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As previously discussed my brain is scanning for distress then seeking to link it with things or places.

As per my previous discussions I am not actively engaging with this but I am finding it very upsetting. Yesterday it was doing this all day and half the night.

I shall seek to find some activity again today. I will look out for any positives and look to switch focus to them.

Feeling pretty rough and worn out.

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Hi Roy,

I'm tired too this morning. Didn't sleep well and my worries are off the scale this morning. Good luck in finding something to distract from this. Hang in there, hopefully this current rough time will be over for us both soon.

Have a good day.

Binx

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Thanks Binxy,.

I've been busy all morning but couldn't shake off the negative automatic thinking and connecting.I've done the kitchen, been to the supermarket, got some money and dropped into my financial adviser.

However I have identified some positivity and will look to ease in on that. Any gradual easing in that direction will be encouraging.

Essentially I need to carry on seeing all the negative connections as unhelpful, just calmly return to thinking in the present and be open to happier issues - I think as its not me said on another of my threads, not reacting hopefully will weaken this scanning and connecting , and looking for positives may open up new lines of thinking.

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I think as Caramoole said on my other thread, the OCD has got control and i am having a real problem finding a way to gain some peace and calm and refocus.

I am sitting here white and almost shaky so n ot in a calm state at all.

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Essentially I need to carry on seeing all the negative connections as unhelpful, just calmly return to thinking in the present and be open to happier issues

:yes: That's what you need to do. And remember, whatever and whoever's intrusive thoughts all make a negative connection, that's how they have power.

I know it's exhausting but try and keep up with doing those normal things like you've done this morning.

Sending you some positive vibes :hug:

Caramoole

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Thanks folks.

A brief overview through Overcoming Obsessive thoughts confirmed this approach is of course correct. .Trying too hard to control thoughts is futile and gives them more power.

Considering the obsession (however nasty) to be benign is needed. Interesting insight from the book says this can be done by:

Deflating significance - taking a more balanced view

Exposure

Reducing stress because if depressed anxious stressed its more difficult to do this.

Well the exposure hasn't been greatly successful over the years, and I think will have to wait again for the moment but letting be and taking a balanced vieew that its just thoughts will definitelybe right, and looking at ways to reduce the stress and tension of the moment may help.

I've been sorting some nore paperwork this afternoon and liostening to music, with just a short nip into the book to see what it recommends.

I'll carry on leaving be and distracting .

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Well the good news is I have been busy all morning and although my thoughts have been all over the place I have just refocused back onto what I was doing and seen it through.But I am mentally and physically somewhat shattered..

The bad news was I didn't have a great night and I am struggling to find something I am comfortable with to read. I've re-read the paperbacks I keep and tried a couple of downloads from Kindle but didn't like them.

I was in effect worrying in the night and that is not helpful and usually I apply my rules on worry and can get back on track - but this really was more all over the place negative association alignments which I don't want happening but am just having to leave be.

It is frustrating - i have this feeling that if I can regain momentum and feel more like doing other things they might ease off.

I have stabilised on the 20mg Citalopram but it is difficult to guage its benefit. My wife says I am more amenable to helping her than I was at the beginning of the week and I am not getting the stomach troubles I was experiencing before although stools are smelly (from the stress chemicals I suppose).

Flashbacks limited this morning as i was active so that is good.

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It is frustrating - i have this feeling that if I can regain momentum and feel more like doing other things they might ease off.

You're in that sticky quagmire of middle ground Roy....this is that stage where you have to keep on and "Act as if" and keep doing those things to keep busy, all the normal things even though you don't perhaps feel like it.....it's at that stage that things ease off, you find a foothold and momentum returns.

Often that's when suddenly you find the cog "Clicks" back into place.

Keep on as you are, resist the fight and keep floating forward.....I suspect things might improve :)

Caramoole

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Thanks Caramoole.

I went for a long soak in the bath.

Normally I would take the shower radio in but just didn't fancy it today but took a magazine in and just oozed in the silky wamth of the water. And I am nice and clean now which is positive.

Another positive - A lamp fitting broke when we were changing the bulb. I went out bought a new fitting turned off the power and fitted it.

I never made the trip to the dump sheduled - but that can be carried forward.

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