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or am I just switching obsessions/compuls?

When in shower, if I feel I may hv done smthg bad 2 my skin, I say I cant do smthg 2morrow and it causes havoc with disruption and stress.. If I concentrate b4 shower and focus on fact I am not doin bad things and also don't over wash, I can avoid the above..

So should I work on not feeling ive done smthg bad so that I don't have to face consequences or should I start to do the things I I want to even if I have the feeling I have done smthg bad , or have over rubbed/harmed my skin? feedback most needed plse, BL

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I did ok yesterday and went out in the evening with a friend and was really looking forward to a gig. Then I made a mistake and went up to a street cleaner to ask the way and now I feel dirty and have made everything at home dirty. I cannot clean everything. I woke up shaking this morning , and I had been doing so well this week, after my boyfriend dumped me. If the street cleaner had come near me I would have coped , but the fact that I chose to go near him and ask him the way because my friend suggested he'd be a good person to ask, makes me hate myself 4 taking the chance as I knew I didn't want to approach him voluntarily.

please help , I am in such mess today, and i was really trying to push forward.Also , i feel humiliated, cos i told my friend , i couldn't keep in in, about the street cleaner making me dirty. BL Now i have 2 try to carry on jtoday pushing forward with things i find hard even without this new set of probs, and i cant type more cos of my back hurting me and i have to go to supermarket etc which i find difficult - buying stuff. want 2 ring my friend 2.

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Guest lizinlondon

Don't clean anything. This uncomfortable feeling is OCD. Do not listen to the thoughts that you are dirty and do not clean anything in response to these thoughts. Get on with your day.

It might be the stress of your breakup that is making your OCD more unbearable. You need to be kind to yourself more than ever right now. Write a list of all the good things about you and your life - you have friends, you can go to gigs!

Do at least one thing a day to treat yourself, with something you enjoy that is relaxing.

This will improve your self- esteem and reduce anxiety.

If it helps I have had OCD thoughts like this one. It is distressing but is not real.

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Thanks liz. I have tried but I am in a terrible mess right now. Have cancelled a stretch class this morning and all that went with it. everything feels dirty. I thought I would do a tiny token clean of my bed to try to put an end to it, but that went wrong. I have 2 severely restrict what I do including typing 'cos of bad back so that is a huge pressure.

There are things I need/want to buy/do today that I feel sick about cos I am fighting aagainst 'not being allowed to'. I was doing well 2 days ago and it is so important 4 my life to continue with progress. Also I feel bad cos I let my friend know more than I perhaps should.

Please anyone out there incl mods please advise - push and risk carnage or wait which is also unbearable - help please

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You have no choice really. You have to carry on. Maybe you did get dirty from the street cleaner. Oh well. Carry on. Your anxiety might go sky high but it won't hurt you. It feels awful but it does go away on its own.

Thanks for reply PolarBear.

I finished off the token clean of my bed satisfactorily. I had to , because of other progress I wanted to continue. it was a compromise. I bought something I needed yesterday and after I finished doing the bed later felt I had turned a corner and could pick up again.

Then in bed at night I just relaxed but felt I was in danger and was doing jsomething wrong by indulging myself and consequently had the thought that I couldn't do stuff today and I felt so fed up and tired with it all that I just went to sleep with the wrong thoughts and woke up shaky again today.

Now today I couldn't get up, wasted half the day, I am stopping things again and am very angry with myself cos after 2 days of hell , I turned a corner but didn't take advantage of it and now I just hate myself and feel I have been lazy. I felt I worked hard at it yesterday, and another bout of stupidity has made things worse again. thanx 4 reading, BL

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Thanks for reply PolarBear.

I finished off the token clean of my bed satisfactorily. I had to , because of other progress I wanted to continue. it was a compromise. I bought something I needed yesterday and after I finished doing the bed later felt I had turned a corner and could pick up again.

Then in bed at night I just relaxed but felt I was in danger and was doing jsomething wrong by indulging myself and consequently had the thought that I couldn't do stuff today and I felt so fed up and tired with it all that I just went to sleep with the wrong thoughts and woke up shaky again today.

Now today I couldn't get up, wasted half the day, I am stopping things again and am very angry with myself cos after 2 days of hell , I turned a corner but didn't take advantage of it and now I just hate myself and feel I have been lazy. I felt I worked hard at it yesterday, and another bout of stupidity has made things worse again. thanx 4 reading, BL

please help

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I think you are being far too hard on yourself. Try to.take time to relax and do something enjoyable. Forgive yourself for not getting everything done and have a rest. Try again tomorrow.

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I did ok yesterday and went out in the evening with a friend and was really looking forward to a gig. Then I made a mistake and went up to a street cleaner to ask the way and now I feel dirty and have made everything at home dirty. I cannot clean everything. I woke up shaking this morning , and I had been doing so well this week, after my boyfriend dumped me. If the street cleaner had come near me I would have coped , but the fact that I chose to go near him and ask him the way because my friend suggested he'd be a good person to ask, makes me hate myself 4 taking the chance as I knew I didn't want to approach him voluntarily.

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It seems like whenever I make a mistake, like in quote above, I have such low self esteem,and I can't handle it. I end up doing compulsions - physical and mental , to put it right, or 2 punish me. Sometimes I am not sure if I am doing an ocd compulsion or whther it is a normal thing to do and I am overthinking it such as w;hen I felt I got debris on my foot when cleaning a worktop in the kitchen.

Is this common? Its hell.bl

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