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I was wondering again if any of you guys use Facebook& how do you find it? do you feel it impacts your OCD in any way at all?.In the last 12 months I had really cut back my use of the site without any disrespect to it,it was mainly that I'm sure like you guys or similar my Depression&moods can get influenced,so can my OCD,My BDD& my anxiety as well so i thought it may be just better to not go on there.I have had a number of people telling me to come on there but I haven't really only the other day I did because this guy I knew/know posted very nasty things about me on my page& I went on there to delete them :original: .

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Sorry I didn't mean to bring this subject up but it's caused me quite a bit of distress recently, I don't really go on Facebook anymore but I logged on only recently due to one guy I knew who had had made some real offensive comments about me on my page which really upset me.The other thing was a number of people I used to work with which I was friends with which I'm not no more I can see why perhaps because I don't really see them anymore or haven't for so long, but not being friends with them anymore I can see has got me quite down when I see it especially for the first time then I seem to get over it really but it does seem to hurt for quite a bit.

I think what happens because others I worked with are friends with each other & although I'm still friends with some on there I'm not that much with many others I don't know why it seems to hurt a fair bit really.I tried to say to myself make a rule if I go on Facebook don't look up people's names I was friends with because if I see I'm no longer friends with them it will hurt&that worked real fine for me.But every now & again I'd give in to the urge& I would look up their names & I'd have a feeling I'm not friends with them anymore& bang when I see it I get very down.I seem to think why are others friends with each other& not me? I try to think maybe they're closer in ages & have had more regular contact etc etc but I tried to think I was always nice to them & spoke to many of them etc etc so why would they not want to be friends with me anymore?.

I think this may be my OCD also when I see I'm no longer friends with them I have these thoughts maybe people have spoken to each other about me for e.g saying things like I may be weird or something or my depression why I had to stop work etc etc :weep::weep::weep::weep: .

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Guest Heryn.

I was wondering again if any of you guys use Facebook

No. Partly OCD, partly because I value my privacy.

I'm sure plenty of people have looked up their old colleagues, schoolfriends, etc. on social media sites. With the passing of time, you just may not have that much in common with them. Or they don't want to be in contact with you. What can I say - it's probably happened to me too. Don't worry too much about it, Ace.

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Thanks very much for your comment very much appreciated Heryn :original: , It does make me feel quite a fair bit low if they don't want to be really in contact with me anymore :( .

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Guest Heryn.

Well, yeah, but a lot of it is to do with wishing you could be younger/back at school/at a previous job. There's not a lot we can do about that.

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I left about five years ago and have never looked back. I left for numerous reasons, one being that they made it so ridiculously hard to leave. I've not missed it at all and arrange events etc just as easily via phone and email.

I'm not suggesting you should leave Facebook, just letting you know it's not the end of the world if you do.

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Thanks very much Heryn& strabuck for your replies I really appreciated what you say& totally understand :original: , Well really in the last 12 months I hardly went on to Facebook no offence to the site but like anyone else as much as I had fun on there I could see how easily my OCD,BDD,Anxiety& depression can be triggered so I thought to myself better less activity especially if you're still quite vulnerable even though i did have a number of people asking why I hadn't been on there or why I don't :original: .

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i can relate, ACE. facebook can make me feel depressed, jealous, and/or alone when i see everyone posting pictures doing fun things, or in relationships. i also give in to the urge to search for ex-girlfriends, even though i know no good can come of it!

i think i mostly use facebook to get validation by posting pictures of me doing "cool" things or to get attention. i'm thinking of deactivating my account, at least temporarily, to see if that helps, but i don't want avoidance of facebook to become a compulsion either!

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Thanks very much for your replies Oxy,Bambi& handy ever so appreciated :original: .I try my best not to go on Facebook much no offence or disrespect to the site but I can see how easily I can be triggered just like you guys with in regards to my Depression,OCD,BDD&Anxiety :original: .Oxy I know what you mean I also try to say don't go looking up people but every now& again the urge can get to me& I give in only to say later I knew I shouldn't of looked up that person lol :D .Yeah I do think if you aren't sure of deactivating your account you can leave it for now& you can decide what you like anytime really.

I do agree I'm friends with people for e.g girls I had some sort of close relationship some years back& they're really nice people so although I can personally handle it much better I guess you can always be sort of vulnerable really& maybe not want to see other people happy& I don't mean this in any way at all in a mean way but you have to be careful maybe going on there & seeing people really enjoying themselves& if that does really impact you in some sort of negative way.

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I know what you're saying trust me Heryn lol :D , at times i've said to myself why did I ever join & or go on Facebook seeming how much distress it causes me?.But at the end of the day i think reasoning is maybe the best way looking at it.I've found minimizing my activity on the site has been the best option& or decision I should say personally because without any disrespect to Facebook of course vulnerability,triggers,reminders etc etc are always there& suffering personally from Depression,mood problems,OCD,BDD,Anxiety the best thing is for me to lessen my stay on there as much as possible :original: .

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I keep in touch with old school friends old uni friends and family on it but i have deleted everyone who lives or works near me so it cant impact on my life now.i just say to people ring me or knock on my door.sometimes fb can make a trigger worse for me.if i think ive harmed someone i keep checking their page so now i cant.

If you are feeling vulnerable just come off it for a while at least

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Sure Facebook is full of happy people but you should see how they actually are, you would be surprised. Like some marriages on Facebook are so happy but there is actually a lot of fighting.

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Thanks very much EM& handy yeah I've tried to stay off Facebook quite a fair bit as I can get triggered easily even though I can handly things much more better :original: .

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Really Handy?I can understand that because no offence against Facebook but as i've seen& obviously explained with OCD especially along with my depression,BDD&Anxiety it can get too much on there really :D .

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