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That really seems to b the key. I have been listening to the thoughts and feelings and it only leads to trouble, wasted time etc. Its very hard to cancel it out and start again - which seems to be another big problem for me xx Its never engaging in the first place that's the important thing no matter what huh

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I wrote earlyer that I feel dead inside,i realize now its the fact that im not ruminateing as much therefore leaving a huge void,but if I use this correctly I can fill this void with more positive things

Im glad this has been bumped up as it realy is the key,its so hard but im trying different techniques at the moment

I give myself a ruminateing slot,i dont know if this is recommended but it has reduced my ruminateing by half,if I find myself pondering on a thought I say "ill think about it later and give myself an hour later to bring thoughts on then not by fighting it away I say ok thats it for tonight I may think about it tommorow

I also bring my concertration back to my breath,as the brain cant concerntrate on two things at once this works quite well whilst makeing sure it doesnt become a compulsion

I have another technique that I got from a red indian book,its very similar to mindfulness where I imagine im in a mental bubble and inside my head and I just observe thoughts

Anyone else have specific techniques they use to resist ruminateing?

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I wrote earlyer that I feel dead inside,i realize now its the fact that im not ruminateing as much therefore leaving a huge void,but if I use this correctly I can fill this void with more positive things

Im glad this has been bumped up as it realy is the key,its so hard but im trying different techniques at the moment

I give myself a ruminateing slot,i dont know if this is recommended but it has reduced my ruminateing by half,if I find myself pondering on a thought I say "ill think about it later and give myself an hour later to bring thoughts on then not by fighting it away I say ok thats it for tonight I may think about it tommorow

I also bring my concertration back to my breath,as the brain cant concerntrate on two things at once this works quite well whilst makeing sure it doesnt become a compulsion

I have another technique that I got from a red indian book,its very similar to mindfulness where I imagine im in a mental bubble and inside my head and I just observe thoughts

Anyone else have specific techniques they use to resist ruminateing?

Making an appointment with yourself for later is ok battlethrough, because you are opening up gaps between the compulsion to ruminate and any giving in, and looking to keep extending them.

The usual guide is to get extremely and beneficially busy on distractions. These can be posting or replying on this forum, working at a puzzle, writing a poem or story, gardening, cleaning your car, engaging with a guided meditation, reading a book, phoning someone up, doing a hobby like photography or astronomy, watching a film or TV, cooking a meal - platying with an app on the mobile, computer game, anything engaging.

There are some metaphors you can use e.g. looking down from a helicopter and viewing the scene form above, imagining you are a driver of a bus and the thoughts are your passengers - you tell them to calm down or you will throw them off the bus or something like that.

You can imagine your thoughts floating away sitting on leaves on a stream, or you can pretend you have a force field around you that the thoughts can't penetrate.

Another nice idea is to imagine a white light above your head. the white light enters your head and your brain, seeks out the intrusive thought and then leaves your head again taking the intrusive thought with it.

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Yeah I get the point,but skillfully lazy,i went to srilanka a few years back and spent some time with Buddhist monks,so many had serenity in their eyes,and

I I dont think they were lazy but some had masterd the middleway through mindfullness witch takes time and dedication to master not attaching yourself to thoughts,observing,not falling to down and not getting to carried away in the good times,but I definately know what you mean

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Yeah I just meant that I feel I do too much in reponse to a trigger, I go overboard. If I tell myself I don't need to do so much, then I will save alot of precious time.

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