Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 (edited) Have you ever noticed that if you suffer from HOCD, POCD, incest obsessions, or any other sexually related obsession, that it sometimes focuses in on one specific person? Like, when I had incest obsessions - it focused specifically on my mom. The fact that it focuses on a specific person can be quite confusing, as for me, it begins to feel even more real. Has anyone experienced their sexual obsessions focusing on a specific person - making their obsession seem legitimate? Edited October 23, 2014 by HeadAboveWater Link to comment
Guest OCDQueen Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Hi Yes, it is normally someone you care so much about and it makes you feel sick thinking about it. Try not to focus on the fact that it is just one person. It doesn't matter what the thought is, or who it is about, it is the meaning you are giving to it that is causing the problem. It is OCD that's all. Just a thought Thought doesn't lead to action, intention leads to action. If the thought makes you feel sick and panic, then there is no intention x Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Well, my OCD has stuck on someone I don't even know that well. I have only seen them and I don't understand why all of my sexual obsession thoughts have turned into thoughts about this one person. Is it possible to get stuck on just anyone... or does it have to be someone you know and care about? Link to comment
Punk8888 Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Yeah it happens, but for me it's towards people that I don't like, which is weird. Like when I hate a person too much I start having these thoughts, I believe the reason behind this is too much focus on a person. Link to comment
Guest OCDQueen Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I would say this proves that it can be anyone. We all suffer with OCD, but we are all unique so no one will suffer in exactly the same way or have exactly the same thoughts. Try not to focus on the fact that it is one person, this really is irrelevant. The important thing is to recognise it as OCD, and learn to accept the thoughts without giving meaning to them. Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Thank you, guys! I think for me, I am starting to get over the basis of the sexual obsession but somehow I'm still having thoughts about this certain person and it is making me think it is real. I get groinal responses and weird feelings like I might genuinely like it... even though, I don't want to and I don't really think I do. It is so hard. I'm trying to let the thoughts be there and let them float by.... but I keep getting ''FEELINGS'' like I like this particular person and would enjoy sexual things with this particular person... it's so creepy. Link to comment
Guest OCDQueen Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 that is exactly what OCD does though, it makes you doubt everything you believe to be true. It's so scary and horrible and makes you feel like ****, but you can and will get better. It just takes time. This is similar to what I suffer with, I know 100% that I do not want to be with another girl, or even be sexual with another girl, but even though I know this, the OCD makes me start to think I do. It's crazy! But we have just got to persevere and remember it's not true. Just trust your gut instinct not your thoughts x Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Thanks, girl... My problem is that I've suffered with this same theme for like 8 months and I now feel like one day I know the thoughts are false and I am not sexually attracted to these people, but then other times, my gut instinct isn't there anymore. It's like I can't see my natural instincts anymore, everything is blended together and in one big mess of emotions, confusion and anxiety. Have you ever lost your gut instinct at times? Where you start to believe the thoughts? Link to comment
Guest OCDQueen Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Yes of course. I think we all have. I am far from being an ex-sufferer. About 3 days ago I was questioning everything, today I feel great. Recovery from OCD is a roller coaster of emotions and feelings and thoughts and confusion. Just try not to lose focus. It's very tiring so take time out and relax, it helps a lot. Also, taking up a hobby can help. I have started doing classes in cake decorating and focusing on that has helped a lot. Plus it boosts your confidence X Link to comment
Ascend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Why are you still asking these questions? Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I guess because I just wasnt sure if it normally sticks to one person. I thought if you have HOCD OR POCD it would be everyone that fits into the category. Mine was like that now it is sticking to one person. It feels real. And I feellike a creep. Link to comment
Ascend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 OK, well I can only advice you what's worked for me. It's up to you which path you take. Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I know you are, Ascend. I hope you aren't upset with me. I am just really lost with how things can feel so real and how I truly seem to be changing into what I don't want to be. I find that I am losing my normal attraction to men and gaining an attraction to these POCD thoughts. Also, I read an article on the subject and they said a teacher had been caught with images of his young students (porn) and I felt like I didn't care, like I wasn't sure if I thought he was creepy (like I always used to think of those types of people) or if I was agreeing with what he was into. UGH. I just want to know how that happens? Everyone keeps saying stop ruminating, etc, etc, but I try and then these feelings/thoughts make me think I am agreeing with them. Link to comment
Guest legend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 What advice would you offer headabw. If someone posted the same concerns Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I would tell them to stop reacting to every thought they are having. To not ruminate and check for attraction. To not seek reassurance and to live in the uncertainty. I just don't know all that there is about OCD and I sometimes really feel like my OCD is taking away my real attraction towards men and turning me into this other person - like sometimes I can't tell if I don't like the thoughts or not. Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Do you know what I mean? Link to comment
Guest Azamour Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 OCD will take away your attraction for the desired sex. I suffer from sexually related OCD and I haven't enjoyed masturbating for ages... as long as my OCD has been there. OCD has taken my sexual appetite which for me is a clear indicator that it is OCD!!! Link to comment
Guest legend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Yep very common which adds more fears and concerns to the already pathological doubting So having said that you then work at implementing the advice you suggested Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 But.... as it is normal to feel like I'm losing sexual interest in men. but can it make you feel like you are becoming sexually attracted to your thoughts and the people in your obsessive thoughts? Link to comment
Guest legend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 What would you suggest based off of to previous replays and advice ☺ Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 perhaps? can you answer yes or no, please...? Link to comment
Guest legend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 People already have , so I'm responding to the ocd, which is nt helpful Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 they said that you can lose your attraction to the opposite sex.... but i didn't read anywhere that you can start feeling like you are attracted to the sexual material in the obsessive thoughts or to the people in the thoughts.... Link to comment
Guest HeadAboveWater Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Why is it reassurance when I am simply trying to understand how OCD works and to know if it is possible to feel like this due to OCD? Link to comment
Guest legend Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Because reassurance comes in many guises And what one works at is, firstly if it feels like ocd then it probably is... Link to comment
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