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ecomum

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  1. Thank you for sharing-good idea I found a group called OCD Recovery on you tube absolutely amazing , they have a great reading list too . I found Dale Carnegie How to stop worrying and start living the most helpful book I’ve ever read .
  2. Sometimes when we are in a bad way as you were explaining to your husband ocd adds on an add on trigger . It’s a bit like I thought I’d contaminated something electrical so I wiped it then I worried I’d got it wet and someone would get electrocuted . It sounds like this to me . Why confessing doesn’t work cos I’ve just morphs it to something worse . sounds like your son didn’t hear . I have kids that age and if they hear then I just explain my ocd . They are old enough to deal with it . Have a plan b incase he heard (eg explaining ocd ) and then take a leap of faith that he didn’t and say ha ha ocd I win . Hope this helps
  3. Do you know Malina , I think you’ve hit on something really important there “if it happens I’ll deal with it “. I am going through a terrible episode at the moment over someone I may have made ill . I will see them today and if they are fine I’ll feel better , or so I thought . I then saw something on fb , which brought up an old trigger and this made me realise even if the trigger I’m having now clears I’ll never be free of others coming , so I’m going with this phrase !! Thank you . Hope this helped you Getting There as much as it helped me .
  4. It can be hard being a mum and you don’t often get time to process your thoughts or think things through . I totally get how easy it is to feel like this . I remember walking past star bucks with a double buggy and crying when I saw a woman reading a book and drinking coffee and thinking “ that will never be me “ . Perfect lives on social media don’t help either . If I was you would go on holiday with no pressure to make it wonderful and enjoyable , when I go on holiday I lower my expectations of what it’s going to be like ( two of mine had a massive fight in the sports hall of centre parks ) and you will then be taken by surprise when you suddenly realise you have had some great moments . Hope this helps
  5. Oh and I’ve just thought of a 4, I break the time down into small compartments , I’m not going to ruminate for the next hour. Dale Carnegie wrote about day tight compartments in ‘How to stop worrying and start living ,’ book . With ocd I have found I sometimes need 20 minutes or even 5 minute tight compartments but it works and then you increase it . His book is brilliant by the way .
  6. I can’t always beat rumination but when I do the 2 things that help me are , worry time -there’s a conversation on here about it , basically putting off worrying until a set time , usually by then you have become so distracted by the reality of the day that the need passes and if not then at least it’s confined to a small window . and 2 , taking a leap of faith and getting busy , I’m struggling to do this as I am ruminating right now , but when I have found the strength to get out of bed and do something eg household chores with music on or go to town , it is amazing how effective this is . !!! it has worked brilliantly for me in the past . oh and there is a three !!!! Spend time reading self help books about ocd , channel your thinking into getting better instead . i hope this helps , can be hard but really helps .
  7. Thank you for your support Snowbear . You have given me a lot of excellent advice in that post . I do a lot of compulsions all day long to try and avoid doing something that will ‘hit’ me later in the night and cause me to feel panicked and guilty . In the night when I remember a ‘mistake’ I made I then go into a blind panic . I have been thinking about these compulsions and I am going to try and stop them in small time sections at a time . I talked to my husband about how a non sufferer would behave to help me gauge more rational behaviours. I was raised by a mum with severe ocd and am often surprised that other people don’t do what I do . I do things like re checking taps , doors etc at work . Asking ‘should I do this ?’ So I aren’t to blame if I lock a door that shouldn’t be etc . I wear a pair of plastic gloves to get out a pair of gloves and throw the first one away cos I touched them with my bare hands . … there are endless things . I am becoming aware of these things and working towards stopping them . my husband said the same that it is not evidence but things I interpret as evidence. it is layered and complicated , so I’m setting small time each day to work on disputing my irrational core beliefs . To be honest on an intellectual level I understand them it’s just that last leap of faith I need to hurdle over the ‘evidence’ and accept it’s not evidence . i love the possibility that I may one day be free of this .when I thought I was free in the past I think it was just my compulsions holding it off . Thank you everyone for your support . having something not many people understand and with limited medical resources is made more bearable by you guys xxxx
  8. It is exhausting Garfield , thank you for your reply . I am 50 now and have had it for years so this length of exhaustion is really mounting up and taking its toll . I am looking into my core irrational underlying beliefs which are causing me to react like this -with the hope that I can work on replacing them with a reaction the same as a non sufferer . I’m hoping it will work .
  9. I do something by accident ( real life) my ocd/mind massively exaggerates the consequences to disastrous proportions . I deal with this , but then if I see some evidence eg. Symptom Or someone off sick , I cannot cope and have full on non stop anxiety and guilt attack . Every episode that has ever happened follows this exact pattern . Counselling etc helps up until the evidence bit . please can anyone help . ( thank you for sharing your experience Snowbear , this is what happens to me , I’m glad you got your head around it , I hope I can too , ocd is just so so convincing )
  10. March forth !!!! thanks for years of unending support x
  11. Thanks Snowbear and Jonsey, your replies helped me battle on through a tough day . sorry I misunderstood Jonsey . I am a going to give what you both said some serious consideration . ocd Is so strong , it really upping its game by presenting me with evidence . I guess I have to up my game too . It’s just so hard , life is hard even without this
  12. Thank you for reply jonesy no I haven’t because I’ve had this about 30 years and had no luck , sometimes meds / counselling help but I’m back in a hole again so I don’t think really they have helped i know of a few people who are on waiting list, so it will be along time before I get help anyway . ——————— i really need help i have seen some concrete evidence for one of my worries (. Usually I do the strategies I have learned to lessen or beat the worry or the person I think i have harmed is fine and it passes eventually . )This time the person is not fine . How do I even begin to process this . I want to write in here what has happened so you all see it’s real but I’m scared .
  13. Worked for me . Worry passed because I got busy which ocd hates . sometimes easier said than done but if you can find the strength to do it it works .
  14. I’m being bombarded by health anxiety . I can’t sleep and I want to cry . My son has his gcse mocks tomorrow so I’m trying my best to be stoic infront of him . I just want to cry , I’ve got no one to talk to . I’ve just made a camomile tea to help me and come on here . I’m trying to be rational but the symptoms are all real .
  15. Thanks Bev that’s good advice , thank you for taking the time to reply , I think you are right
  16. Thank you angels, yes it does . the worst thing is when I wake up feeling like something is worrying me like during a trigger .this is worse after a nightmare but get it even without one. I feel scared and guilty like I’ve done something terrible , just like in a trigger , but not about anything specific. I think it’s how other people are confused on waking , I’m kind of disorientated and can’t tell if I’m in a trigger or not .
  17. I cannot imagine how I would have coped without this forum . Thank you everyone for always being there !
  18. Thank you Mini . Nice to know we are same age . No need to apologise for saying it’s my ear . I’m just so grateful for your kind reply . I think my nose has got a bit infected and things do happen, the ocd is the way I then panic about it. If no better tonight I walk past drs and pharmacy on way home so may pop in but try and stay rational til then . thanks again , hope you have a lovely day
  19. Also we had first aid training this week which tells us worst case scenarios and my ocd always hits the roof after it
  20. I have taken notes from here before as it’s a lot to remember . Write down a few lines that really help and then read them in hard times , that’s what I do . I use association to remember things . I needed to remember the name wingfield , so I pictured a wing in a field and remembered it more easily . when trying to remember things , ask yourself it necessary that I remember this or just ocd asking me to ? This will reduce the amount you need to remember , no one can or needs to remember everything . Hope this helps x
  21. Thank you for quick reply Mini your words ares so kind. Just what I needed . I often advise people’ saying ‘think about what someone without ocd would do .’ You are right , it’s Wierd how I can help others but can’t see the wood for the trees with my own issues . great advice- pharmacists , thank you . There is a dr at my practice who gets annoyed and I always end up getting her , because I have to accept very specific times I can’t really choose who I see . Also lots of different ones, not regular . I’ve had a couple of bad experiences and I think it’s put me off , doesn’t mean next time will be bad . i will think like a non sufferer and tell my self “ ill handle it “ it’s my nose and I’m 50 lol. I think she thought I was trying to be a teen again lol. Like it’s my own fault .
  22. This is how I react to similar things . I have had the shard trigger too . You have just been through an awful row , so you are not thinking straight . This is when ocd goes wild . What I do is I allow my self one ‘what if ‘ ‘what if I feel bad for throwing plate ‘ END OF . Any more what ifs are ocd . Hope this helps x
  23. This happens to me when I am happy it’s like ocd drags up something to ruin it . Now I know this is what ocd does I can fight it much better. Everyone has rubbish from the past , it’s how we experience life and learn, but non sufferers don’t let it bother them now . In this situation I say ‘ I’m ok right now ‘ and ultimately that is what counts . I name it as ocd and tell it ‘go away you aren’t going to ruin this for me’ . Also I ask my self ‘what would a non sufferer do ?’ And look at someone I know who is resilient and confident and ask what would they do to help me be more rational , hope this helps
  24. My health anxiety just seems to be getting worse . It’s based around going to the drs . If I have a pain or symptom I don’t worry about that moment, I worry that I won’t be able to get a dr in this current climate . One of my piercings is hurting and I’m worried it might become infected over the weekend and no drs are open . Also it became infected once before and the dr was annoyed with me . Miss the days when you could see a nice one consistently . This is fuelling my ocd . I have loads of other health concerns . I hate it because no one else in my house does and they are all Chilled. I’ve been having horrific dreams . If anyone else put this , I’d just say ignore them they’re not real , but when they happen I wake up with full on ocd and end up having to watch something on my phone to calm down . This is what I am doing right now . please does anyone have any tips to help me have a more rational response when these things happen . i am over stretched and have made my schedule easier which is what i would advise someone else , but it seems impossible some days thank you for reading x
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