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Hi everyone! I haven't been on in awhile, I hope everyone's doing alright.

I feel like I always seem to post about relationships and it's always a new one, I wonder what that says about me lol.

I'm in a new(ish) relationship, been together a few months now and I really, really, really like him. He's amazing, he also has OCD, we talk about almost everything - almost. There are things I'm scared to talk about with anyone, but there are some things I'm scared to talk about with him because I'm scared I might trigger something in his OCD, that I might unearth something he's almost over or something like that. There are things I really want to talk about with him, I think talking about things is really important in relationships, but these are more personal things and I don't have anyone else I can talk to.

I'm not sure what to do because I want to tell him things, I just feel as though I can't..

Have any of you guys ever been in a relationship with someone else with OCD? How did it turn out??

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Hi

I was thinking about this as I walked to Tesco this morning ( I am in the cafe).

Having entered several threads about personal relationships I noted some members have partners with anxiety disorders including OCD - and I got the impression that its may be helpful.

In my case my wife does not have OCD but she's deaf and has "white coat hypertension" (fear of medics) and we help each other with our dsabilities.

I understand your caution about triggering his OCD but I hink you need as you move forward to agree how you might help each other with ERP. As I am sure you know, avoidance does not tackle OCD it more allows it to feed unchecked.

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Guest Stormwave

Hah, it looks like it.

In response to your question I really don't know sorry. The only thing I can say is that setting off somebody else's triggers is not inherently bad, even though it might seem it, so I would try not to worry about it and just be open. If it does trigger something, you can both work it out together properly, and it might never be a trigger again.

I don't know of that helps, but I wish you all the best.

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Maybe.

But it doesn't have to be OCD - there may not be enough availables in one's area anyway - but more others with say phobias - like my wife - or social anxiety - something where each party would be able to build a knowledge of - and cope with - the other's disorder- and help each other with therapy.

Whether such a project is viable, I wouldn't know - but it really could help people to find beneficial, understanding partners.

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Hi Strangely named.its quite normal not to be able to fully open up at this stage.maybe when u have been together longer u can discuss these things.just enjoy your new relationship and focus on the fun stuff too.x.

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Guest LauraMac

If I were you I'd bring it up. If you have to talk about it at some point you might as well now. No time like the present! Lol

Always wondered what it would be like to go out with someone with OCD. I'm sure the support is very good :)

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