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Guest John K

Hi guys, I am new in the forum and this is my first post!

I have been diagnosed with Ocd a month ago and I am on medication since then. I take seroxat and to be honest I don't feel that is really helping me....Anyway.

The story of my bad thought goes like this:

I am working as a sales consultant , and recently I have showed a small townhouse to one of my clients. The property have been in the market for approximately tow years now and the owner is away since. A week ago the neighbors have informed me that some kids entered the property from a window that apparently was open. I never opened it but because I am one of the key holders I have responsibilities. I entered the property and discovered that a small tv was missing...only!

Now I m afraid that IF the owner will be sneaky and claim ON PURPOSE that he had more stuff that was stolen like jewelry or similar.

Do you believe that this thought is something that might happen and the possibilities are high, or it is something that probably will not happen and I am just over thinking. Please advice....

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Hi John,

Everything up to 'now I'm afraid that...' is reality, and has probably caused you to feel uncomfortable. Everything after that is 'what ifs' and therefore does not need to be entertained at this time. Maybe it will happen, maybe it won't. You can't know. If it does happen, you will probably feel even more uncomfortable, but this is natural and will eventually pass. If it doesn't happen, you have wasted a lot of energy being stressed. You can not predict all the bad things that may or may not happen in your life, so rather than living in a permanent state of fear and anxiety, instead resolve to simply deal with things when they enter reality. Try not to engage with this thought at all, it will make it worse. Starve it of attention and it will fade.

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Guest Zorro

Hi. I know it will be really hard, but I'd suggest u let go of the need for reassurance and certainty.

I know it's tough to read this, but none of us know the owner and the sort of person he is. Even if he is a nice guy, he may have a moment of sneakiness/greediness and claim other stuff was also stolen. Maybe he won't.

The more you let go and stop over-thinking, the easier it will be for u (long term).

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Guest John K

Thank you very much for the replies!

I fully understand your suggestions and I always try to get my thoughts in the wright direction.

As I have advised by my friends, if it does happen and the owner will get sneaky, it will be very difficult to proof that he left jewelry or something's equivalent expensive in a house for sale or rent. But my thoughts are getting me to a point that I think myself owning a lot of money.

Do you also think that even if the owner will try to claim thousands for unexcisting items stolen and I will end up awning money? ;(.

Does anyone had experience with seroxat? And how long it takes for the medication to work?

I really appriciate your support!

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The key to breaking free from OCD obsessions is to not perform compulsions. Your posts show that you are trying to reassure yourself of the likelihood of your fear happening (which is a compulsion), and reassure yourself that things may not be so bad if it does happen (another compulsion). You're also planning what you will do if your fear happens (a compulsion), in order to try to dampen down your bad feelings if the worst does come true. This is all called ruminating, and is a very very common compulsion which keeps fear high and obsessions alive. By practising not ruminating, you give yourself the tools to deal with new obsessions that crop up. So all may turn out well with this particular scenario and so the obsession will go, but there will be others if you don't learn to manage how you react to your thoughts. I can't help on the Seroxat question I'm afraid but hopefully someone will be along soon that can.

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Guest John K

Thank you very much....I connot describe how hard is for me for the past month. I keep thinking about the worst scenario that may happen and I cannot control it. I end up on a point were I cannot estimate the probabilities of the likeliness o likely to happen...if anyone knows something about seroxat please inform me. And if there is someone who can advice on my worst scenario to happen or not, please tell me your opinion. It helps me a lot.

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When you ask for advice about the possibility of the worst case scenario happening you are asking for reassurance. That is a compulsion and they simply don't work. Anything anyone said to you might make you feel better temporarily but soon enough the doubt will show up again and you'll have the urge to ask for more reassurance. It can be a never ending cycle.

The best thing for you to do is just live with the uncertainty and don't perform compulsions. That means stop asking for reassurance. That also means resist the urge to ruminate -- going over the subject in your mind again and again. You'll feel anxiety but that's okay. Anxiety won't hurt you and tends to go away on it's own.

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Guest John K

I am trying hard to avoid asking for advice. It's very difficult and i have never felt so hard to get over thoughts like this.

Thank you for everything !

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