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i'm a 32 years married woman who suffers a lot with ocd.I didn't no this name OCD is what im having for all these passing years untilli found it online..I wish if anyone see this post will help me to advice me how i can get help to cure this. My ocd started when i was a teenager.i was mentally and physically abused.it affected me a lot as i aa very sensitive person who has a kind and very helpful person.however i became a strong person by hiding all my sadnesd in my mind and all the people who hurt me understood that no one can put me down anymore. Then i married.hes a good person. But unfortunately i dont feel he loves me. I expected just his love and care. now we are married for 6 years but we havent settled yet. Now what i feel about my life is ' its almost i am 32.my good times are almost gone. There is no ways that i could get help for my mental issues.im just living for life as a hopless woman.'Thank you for reading my story.

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i'm a 32 years married woman who suffers a lot with ocd.I didn't no this name OCD is what im having for all these passing years untilli found it online..I wish if anyone see this post will help me to advice me how i can get help to cure this. My ocd started when i was a teenager.i was mentally and physically abused.it affected me a lot as i aa very sensitive person who has a kind and very helpful person.however i became a strong person by hiding all my sadnesd in my mind and all the people who hurt me understood that no one can put me down anymore. Then i married.hes a good person. But unfortunately i dont feel he loves me. I expected just his love and care. now we are married for 6 years but we havent settled yet. Now what i feel about my life is ' its almost i am 32.my good times are almost gone. There is no ways that i could get help for my mental issues.im just living for life as a hopless woman.'Thank you for reading my story.

Hello Dilee7,

I also went a long time not knowing I had OCD. I found out when I was 41. It's hard to accept all of those years not knowing.

Have you seen a doctor about the OCD yet? Have you heard of CBT? Here in Great Britain, the recommended treatment is CBT possibly combined with medication. I believe this applies elsewhere too so maybe this is the same there?

There are 2 books that people recommend a lot here: "Brain Lock" and "Break Free from OCD". I'm not sure if they have been translated into your mother tongue or if you are able to read them in English, but those are a good starting point to educate yourself about the nature of the disorder.

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage difficulties. I have not been married so I'd feel like a bit of a fraud advising about that. I hope it all resolves itself anyway.

And it sounds like a cliche maybe, but there's no reason your good times should almost be gone at that age, but I do know it can seem that way. Everything in this world seems so completely focussed on money and time and we become hyper-concious of what we have achieved at a certain age compared to the next guy, and then it becomes a fear thing. Very toxic stuff that stops us living our lives in the moment - and yes I suffer from all this too despite all the talk!

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Thank you so much for replying for my story.i wish i could get medication for this.i went to library last saturday and i found the book you have mentioned.but my main idea is to see a doctor and talk about my life sory face to face.

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dilee7, on 15 Jul 2014 - 6:14 PM, said:

Thank you so much for replying for my story.i wish i could get medication for this.i went to library last saturday and i found the book you have mentioned.but my main idea is to see a doctor and talk about my life sory face to face.

Well it's great that you actually want to do that. Some of us would run a mile before we do this!

It's a huge step recognising that you have a problem and wanting to get help for it you know.

So do you mind me asking where you are?

Just maybe other members here or moderators may know of a route to therapy in your country Dilee7.

It's a big "if" but who knows.

And given the nature of the abuse you suffered, it could be appropriate to get CBT for the OCD, and separate therapy to deal with the abuse. This is not based on my personal experience though, just what other sufferers have told me happened to them.

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Thank you so much for replying for my story.i wish i could get medication for this.i went to library last saturday and i found the book you have mentioned.but my main idea is to see a doctor and talk about my life sory face to face.

Hi dilee,

If you click on the main OCD-Uk website link at the top left of this page, then go to the tab - "How Can We Help You" you will find lots of advice, incluiding an "icebreaker" to use when you go to the doctor.

Welcome to our forum. i live in North East London.

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Thank you so so much for caring about my situation.ok, currntly i live in west london.im an asian woman.

Thank you

Ah - apologies Dilee7 - I didn't even consider that possibility. I just assumed that you were in another country as people from all over the world make posts here.

I don't want to pry into your personal ciurcumstances but if you are a british citizen then you should be entitled to CBT/medication under the NHS. Are you familiar with CBT(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)? It's the standard treatment for OCD.

Is your family aware of the problem or would you rather not tell them?

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Thanks a lot, what is that ice breaker forum.can u please explain that to me.

Hello dilee

Sorry, its an ice-breaker form. You can download it.

It's purpose is to help you overcome any nervous difficulties in explaining your OCD symptoms to the doctor.

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Hitaurean,

Thanks for replying me.just wanted to know about ice breaker again.do i have to get a printout of that and take to any gp.

Thanks

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Hitaurean,

Thanks for replying me.just wanted to know about ice breaker again.do i have to get a printout of that and take to any gp.

Thanks

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Hitaurean,

Thanks for replying me.just wanted to know about ice breaker again.do i have to get a printout of that and take to any gp.

Thanks

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Hi sisy thanks for replyng.I have ocd for 16 years with no treatments.my family dont no about it.

And would you prefer not to tell your husband/family? I know some cultures have difficulty acknowledging mental illnesses. Well they all do! But what I mean is that in some cultures it's a taboo. People avoid it.

So I'm assuming you're new to all this then:

The recommended treatment for OCD is a course of CBT, possibly combined with medication(SSRIs and maybe anti-psychotics too in some cases) . CBT is either one-to-one or in a group and in my experience is once a week, though I've been told it can be less frequent if tasks are set in between. The medication is recommended but ultimately is up to you whether you take. Some people choose not to and just do the CBT.

When you start CBT they will probably want to know a bit about you and your history of CBT before going into what it is and how to treat it. It is common for a thing called ERP(Exposure Response Prevention) to feature heavily in CBT. This is just a kind of trick to break the association of your obsessions/compulsions with the fear and anxiety they are founded on.

That's about all I can think of for now. But please ask if you have any questions.

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Hello Sisy,

My family don't no about my conditions.I don't like the way i behave when i get angry.My husband is not someone who could discuss about anything.That affecting me a lot.Sometimes he makes me so upset.So i am worrying about my life as a hopeless person.I do good things to him he never appreciates me. Sometimes I feel when I have a problem no one is there for me as I am always a compassionable person to who I cares a lot.I hope to tell a gp about my problem soon

Thanks

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Hitaurean,

Thanks for replying me.just wanted to know about ice breaker again.do i have to get a printout of that and take to any gp.

Thanks

No you don't have to print it off and take it with you. It's just that some people feel really awkward about explaining their OCD concerns to the doctor and the icebreaker is great for them to show the doctor - it "breaks the ice" to get a discussion going.

You can read it from the main website, and print it off if you need it..

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Hello Sisy,

My family don't no about my conditions.I don't like the way i behave when i get angry.My husband is not someone who could discuss about anything.That affecting me a lot.Sometimes he makes me so upset.So i am worrying about my life as a hopeless person.I do good things to him he never appreciates me. Sometimes I feel when I have a problem no one is there for me as I am always a compassionable person to who I cares a lot.I hope to tell a gp about my problem soon

Thanks

Hello Dilee7,

I'm sorry to hear about your problems with your husband. It's difficult to know what to say about that really. I mean if what you've said is an accurate reflection of reality then it sounds like your husband is completely unsupportive and I imagine that's a problem with everything, not just OCD. So you have 2 separate issues to address, although there are overlaps: OCD and your marriage problems.

Now there may even be people here who can advise you with the marriage aspect, but maybe it would be a good idea to find a specialist forum that deals with marriage difficulties instead as the advice they give may be better?

I see that Relate offer a free "Live chat" service:

http://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/talk-someone

And I'm sure there are other forums like this one where you can ask questions about that kind of thing.

If discussing your OCD with your husband and other family is not possible, then CBT is a good idea for you. Have you looked into it yet? Maybe book an appointment with your GP to discuss this. Then, if your GP is happy, you will see another person at your doctor, who will make a more thorough assessment before deciding what treatment is best for you(CBT, one to one, group, medication). You're not obliged to go through with it of course, but they will suggest what they think is best for you. For example, I was told to take medication but I decided not to.

If you think you might want to do CBT then I would advise you to book an appointment with your GP ASAP as there tends to be a waiting list like 2 to 6 months, which is unfortunate but it's just the way it is at the moment.

You will probably be able to discusss how your marriage impacts on your OCD during the CBT, though obviously the time is limited, but they seem to like to spend a session or two discussing your background/circumstances before discussing the actual therapy.

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HI Sisy,

Thank you so much for ur advices. I'm glad you have understood my situation that exactly what im going through. You're correct, i have two things one is my marriage life and the other thing is ocd.Thank you again for your long reply.I am going to have a seach about the link you have sent about marriage problem.thanks a lot again.

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HI Sisy,

Thank you so much for ur advices. I'm glad you have understood my situation that exactly what im going through. You're correct, i have two things one is my marriage life and the other thing is ocd.Thank you again for your long reply.I am going to have a seach about the link you have sent about marriage problem.thanks a lot again.

You're welcome Dliee7 - I hope they have some good advice for you about your marriage. And I hope you can summon the courage to book an appointment with your doctor soon :)
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Hi Sisy,

Thank you so much...The web site u sent me is really helpful.I hope i could get a goot answer for my life.

Thank again.!

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Hi Sisy,

Thank you so much...The web site u sent me is really helpful.I hope i could get a goot answer for my life.

Thank again.!

That's great !

Well hopefully it's a step in the right direction for you Dilee7.

I hope you can get the answer too :)

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