This makes me feel dirty

[joanne123]

My biggest worry is poo I have been doing ok the last few days but when I go to the loo no matter how much I wipe and use wipes sometimes it won`t go and is still there next time I go is it just me and am I dirty thank you

[PolarBear]

I'm not going to answer your question as you are reassurance seeking. You'll have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and sit through the doubt. Keep trying to refocus onto doing other things so you're not thinking about this all the time. Keep going.

[joanne123]

Ok thanks but I just feel so dirty cos of it and really not sure if it is just me and if it will make me or my kids dirtyI will try to ignore The thoughts but it is just the uncertainty though

[PolarBear]

I know. Uncertainty is terrible. Sit through it and don't ruminate over the subject matter. It will start to bother you less.

[joanne123]

Ok thanks

[Guest Sylfop]

My biggest worry is poo I have been doing ok the last few days but when I go to the loo no matter how much I wipe and use wipes sometimes it won`t go and is still there next time I go is it just me and am I dirty thank you

Wipe until there is very little there, take one more wipe but don't check the paper, just finish at that. Don't then go back and check by wiping again. Nobody is 100% clean, if you push too far up you will get poo, as long as your underwear is clean your doing fine.

[PolarBear]

We don't need to go down the road of offering reassurance here. It won't help. It might make joanne feel okay temporarily but soon the doubt will resurface and she'll back to asking for more reassurance.

[joanne123]

But it is on my pad sometimes which I always wear them I know I should not ask for reassurance but am I the only one it is still there with when wiping really well

[joanne123]

Does anyone else have poo on undergarments after wiping well when they go back it is making me feel bad

[joanne123]

Anyone please is it just me

[joanne123]

it is making me feel very poorly with my ocd can anyone relate to this

[joanne123]

I don`t want reassurance just to know if this happens to anyone else I have been coping with it not sure cos of my ms I leak but is it normal to have poo come back and be there when wiped well

[joanne123]

Anyone please :original:

[Guest Sylfop]

Try using freshu on your wet wipes. If you have exercised and have sweated a lot it is normal to get skid marks on under garments. Have you been to the gp to rule out anything medical?

[joanne123]

I always have it come back though it may be due to my ms I am not sure thanks it just makes me feel dirty

[PolarBear]

You are asking for reassurance joanne. We've been down this road many times. You need to let the anxiety happen and refocus your attention onto something else.

[joanne123]

I just wanted to know if it happened to anyone else reassurance is if it is ok that it happens isn't it it I am not sure thanks

[Caramoole]

I just wanted to know if it happened to anyone else reassurance is if it is ok that it happens isn't it it I am not sure thanks

They're all variations on a theme Joanne, and they are compulsive questions.

If we said......."Yes, everyone gets soiled underwear" (which they do and is why people wear underwear) it won't pacify your worry, which is that you obsess about poo and contamination.

Tomorrow there'll be a related/similar question. What's more important is accepting the OCD and working out your own plan for dealing with the uncertainty when it arises.

[joanne123]

Ok thank you

[joanne123]

When I went for a poo which is my main worry my hand touched my bum a couple of times when wiping then I had to carry on wiping so I think or know I have spread the poo as I touched my bum all over my bum and I feel like I need a bath which I have resisted so far

[Phili]

Keep resisting *hugs*

[joanne123]

Thanks I cannot stop crying I feel so dirty cos my hand touched my bum while wiping then had to carry on wiping I am in bits I can`t focus on anything else please help me I am so scared

[Caramoole]

This is the same scenario as every day Joanne. Nothing is different.

You have to keep resisting the bath but also try and resist the other compulsions like heading here to write it down. I know it's very tempting but it's almost as important to resist/delay those sorts of compulsions as well and learn to try and recognise for yourself that this is just another OCD thought.

[joanne123]

Please help me someone I can`t cope anymore I am at the end of it I have no fight left in me I am terrified

[Handy]

Yes, everyone gets soiled underwear, that is why we wear it, otherwise our main clothing would get stains J.

Its common sense but poo gets sticky if you eat a certain way. Eat lots of fiber. It gets sticky & that is why there are stains. If one eats balanced, it wont be sticky, just fly out & no paper is even needed sometimes.

Using common sense in the bathroom is not the same as being ocd about it. What Im saying is that if one follows rules for proper cleaning then these ocd things wont be as much of a concern. Its also normal to take a bath once or twice a day, but not ten times a day.

Did you ever give some thought to what I suggested in teaching yourself to poo before your regular bath?

Edited May 28, 2015 by Handy