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I've been struggling with my weight for some time now,throughout my life I was always pretty much relatively a slim guy.But in recent years much of my weight gain has ballooned out to around close to 100kg I don't know what that is is pounds sorry.I know a fair bit has had to do with my meds,not being interested in excercising and of course my diet.

These days I feel i have the optimism and confidence at least a lot more,but I still struggle a fair bit with motivation and my moods and trying to change myself to lose the weight.I struggle seeing my reflection in the mirror or any such reflective surfaces it was always my face&now it's my body as it's just too painful to look at.

I've tried to use that as motivation to try to lose the weight&hopefully try to feel better,but still with my nose&body now it is depressing me a fair bit and making me have bad thoughts as it has been for much of my life with my nose mostly :(:sad::( .

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Sorry to hear that Ace but you do seem to have made some progress on the other fronts.It might be better to look at this as just a setback because of the progress you have already made.The thing about weight is that at least it can be controlled if it bothers you enough but are you sure you are overweight?Have you tried working out your body mass index.I wouldn't bother trying to lose weight if your BMI is in range and instead would try to get used to it as you have with he other things

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Thanks a lot for your reply lov I really appreciate it very much so.I'm a bit overweight that's for sure and much I think is been because of the meds&also lack on interest down the years to want to excercise&eat/drink well you know what it's like when you're4 so down.Also a fair bit has been from the BDD which I've struggled so much for sure,I've been trying to change my diet even though I've been a bit down that I've struggled stil quite a bit in that area.My BMI is a fair bit out and I've been trying to change things but have to admit I've still struggled quite a bit and with the moods,OCD,BDD and anxiety it's had a fai5r bit of impact but I don't want to make excuses of course :D .

I've been trying to work out but have struggled a bit lately as I have had foot surgery which has kept me a bit out of the gym&pool and being able to do the proper excercises and workout really required to lose weight properly.I've been wanting to get in the gym more and I've struggled quite a bit with that lately I have to say,I have to get my diet much more right I know my weight is causing me a fair bit of distress to how big I've become :weep::yucky: .

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Yes I see.The foot surgery won't have helped I can see that.Hopefully now that it is sorted you will be able to go to the gym if you want.It must be a big challenge to go there but it's good that you can manage it sometimes.Good luck

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Thanks a lot for your reply lov I don't like making excuses I know I could've used the gym&pool especially more by now.The gym usually has been more difficult as the BDD does tend to get more distressing there than the pool although it is more easier than it was in the past.

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Hello ACE, yes I know where you're at with 100kgs as I was around 98 before managing to commit to dieting after losing half a stone anyway to a viral infection - you'd be around 16 stones.Also, I have been free of OCD since October so able to commit to the diet as I'm in a good place mentally and spiritually.

I believe some meds can lead to weight gain, but have no specific knowledge on which lones. And my knowledge of BDD is restricted to what I've read about several of you on the forum, so I can imagine from those posts how distressing it is.

(I am sadly however very experienced regarding anorexia nervosa, as a half-niece has had that all the time I've known her, but fantastically several years ago she suddenly started committing to therapy ( whereas she never would before) and is much better)

Lovid I know is a fellow BDD sufferer, so the appropriate person to advise you in that regard.

I have been either active in competitive sport all my life or, since I reached "veteran" status and gave that up, a regular in the gym and the Pool - so hopefully you will be able to get back to that shortly.

Re diet, I've lost a further stone since mid-January by:

  • reducing portions
  • drinking water/bottled water instead of fruit drinks
  • or no added sugar squash
  • lots of lettuce , low-fat meals, small portions of wholemeal bread, salads
  • cutting out sugar wherever possible, and where necessary choosing low sugar options.
  • substituting Ryvaat and flora margarine for snacks late at night.

You probably won't feel up to tackling a diet until you feel better in yourself, but I can recommend mine when you do.

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Thanx very much taurean for your reply very helpful as always :original: .yeah the meds i'm on especially Seroquel hasve been a big one for weight gain&even the others also I do know.Most of my weight gain I think has come from my meds,loss of interest down the years of activity due to severe depression,poor diet of course also is another.I've been trying to change my diet but have been obviously disappointed in myself because I've lapsed a fair few times and just have to get very disciplinedreally.The meds that have made me put on weight well I can see that side but it's not that bad as I know these current meds have helped me so much so I try to use that as some sort of positive I guess :D .

My weight well is just like my face these days i mean my body I can't look at myself in the mirror at all as it causes so much distress.So it usually helps to avoid it completely even though I have to try and look at my face especially when i shave which i do sort of trying to have a blind eye away from my face :D .Yeah the diet ends up being a tricky one at times i think as usually I have the optimism&confidence and try to put things into place but then my moods unpredictably can turn at any given moment and I can lose interest so easily also and it gets hard to have any such motivation or desire to want to do anything at all.

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Hi Lov how you doing my friend? I don't really shave everyday at the moment and when I do I try not to look in the mirror as difficult as it is like I'm looking in the mirror in the corner of my eye but also at the same time I'm not and that way I try not to look directly on to the mirror.As if I see obviously my nose anyway at all in the mirror it causes a fair bit of distress really.

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I find it easier in the short term to avoid the mirrors altogether but I think it causes a lot of trouble with obsessional thinking which leads to scrutinizing.For example I unfortunately told someone I know about my bdd and she said " I had a nice face and looked like I wouldn't harm a fly but I was I was "no george cluney but who is?".This is a fair summary of how I appear to people I think but with not looking in the mirror I couldn't stop focussing on the "no George Cluney" part as if I am "no oil painting"sort of thing.In the end it caused me to look and scrutinize but if I look everyday I sort of know exactly how I look all the time and such comments don't bother me so much.I suppose it is the same as someone who worries about leaving the gas on being told that their cooker is basically OK but has a bit of a reputation for being unsafe.They would focus on the "unsafe" part

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Lov you're right well also my BDD specialist/Dr told me a similar or same thing well he said not looking in the mirror hardly at all is no good at all&looking in the mirror too much is not helpful either.He gave me good advice looking in the mirror is really necessary of course when you must like of course to groom yourself or to shave for e.g.He said think when looking in the mirror if it is because you have to and not because of the BDD/OCD and that would be a helpful way of looking at it.I don't know really myself I know that is a good way of looking at it and avoidance of the mirror is never really helpful,I'm just struggling to look in the mirror right now and any such reflection of my face&body causes me so much distress.

I've found some moments where I can seize the moment and have a shave and feel a little bit good about myself but still that's quite difficult and I usually have to hurry up&shave asap and get out of the mirror really :D .When I shower I don't look in the mirror either as in my bathroom I see my head and just with the towel dry my hair quickly so I have pretty much total avoidance there as well.

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thanks a lot lov once again I really appreciate your replies as always my friend :original: .The mirror is just too hard to look into I actually shaved this morning as down as I was pretty much feeling but it was pretty fast and I hardly looked much in the mirror&also because obviously the razor is pretty good so I can get it done without so much fuss.But it's always such a huge challenge as you know :original: .

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