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Relationship: I really like this girl but she thinks her OCD will get in the way.


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Apologizing in advance for the length.

So I'm a junior and I'm talking to this girl(We have both admitted we have feelings for each other). She is really amazing but her OCD makes her freak out about everything she does. She thinks everything she does makes her look like a freak because all the other guys she has been with broke up with her because of it. I tell her all the time I love all the little weird things she does but she never truly believes me. What is some things I can do to show her I care about her, and that her OCD is not a problem to me. I constantly reassure her that her OCD doesn't bother me.

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Guest eden1616

That is really nice that you care about her so much. Honestly I would find it hard to believe I guy wasn't bothered by my ocd but I think if you keep doing what you are doing and give her some time she might start to believe that you care about her.

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Guest Bozzie

Hi there,

Its great that you have decided that this girl's OCD doesn't matter to you. I think its a great idea that you continuously support her and let her know that it doesn't affect the way you see her. I wouldn't recommend supporting her rituals though- this would just be reinforcing habits that I'm sure she would love to be free of. Help her understand why she performs these rituals (as long as she is happy to tell you- don't push her) and then help her over time to accept it and find some coping strategies.

Good luck :original:

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I tell her all the time I love all the little weird things she does

Truth?????

Stop telling her you "love the little weird things she does"

There's nothing to love about them. They're not cute or quirky" To her they are agony, they're torture, they're devastating.

Learn about them, acquire knowledge....and then offer true support and acceptance, if that's what you feel about her

It's really great that you're open-minded and supportive despite her problems...but don't underestimate the real anxiety she's feeling....there's nothing to love about them.

Caramoole :(

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I agree with Caramoole, the little things she is doing won't be quirky or lovely to her, there fueled by anxiety.

You can read up on OCD here on the OCD UK website. There's plenty on info about what OCD is, the compulsions, various obsessions, etc....

The more you know, the better placed you are to offer support to her & understand what she is going through.

I hope everything works out well for you both :original:

This is a link to an OCD youth website, maybe you or your girl may find it helpful?

http://ocdyouth.org/

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