binxy]

Surely the fact that it doesn't should be a motivator to get this sorted?  How much more time are you willing to spend like this?

[JennieWren]

I mean this kindly, but the thing is Bruces, the way you use this forum means no one can actually help you. You write one sentence each time, and they are pretty vague with no specifics. There is not much dialogue or conversation from your side. Just statements.

so my question is what can this forum offer you? What would you like from us?

And what voice do you want to have, i.e. Would you be prefer to be giving advice to others if you feel uncomfortable opening up about your own life and feelings?