Guest Rugbylover123 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 i, I've been struggling with ocd over the past year but am new to this website. I was just wondering if I could get some help From the people on this who have suffered for a while? So many questions I have to ask as a counsellor can only really understand the tip of the iceberg. How does everyone relax? Calm down when OCD gets a grip on you? My obsessions are irrational but I still struggle to work out whether or not it is a genuine fear or if it is OCD talking? Does anyone else have this problem? P.s. I have checking OCD Thanks Rugbylover123 Link to comment
Guest Rugbylover123 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 For a a while now my intrusive thoughts have been about rugby and my fears around that. I've been working hard lately and have managed to be put in my county squad for the second trial, however I can't seem to get out of my head the thought that I'm not good enough for it, I'm finding this thought really distressing. I watched a team today who have players who didn't get to the second trial and I just kept on thinking: 'could I have done that? No' 'is he better than me? Yes' 'should he have had my place' Just need someone to talk to and counsellor isn't until tuesday Link to comment
Gemma7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Hi sorry to hear you are struggling. I have had ocd for 11 years and I know how you are feeling. Doubting if you are good enough is typical ocd. Just let other people be the judge of that and try to let your feelings about being good enough just be. I find something that makes me laugh is the best way to unwind or maybe play a game you like. Gemma x Link to comment
Purplepiper7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Hello there, and welcome. It's nice to meet you, although I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. I often have intrusive thoughts like this, except for me they are to do with academics, marching band, and clarinet performance. I think that some of it (for me at least) is normal anxiety, the OCD part starting when I begin associating it with things like morality and self worth, as well as others' success and/or failure. Not engaging with a thought is tough, but is really the way out (not that I'm all the way out yet, but I'm getting there ). Try to note that the thought is there, but let it float by you (kind of like a jellyfish; don't touch, it can sting you). Link to comment
PolarBear Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 The fact is, it's quite hard to relax when you're in the throws of OCD. The more severe it is the harder it is to calm down. I think what can help is education. Learn all you can about OCD. Figure out how it works. Understand what obsessions and compulsions are and how they work. Read other people's stories. Realize that you are not alone, that there are a whole lot people out there that feel exactly the way you do. Through educating yourself, I think you can begin to realize that it truly is a mental disorder that is behind your thoughts and feelings. It's not you; it's something beyond what makes up you. Then you can begin to go own with your life despite the OCD. Link to comment
Guest Rugbylover123 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Thanks everyone. I really like the jellyfish analogy! Even though I have suffered for about3 yrs now I have only just been diagnosed with OCD. It felt like such a relief when I was diagnosed, I think it's because people do take peace in being part of something greater than themselves and knowing that you're not an individual you're part of a much bigger collective community, getting by together. Finding this website is a blessing Link to comment
Guest lizinlondon Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Hi sorry to hear you are struggling. I have had ocd for 11 years and I know how you are feeling. Doubting if you are good enough is typical ocd. Just let other people be the judge of that and try to let your feelings about being good enough just be. I find something that makes me laugh is the best way to unwind or maybe play a game you like. Gemma x Hey Gemma Is doubting you are good enough a symptom of OCD? How does that work? Link to comment
Gemma7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Hi I think not trusting something and therefore doubting is symptomatic of ocd. For instance doubting if something is clean after you have cleaned it is doubting yourself. It isn't necessarily an obsession but I think it is part of the unhealthy thought process. Spending time obsessing over something is an unhealthy mind set. Gemma x Link to comment
Gemma7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Hi just to be clear I just meant doubt is typical ocd not necessarily doubting just that you are good enough. I just meant try to move on from it like you would all doubt. Gemma x Link to comment
Guest lizinlondon Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 I get it, thanks Link to comment
Purplepiper7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 So how exactly do you determine if your doubt is normal and justified, or if it's OCD? Or if your doubt is another problem altogether? Link to comment
Gemma7 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 I think you just have to go with if it feels like ocd then it probably is. Gemma x Link to comment
paradoxer Posted October 2, 2014 Share Posted October 2, 2014 I think you just have to go with if it feels like ocd then it probably is. Gemma x Yes, that's pretty much the measure of it. Link to comment
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