vintagegirl

this is what ocd does to us hun, constantly making us desperately seek reassurance over the same thing, we cant help it its part of ocd, but what we can do is take a step back and try to notice the pattern we are making, you said you have had this worry before, but you got over it? how did you achieve that? try the same tactics again, let the uncertainty be there, allow the anxiety to sit there until you realise it wont and cant hurt you, thats when your thoughts begin to lose their power

polar is absolutely right and as helped me many times in the past, he knows his stuff kaheath you need to expose yourself to you fear of running out of work by allowing yourself to run our of work then you will realise nothing bad will happen and eventually this anxiety over running out of work will fade, my theme is harm ocd, so i hid all of the scissors and knives, to get over the fear id harm someone with them i had to bring them back out where i could see them, and make sure i used them when someone was stood next to me, it feels awful at first but after a while you begin to realise that you wont harm someone, and the anxiety you feel whilst being a horrible feeling wont hurt you, its just a horrible feeling, exposure therapy is incredible at getting rid of ocd, the same goes for you and your current issue, its worked for me

thank you polarbear

i have harm ocd, and my thoughts include stabbing, hitting people with heavy objects, the list goes on, it can be anything that would seriously harm a person, if the thoughts are totally unwanted causing you anxiety etc then its ocd, and thats what i most certainly get from your post, the first step is seeing your gp, its scary having to tell someone your having these thoughts but you need support, if it makes you feel better about telling your doctor print off some info on harm ocd and just hand it to him/her, and do the same with your parents if your finding it hard to tell them, im always here if you want to chat

hi iv suffered with ocd since the age of 12, im now 30, iv had upto 3 years with no ocd, and that was all down to cbt and erp and a great therapist, it was tough but definitely doable!

Hi guys, well I'm back, 3 wonderful years of recovery and my harm ocd has struck again, I'm using my Cbt and erp skills that I learnt 3 years ago which lead to my recovery, I see some people on here who were posting when I was back then so hello! And hello to all of the new users of this wonderful site ? I'm trying to stay positive knowing this will pass it won't hurt me and that I have to sit with the thoughts expose myself to them and not do any compulsions, harder said then done but so far I feel I'm more in control then the ocd, and I'm hoping itl stay that way if I don't let the ocd get carried away, once again easier said then done! My theme is harm ocd by the way, anyway if anyone wants to chat feel free ?

Hi, iv had ocd since the age of 12 it really hit hard when my first born was 8 months old, I started out of the blue getting harm thoughts towards him, it shook me to the core, he's now 10 and my youngest is 6. It chops and changes between harm ocd and health anxiety, in 2014 I had the worst episode of harm ocd iv had so far, it lasted a year and I became suicidal and ended up in a physch unit (I put myself there) as I was so frightened and it had gotten to the point where I couldn't tell emotions apart, anger fear excitement etc it was all muddled in endless constant rumination and horrific thoughts, I started Cbt and after 14 sessions with an amazing therapist it was over, I recovered, I remember being in the kitchen and realised I'd had no Intrusive thoughts that day and it felt amazing ? but 3 years on my harm ocd has resurfaced, I'm using what I learnt in Cbt and erp therapy but still it's hard, always here if you need a chat ?

Thank you polar bear no I've done no googling and I'm using what I have learnt from Cbt, it's just a constant niggle that won't sod off lol x

hi guys, so most will probably not remember me but I was a daily user a few years back when my harm ocd was at its worst and that relapse lasted about a year anyway iv been doing brilliantly after having cbt but iv recently broken my arm mopping my kitchen floor because im a wally lol my health ocd as with my other forms of ocd have always been there in the back ground but so much so I could live life normally, anyway my health anxiety is being a git since breaking my arm because its in a sling and got to stay there for at least 2 weeks until I have my app at fracture clinic, so my concern is getting a blood clot in my arm im not hear trying to seek reassurance as u know that wont help me at all however I was looking for a little support abd maybe even advice on how to reduce the risks, the go said wiggle my fingers and roll my shoulder and that's about it lol. anyway I hope you are all doing well and I hope I don't see any familiar names! id like to think your are all doing great hope that makes sense lol x

yes, several times including this time and im the most recovered I have ever been (meaning barely any compulsions compared to hundreds I had before very very little anxiety if any at all, an no meds what so ever xx

jonber1970, bless you how awful!! I couldn't agree more with you in fact give me the bloody gun!! (something I would never have been able to say 6 months ago lol) they are a total bunch of c*nts sorry but there really is no other word for them! and thank you im coping very well thankfully I wont let anything set me back, ive come to far now, im so glad they are off of your back now, im hoping for the same very soon seeing all of the professionals iv spoken to are recommending my kids come off of the plan ss have them on xx foos hey chick argh they are a nightmare jobs worth idiots!! not all of them but a lot of them! everything is based on assumption with them and little facts! they assume because of mental health kids must be suffering.. erm NO!!!!!!! my kids are played with loved fed clothed and their home kept lovely and clean xx your right polar im just so angry at the system it has so many faults and me and my partner are caught up in the failing system!! guess they need to feel like they are actually earning their wages and doing something! its just not nice having all those labels slapped on you form idiots who have no clue xx

to not engage is to step back when having the thought, observe it instead of ruminate, let it be there whilst you continue what you was doing, don't let it stop you just be aware its there and let if drift off once your bored of it, no fighting the thought, make room for any anxiety this thought provokes and notice that you can still function whilst having this thought and feeling this anxiety, observe the fact there is no need to ruminate and infact the thoughts and anxiety don't need you to do anything other then notice its there and allow it to be there and that you can continue to function and carry out the tasks you was ding before the thought and anxiety came along, this for me was invaluable for my recovery and one of the main factors that led to me getting to where I am now xx

hello yes I found that my anxiety was always worse first thing in the morning and it was quite frustrating as id go to bed feeling pretty much ok, so it was a shock to the system waking up with intense anxiety, and from what I have read its quite common xx

hi guys, hope your all doing well in your fight against the ocd gremlin! im continuing to do very well, and my therapy has stopped, now that I am doing so well im going to be writing my own mental health crisis prevention plan, a few months a go I went to a bite sized course with the charity mind and it was about crisis prevention and how to recognise the first signs you may be entering a relapse zone so that you can address it quickly before it gets to much to cope with thus turning into a crisis, good stuff! also as some of you know but due to my ocd and my partners back issues social services got involved when we asked professionals for help and support and this ended up with my kids being but on a child protection plan due to mental health and my partners back problems, the social worker was a total BEEEEEEP and pretty much destroyed our lives, any who we assigned a new social worker who was a lot better and had no concerns at all, well today was the review conference of the child protection plan (we have been told there are no concerns from anyone involved and the child protection plan should be dropped!) however she moved departments 2 weeks ago and we was told wed have a new social worker, 2 weeks pass and nothing we wasn't given a new social worker at all, so our old social worker rang a few days ago saying her manager would be at thee conference in her place however when we turned up today he told us she should have been there so the conference would have to be cancelled! so in all that time they not only didn't send a new social worker round (just say this was a case for children being abused!!!!) but the total lack of communication between them that lead to the conference being cancelled! the social worker didn't know she was meant to attend as, as far as she knew wed have a new social worker, and the manager thoughts the social worker knew shed have to attend her self!! its incredible isn't it!! no wonder so many kids get harmed by their parents if this is how they operate!! im disgusted to be honest! so the conference will now be held in 2 weeks and the kids will ben on the plan another 2 weeks! they honestly couldn't see the problem just said oh never mind.. im fuming! on that note il leave it with saying once my crisis prevention plan is complete if any of you would like help making one for yourselves id be more then happy to help or pop along to your local mind office and ask about the crisi prevention plan course its literally a one off hour long course and its brilliant! xx

1814?? at least youd believe so x