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dimmerswitch

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    Living with OCD
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    Surely there is only one type?

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  1. Keep busy on your holiday Nikki. This will support you in paying no attention to the intrusive thoughts. The thoughts are not worth our time. If a thought pops up go, oh, another thought, hey-ho, right what’s next, the beach, lunch, a spot of reading, or just enjoying life to the full.
  2. We don’t have a misguided view of ocd. It’s how we engage and attach meaning to harmless and nothingness thoughts which creates ocd. OCD doesn’t exist until we make it. The trick is, don’t engage, reason, argue, become distressed or get anxious over the thoughts. Allow them to be there, you and I will never ever stop them. In learning how to not react to them is the key. We create something (a problem) out of nothing and we call the result ocd. Heightened anxiety levels in my experience reduce my ability to take my own advice. So, in your case, bullying and depression will no doubt lead to a higher anxiety level.
  3. Hi Nikki. Imhotep is absolutely right. We don’t judge you. All you did was type some words and post them. They are just words. They are just thoughts. They mean absolutely nothing. As a fellow sufferer, if you don’t attach anything to a thought, your ocd usually moves on to the next one and this new obsession replaces the old one, but the core theme is exactly the same. Once we learn how to allow the thoughts to be there and not giving them the time of day, we train ourselves to realise it’s pointless attaching such anxiety to something which let’s face it is nothing. Keep going Nikki. 😀
  4. They are just thoughts which you are attaching importance to. Allow the thoughts to be there, they’ll soon drift away... Everytime you engage you will press the rest button and end up at square one. To break the cycle, stop giving these, or any other distressing thoughts or images the time of day. They are thoughts. Nothing more. Thoughts which mean nothing. OCD sufferers who engage with them get distressed and keep going round in circles....
  5. Please try not to be upset and scared. We’ve all been there, that’s why we’re here 👍 Don’t question it, engage with it, try and reason with it as it’s a nothingness.It’s only our interaction with it that creates ocd. Our interpretation turns a harmless thought/image/memory into ocd. I could offer lots of reassurance here, but we know it won’t do us any good in the long run. It isn’t even a quick fix solution as all reassurance does is delay ocd until the next interpretation and bam, we spike, feel awful, worry, stress etc over us making something of nothing. People without ocd take no notice of these type of thoughts and as such, nothing else to type... People with ocd take notice and.........oh dear....back to square one.
  6. It is hard. I’ve had nearly 30 years of this, so I don’t always take my own advice do I 😂
  7. It’s not easy. We all know that. All I can do is wish you the best of luck in beating it. I’m a sufferer and I hate it, and hate is a strong word. Then I think, what do I actually hate....nothing, because nothing is there, it’s just the way I react. I turn nothing into something.
  8. Yes, I can relate to that. Focussing, or obsessing on a word or image. However, we both know it’s our OCD. Treat it like any other thought, it’ll go on it’s merry way and be replaced by something else. It’s not the thought, image, word, conversation, dream, nightmare, tv programme, film, newspaper article, text, phone call....... Its OCD. We react which makes it something it’s not. Stop. Don’t react. Don’t give it the time of day. It’s only our reaction which makes it seem real. It isn’t. It’s nothing. That’s what OCD really is. Nothing. We make it something. We need to change how we react.
  9. I have to agree with Polar Bear. There is no halfway house when it comes to OCD. You stop by stopping. Best advice I’ve heard. Just stop. We all come back with; “what if” doesn’t matter, stop! ”does it mean I’m” doesn’t matter, stop! Most posts on here are in essence reassurance seeking. If the person posting doesn’t agree with the response, which should always be, “it doesn’t matter, it’s ocd - stop”. They come back saying, “but” - “what if” - “I’m a monster” - “it can’t be ocd” - “I like it”..... Its ocd folks. That’s all it is. The clue is in the forum name. I suffer with it, read my posts, you can always tell when I’ve “spiked” and typed faster than I can think...... what I should be saying to myself is, stop! It’s ocd. That’s all. Hope PB doesn’t mind me expanding on this? Oh, and I’m not seeking reassurance. 😂
  10. Welcome to the Forum. This is a friendly place where we all do our best to help and support each other. Whatever the content of the thoughts, they are just that. Thoughts with no action. The worst thing you can do is try to reason with them, or figure out why you’re having them, or even convincing yourself “I can’t have these thoughts as I am not this person”. The thoughts will never go away, as they are just thoughts which drift in and out of our heads. The way to deal with this is. 1. Accept the thought - whatever it’s content. It’s only a thought. 2. Don’t engage with the thought, or try to reason with it. 3. Don’t try to find a label for the content of your thoughts. Its OCD. The following isn’t intended to be reassurance. You may feel you can’t commit your most darkest thoughts to writing. You don’t have to. I, and possibly everyone else here could give you a run for your money. They’re just thoughts. We all have them. We have OCD, so we get tangled up in them and become distressed as we surely can’t be capable of having these thoughts, and oh no, what if I actually carry them out... You won’t, I won’t and we won’t. Whatever the content - your OCD is making a big deal out of them. People without OCD don’t engage with these types of thoughts, they just acknowledge them, take no notice and get on with their lives. If you glance through the posts here, you’ll see we all try and individualise our thoughts as unique, and “my OCD must be the worst than yours and my thoughts are more horrid than anyone else’s“. It’s OCD. That’s all it is. We’re here because we have OCD. You've already made a positive step by coming to this forum. Speak with your GP and enquire about CBT. Good luck. We’re all here to help and support one another.
  11. If Robert Louis Stevenson never had nightmares, he’d never have written “Strange Case Of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde” Just dreams, don’t let them bother you...
  12. Personally, I’ve found my medication to be a great support in dealing with my OCD. As dksea has pointed out, I too remember how I struggled before ssri medication. I still struggle, but I find the medication reduced my anxiety, which I believe is a direct link to triggering my OCD. I would encourage anyone who is struggling with this illness to speak with their GP and along with cbt this could be a positive start to a better quality of life with OCD, or even like some forum members here, actually ridding themselves of it for good. It’s important to remember, no ssri or cbt will rid us of OCD alone. Our input is still the strongest way to beat OCD.
  13. I have had ocd for almost 30 years. I’m on medication and I’ve had lots of therapy over the years. If you look at other posts I’ve down to support you’ll see I should see right through it, but today I just wanted to get it down as a stream of consciousness as it was happening. I’m ok again now, and I know this will never go away. I just need to practice what I preach to other board members. Thanks Chirpy for reading and responding.
  14. I have had ocd for almost 30 years. I’m on medication and I’ve had lots of therapy over the years. If you look at other posts I’ve down to support you’ll see I should see right through it, but today I just wanted to get it down as a stream of consciousness as it was happening. I’m ok again now, and I know this will never go away. I just need to practice what I preach to other board members. Thanks Chirpy for reading and responding.
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