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Guess I came out as very unthankful ,stupid and troubled today..:(


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What should i do now? what should I say?

I feel so stupid, cause i got a gift today.. before i was awake.. and for the message it was something outside my door.. Witch most people would be happy about.. and of course i was kind of happy, but also wish she didn't.. cause i didn't ask for it.. and my ocd found it hard since it was put on the ground, and touched something for me contaminated. So i went out to ask some in my fan to help me what to do.. I was suppposed to be back very soon..

but it took some more time.. and my fan wanted me to eat there.. and i was like " no, it can't stay outside, its also some food.."

And after maybe few hours i was back home. And then i found a cat (not mine) had draged something out of the bag, and it didn't look good. I went inside to call my fam to help me how to get it inside, and also was about to send a message with thank you to the one who gave the gift, witch was very nice, even my ocd got problems. But when i logged on Facebook i got a angry, disappointed massage.. I dont know why.. But she said she drove past, and see i haven even taken the gift in! and a cat had dragged it out and she was disappointed.. bla bla.. and all she given me.. and !!! and !!!

And i stared cry and called my fam. and they should talk with her, cause i didn't know what tp write back.

And i feel so STUPID and sad.. how can i even look her in the eyes again.. She have to think I'm the most unthankful person in the world.. and that i was just lying saying i was struggling with money yesterday, since i didn't take the food. And I'm so upset and sad.. And I'm so stupid who really can't take in some gift, caused she touched something and it was put on the ground..

And i just want to lie in my bed under my bedsheets and feel like the worst person in the world.. and i can't even explain myself..

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Sorry messy post- To make it simple:

I got a gift- I couldn't even take it inside because of my ocd, a cat messed with the gift, the person who gave the gift drove back hours later and saw the gift still outside in a mess, she sent a angry disappointed facebookmessage, with lots of !!!- i didn't know what to answer, cried and called my fam. The gift is now returned by them to the one who gave it to me.. And i feel awful! Its not a good feeling ..

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Try not to beat yourself up about this too much. If you weren't ready to pick the gift up off the floor then you weren't ready. You should do exposures when you choose to not because you might get an angry facebook message. I think you would have been very grateful if you could have received the gift the way you could handle.

I have experienced this many times where I have turned gifts away and hurt someones feelings because it was too much for me but you have to not dwell on it and let the guilt get to you. If you didn't care you wouldn't be so upset :original:

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Thanks. Thats true, and i know i care, but i dont know if the one who gave it to me know how sorry i am.. But i didn't ask for it, and i wasn't ready for it. But still I feel bad.. I didn't even take it inside.. :/ it was left outside, and stayed there.. I dont know how to let it go.. But i have to like you said, stop and beat myself up.. But i dont like to feel unthankful.. i didn't mean to be rude..

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Guest nervous

Does your friend know you have OCD? I have been in a similar situation many times where some overly nice person trying to give me things and won't take no for an answer. Even with those that are aware of the condition they find it hard to truly understand the difficulty that this would cause someone with OCD.

How open are you with telling others about your OCD?

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You have to look at it from your friends' point of view too. She did something nice and it appears (on the surface) that the nice act wasn't accepted graciously. I can understand why you didn't bring the gift inside, although it would have been a great time to expose yourself and bring it in anyway. Now you need to mend fences with your friend. Now might be a good time to explain why you didn't bring the gift in. Take a risk. Maybe she will be more understanding than you think she will.

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I'm so sorry ailo you find yourself in this situation,i also like Gemma and nervous have been in a similar situation as you,except that i don't think that the people know that i wouldn't be able to use the things that were given,sometimes i have been brave enough to tell them,other times not,and they are still in the carrier bag they came in!

I think like PB says try and explain to your friend,or maybe your family could for you,but as Gemma has said try not to beat yourself up about it.

I hope you can get this resolved with your friend,and if she is a true friend she will understand xx

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