Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Hi friends I'm kinda in a strange place. Instead of giving a worry time, I'm not ruminating on it. However its still on my mind and I want it to go. The worry well of course fills me with fear. It was something from the past again. I want to label it as ocd and not care about it!! Link to comment
Guest jayjay89 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 You have to keep Working at it, keep not ruminating, it takes time but it's worth it. Good luck Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 You have to keep Working at it, keep not ruminating, it takes time but it's worth it. Good luck Its not so easy to let stuff go mate tho is it Link to comment
Guest jayjay89 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Nope, if it was easy, everyone would be better by now Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Nope, if it was easy, everyone would be better by now Stupid illness, I asked God the other day ' can't I just swap for something else!??' Link to comment
mummyoftwogirls Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Stupid illness, I asked God the other day ' can't I just swap for something else!??' I've also said this hehe Link to comment
Guest legend Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 do prayers have a part in not recovering in sense using lordship for help etc ?? not a dig a generalised question . Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 do prayers have a part in not recovering in sense using lordship for help etc ?? not a dig a generalised question . I think I feel my spirituality reminds me of who I really am. Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Legend how do I ultimately and completely let this go ? You did it! Link to comment
Guest legend Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 reassurance re spiriuatilty ? cbt nikki , rome wasnt built in a day Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 reassurance re spiriuatilty ? cbt nikki , rome wasnt built in a day No I think prayers just help me 've strong Why can't I let this worry go when I let others :/ Link to comment
Guest legend Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 we are falling into a trap of whys and whens nikki . one day at a time Link to comment
Caramoole Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 we are falling into a trap of whys and whens nikki . Yes, take care Nikki and don't let this creep back in again. Like we've said before this isn't going to resolve in days or even weeks. Link to comment
Guest Pure obsessional Laura Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Re the spirituality question a specific passage repetition became one of my rituals and is now a tell tale sign if a flare up if I start saying "The Lord is my shepherd" so my therapist said that in times of flare up I have to say "it's not me it's the OCD" instead. Religion can be a comfort but prayers can form OCD attachment in some people. It's something to be aware of I think Link to comment
machiato Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 do prayers have a part in not recovering in sense using lordship for help etc ?? not a dig a generalised question . Like everything OCD related, its not spirituality that is the problem but the use of it. Just as the use of CBT can also be a problem - depending on how you use it, e.g. if you use it for reassurance. Music is a great way to wind down, but what if you use it to drown out those fearful noises that petrify you that need exposing to? Asking God to rid you of OCD is for me not the way to go from an OCD perspective, however, its also not the way to go from my own religious perspective either. Others may disagree with everything I have just said! :lol: Link to comment
Guest legend Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Re the spirituality question a specific passage repetition became one of my rituals and is now a tell tale sign if a flare up if I start saying "The Lord is my shepherd" so my therapist said that in times of flare up I have to say "it's not me it's the OCD" instead. Religion can be a comfort but prayers can form OCD attachment in some people. It's something to be aware of I think Not repitivley though as it becomes another compulsion Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 I'm walking round like my old self but a nag in my brain says I've done bad, I'm bad. I don't like it!! I want it to go away and feel good. Is that so much to ask? X Link to comment
taurean Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 (edited) Remember patience and persistence Nikki, make them your companions. You will get there but it takes time! Remember you have to expect those thoughts, but not connect with them. just keep doing it. Edited November 22, 2014 by taurean Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Remember patience Nikki, you will get there but it takes time! Remember you have to expect those thoughts, but not connect with them. just keep doing it. And what then tho? I mean obviously something that happened is playing on my mind now. Link to comment
Guest legend Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 What advice would you offer Nikki? Link to comment
taurean Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 And what then tho? I mean obviously something that happened is playing on my mind now. Well you must of course carry on with the homework and practices set by your therapist, so make sure you are doing those. Aside from that, don't engage with it. That is what we have to do - not just you, all of us, when these thoughts come calling. I am engaged on a therapy process of exposure and otherwise detachment distraction and mindfulness myself, so I am doing this too. You need to refocus your attention away from it and onto something else, and keep doing that if the thought returns.Plan the rest of your day so as to give you meaningful enjoyable things to occupy yourself. Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 What advice would you offer Nikki? Oh Legend I know you would say treat it as ocd probably? My problem is I'm scared to leave it go if I'm guilty of something. Link to comment
Guest Nikki79 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 You know whats weird I used to accept oh 'it's ocd' before. Now I'm confused how to do that, understand that and implement it. I honestly could do with help on that. The thoughts/ actions thing confuses me too. How can they be the same? X Link to comment
Caramoole Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Anyone :no: Nope The doubts and reassurance are creeping back Nikki. This often happens, we see the therapist, feel geared up and ready to go but unrealistically expect it to stop or at least keep improving. When it doesn't we start to let the old behaviours creep back. Stay on track. Think back to your appointment and keep going the way you've done this week Link to comment
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