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dksea

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About dksea

  • Birthday 11/08/1980

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  1. I love that this is the word that comes to your mind for Pope
  2. I'm glad you applied for the property, though sorry it didn't work out. It can definitely be disappointing when an opportunity that seems like a great match doesn't work out. And OCD doesn't make things easier with its demands for things being "just right". Its good to remind yourself that there really is no situation that is going to be perfect. Your dream job is probably going to have bad days. The love of your life is going to have annoying habits too. That new gadget or gizmo you really look forward to is going to have imperfections. We live in a messy, imperfect world, but that doe
  3. I think the phrase kind of grew out of the movement to challenge attitudes that seek to deny feelings and experiences, especially in areas such as racism or sexism or toxic masculinity. Things like "real men don't cry" or "women are too emotional" or what not. So there is some value in recognizing that historically ignored/diminished experiences are ok. But the more it is applied as a blanket statement, the less helpful it becomes. People can abuse it as a way to justify not just valid behavior, but also negative behavior and even abusive behavior. As in just about everything, context mat
  4. I can understand this kind of philosophy but I don't exactly agree with it. How you feel is how you feel, thats true. If you feel angry, well, you feel angry, thats just the way things are and its good to acknowledge that these emotions and feelings are real. But I disagree that you can't control your feelings or that how you feel is always valid. For example, lets say you are driving your car and someone cuts you off. You feel angry. But you don't have to STAY angry. You DO have at least some control over that. You can choose to reframe how you view these situations and how you d
  5. I think this is more of a general life concern than an OCD specific one, but of course OCD often affects lots of parts of our life. Its understandable to not want to lose a friend, thats a very common worry. However a person who would curse you out or ban you from their life because you won't keep giving them money is NOT a friend, they are a thief, a con-man. It is both good and wise to be careful with your finances. Helping others out in times of need, especially friends can be noble as well, but if you are harming yourself by doing so thats not a good thing. You have already helped
  6. I'll definitely have to look that one up!! Thought of another good sitcom, Fresh off the Boat, about a Taiwanese American family set in the 90's in Florida. Features a good amount of cameos and just finished its 6th and finale season. Based off a memoir.
  7. I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well, but it’s unlikely merely walking past a garage, even one using strong solvents is the reason. More likely your symptoms are being caused by the anxiety over the situation.
  8. I understand your frustration, but I don’t think the issue is mental health awareness or acceptance, it’s that with some exceptions Twitter is a pretty toxic environment these days filled with awful takes on a lot of stuff. I’m perfectly comfortable talking about my OCD in general to people I know and I’ve even had some good discussions on Facebook about it, but I wouldn’t talk about it on Twitter because it’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too easy for some random jackass to chime In and make it an issue. There are seldom real consequences for bad behavior on Twitter plus the anonymous
  9. You can tell yourself that living your life is more important than doing what OCD says! And you can tell yourself that seeing a bee is normal and it doesn’t mean you’ll have a problem and that it’s a good apartment. But more important than telling is doing. You saw a bee, that caused you some anxiety, that’s unpleasant. Move in anyway. Make as many choices as you can in defiance of what OCD tries to demand you do. Sometimes OCD might win a battle but if you keep it up you’ll win the war.
  10. I don’t think how we handle/are affected by OCD really differs by fear so much as it differs by person. In other words I think you would handle various different fears similarly but you and I might handle the same fear differently. As for CBT it’s true SOMETIMES part of the process involves directly encountering the feared outcome, but that’s not always possible and there are many ways to confront the fear. For example a person whose afraid of hurting themselves or others would NEVER be asked to actually do so, that would be unethical. And what if your fear is that not doing cer
  11. @BelAnna I’m sure it must be frustrating to go through all that and still find yourself struggling ☹️ My amateur psychologist guess is what’s keeping you stuck is that you are still fighting the idea that you might get sick someday, that you are still treating that possibility as unacceptable and that you have to fight it at all costs. We tend to focus a lot on the B in CBT but the C is just as important. We have to change not just our behavior (ie reduce/eliminate compulsions) but also our cognition. We have to be willing to accept that we can’t be certain, that even unpleasant things ar
  12. We didn't get Graham Nortons show in the US, though maybe you can now thanks to streaming, but I've caught clips on YouTube in recent years and its really enjoyable! Oh another great show that may or may not have made it to the UK airwaves is the Fresh Prince of Bel Air staring Will Smith. I recently started re-watching it again on streaming (HBO Max in the US) and am really enjoying it. Good mix of humor but also occasional serious issues.
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