If it's not one thing... it's another.

[IncesstantThoughts89]

Hi All

I am not sure if many of you read my topic a while back. About a year ago I had thrush, then I forgot to get it treated as I was so busy with other things. I then met a guy and we did things. I keep worrying now that he may of caught it, as he was pushing into me trying to have sex a couple of times but stopped when I said no. Now I rang the taxi rank and they obviously couldn't tell me any records of my past use (I thought this might find where he lives so I could tell him) that made me feel better for like a second, then I kept thinking maybe I could talk to the guy who took us, maybe he will remember (as I have the certain taxi driver that took us on facebook.) I am just so unsure still whether or not I should try and find this person, I keep thinking that I should at least tell him the risk etc if it keeps getting passed on and passed on it's my fault. I don't even know if I had thrush at the time as the symptoms just went away. However I know people sometimes don't get symptoms. To top it all off I read that sometimes thrush can spread to the organs if you have a weakened immune system and you would have to go into Intensive care, what if that happens and it could of been prevented by me just saying something. Sorry for reposting the same topic it's just I am so unsure what to do.

[Steven_in_the_clouds]

I understand the need to check that everything is okay. We all get this and I'm struggling myself at the moment. However, you are allowing an obsession to take over. Don't call the taxi rank again and try to distract yourself. The man is going to be fine. But reassuring you of that won't help you. It just fuels the fire. You need to accept the uncertainty and move on. It is firstly likely he didn't get it. Even if he did, he would show symptoms. Of course, as with anything, there is a billion to one risk that he won't show symptoms and it will spread, but it is ultra tiny. You need to live with this and move on. If I were that man, I'd rather you didn't contact me about this. You are obsessing and asking for reassurance. X

[PolarBear]

You are being hyperresponsible, which means being more responsible than you need to be.

You are carrying out compulsions such as ruminating over the situation, calling the taxi company, reassurance seeking, etc.

Compulsions do nothing but keep the obsession top of mind. They are the wrong thing to do.

Do nothing and ride out the anxiety. That's the best course of action.

[IncesstantThoughts89]

Thanks Steven, thanks Polar Bear it's just horrible, just worrying, thinking I may be responsible for putting someone in the hospital etc.

[Steven_in_the_clouds]

All ocd thoughts are horrible. That's why we get stuck trying to get rid of them with compulsions! Stay strong!

[IncesstantThoughts89]

I will thanks Steven!