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I have ocd many years and now I have this obsession.I wonder if i am realy stupid beacause im antisocial and i know some ''friends'' who speak badly for me,I have only 2 good friends.

i did 3 iq tests and i had good scores (121,126,128) but I stil wonder if i am stupid.

(sorry for my bad english).

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DarthVader94, on 02 Aug 2014 - 12:11 AM, said:DarthVader94, on 02 Aug 2014 - 12:11 AM, said:

I have ocd many years and now I have this obsession.I wonder if i am realy stupid beacause im antisocial and i know some ''friends'' who speak badly for me,I have only 2 good friends.

i did 3 iq tests and i had good scores (121,126,128) but I stil wonder if i am stupid.

(sorry for my bad english).

Anti-social does not equal stupid. Not at all. Well they're not friends then if they speak badly of you. Lose them. 2 good friends is *much* better than a wealth of bad ones.

Perhaps your OCD has latched onto this "stupid" theme from some name-calling or judgement somewhere along the line, but from your test scores it sounds like your fears are completely unfounded. So I suppose you have to treat this like any other OCD obsession. Where are you, Greece? Is there any CBT available there?

David.

:starwars:

(sorry - couldn't resist)

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Three friends speak badly for me but they say to me they say that for fun.Those guys are b@st@rds and they talk badly for other people and friends too.Yeah and I want start cbt I go to psychologist,he says its obssesion and it s not real.

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Three friends speak badly for me but they say to me they say that for fun.Those guys are b@st@rds and they talk badly for other people and friends too.Yeah i go to psychologist,he says its obssesion and it s not real.

With friends like that, who needs ... friends!?

Well there's your answer then hopefully. I suppose the solution will be to stop engaging with the doubts until it dies away. Easier said than done though eh? ;)

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Its really difficult to stop engaging with the doubts but i try

(my english are really bad sorry)

I know my friend. I am currently going through this process myself. I don't think many people can just stop engaging with them. I think it is a game of percentages. i.e. you try and stop engaging with it as much as you can as many times as you can. And once you get to the point where you are not engaging with the thoughts more often than you are engaing with them, then you are starting to turn it around. Every little victory helps. So you have nothing to lose trying :)

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I know my friend. I am currently going through this process myself. I don't think many people can just stop engaging with them. I think it is a game of percentages. i.e. you try and stop engaging with it as much as you can as many times as you can.d once you get to the point where you are not engaging with the thoughts more often than you are engaing with them, then you are starting to turn it around. Every little victory helps. So you have nothing to lose trying

I treated many obsessions but this year i have depression too and its more difficult but i keep trying!

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I treated many obsessions but this year i have depression too and its more difficult but i keep trying!

Yes, alas, depression is an inevitable consequence of OCD I think.

It is not easy. But hopefully it is perfectly possible, as others have demonstrated.

How old are you - 20?

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Yes, alas, depression is an inevitable consequence of OCD I think.

It is not easy. But hopefully it is perfectly possible, as others have demonstrated.

How old are you - 20?

19

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DarthVader94, on 02 Aug 2014 - 01:31 AM, said:DarthVader94, on 02 Aug 2014 - 01:31 AM, said:

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Well I don't know if this will be any consolation, but my OCD symptoms first started getting serious when I was 17. I tried dealing with it on my own, went to the doctors a few times but only actually discovered I had OCD when I was 41. The doctors missed it.

So it's hard for me to come to terms with all that time lost suffering blindly, no idea what was wrong or how to fight it, trying to master it with the power of my mind, but not realising that I was making it all worse and worse.

So look on the bright side - at least you have found out that you have OCD at a young age, and there are good books and therapies available out there to work with.

Maybe that makes it look better? :)

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Well I don't know if this will be any consolation, but my OCD symptoms first started getting serious when I was 17. I tried dealing with it on my own, went to the doctors a few times but only actually discovered I had OCD when I was 41. The doctors missed it.

So it's hard for me to come to terms with all that time lost suffering blindly, no idea what was wrong or how to fight it, trying to master it with the power of my mind, but not realising that I was making it all worse and worse.

So look on the bright side - at least you have found out that you have OCD at a young age, and there are good books and therapies available out there to work with.

Maybe that makes it look better? :)

I had ocd when i was 13 i discovered i had ocd last year.I know about books for ocd! ;)

You had ocd so many years and you dont knew that,its worst!

Do you want to tell some of your obsessions?

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I had ocd when i was 13 i discovered i had ocd last year.I know about books for ocd! ;)

You had ocd so many years and you dont knew that,its worst!

Do you want to tell some of your obsessions?

OK well I just thought it might put it in a more optimistic light for you. But knowing something happened to someone else can't always have that effect even if we want it to. We can only, after all, deal with our own problems.

Sure, my obsessions are mainly rumination about inrusive thoughts - some around conflict, word associations, the separateness of things/people, paedophilia(or anything-o-philia that I am not into!), harm, who is right and wrong, losing loved ones.

That's all I can think of right now but I'm sure I've missed something major - my head isn't really in the right place though.

How about you? Do you have any other themes you wish to mention?

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OK well I just thought it might put it in a more optimistic light for you. But knowing something happened to someone else can't always have that effect even if we want it to. We can only, after all, deal with our own problems.

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Sure, my obsessions are mainly rumination about inrusive thoughts - some around conflict, word associations, the separateness of things/people, paedophilia(or anything-o-philia that I am not into!), harm, who is right and wrong, losing loved ones.

That's all I can think of right now but I'm sure I've missed something major - my head isn't really in the right place though.

How about you? Do you have any other themes you wish to mention?

Now I have this obsession most.I check too!At the past i had other obsessions and compulsions

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but my OCD symptoms first started getting serious when I was 17. I tried dealing with it on my own, went to the doctors a few times but only actually discovered I had OCD when I was 41. The doctors missed it.

So it's hard for me to come to terms with all that time lost suffering blindly, no idea what was wrong or how to fight it, trying to master it with the power of my mind, but not realising that I was making it all worse and worse.

So look on the bright side - at least you have found out that you have OCD at a young age, and there are good books and therapies.

David, that sounds a little sad. We are all OCD-ers, everybody equally the same! It's all about who could find the switch earlier. I want to tell you that you have no problem to recover! Everybody can find himself back!

Btw, why would you go for Greece? I would go for Finland.

Greetings to DarthVader94.

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A piece of advice from the book "break free from OCD":

"If you constantly telling yourself stupid or doing compulsions, the overall effect of this will be that you will feel worse about yourself. This is likely to make the OCD seen more powerful. if you take a more understanding and supportive approach to your problems, it may be that this will help you make progress."

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David, that sounds a little sad. We are all OCD-ers, everybody equally the same! It's all about who could find the switch earlier. I want to tell you that you have no problem to recover! Everybody can find himself back!

Btw, why would you go for Greece? I would go for Finland.

Greetings to DarthVader94.

I thought I saw the greek flag somewhere, but can't see it now.

Everybody equally the same? I've got to disagree with that I'm afraid.

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I thought I saw the greek flag somewhere, but can't see it now.

Everybody equally the same? I've got to disagree with that I'm afraid.

Oh, I am using phone again so I did not notice the flag then.

About the equality thing...... What I meant is that we all have the same battle needs to be fought. I did not want to stress people out. My intention is to walk everybody together and face this OCD together so no one feels lagged. : )

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Oh, I am using phone again so I did not notice the flag then.

About the equality thing...... What I meant is that we all have the same battle needs to be fought. I did not want to stress people out. My intention is to walk everybody together and face this OCD together so no one feels lagged. : )

No ther'es no flag now.

OK I understand that.

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I thought I saw the greek flag somewhere, but can't see it now.

Im greek but i hide the flag from my informations ;)

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It was totally a very normal conversation with an 'informal' chat within . I did not mean anything either. If it caused anything uncomfortable. I apologize:'sorry'.

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