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OceanDweller

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  1. Thank you all for your very generous responses. I am truly humbled. This is a wonderful, inclusive forum and I feel blessed to have been a part of such a wonderful community. Look after yourselves y’all. OD signing off...
  2. Hey You Guys I have thought of little else but OCD for the previous two years or so. I have made some good friends here on the forum and received some invaluable support. It’s time, I feel, to move forward and to have a crack at life on life’s terms. I am, therefore, plotting an extended period of absence, beginning over the day or so. To this end, I would like to wish you all the very best in your ongoing endeavours. It’s been a privilege knowing you all. Take care and good luck. OD
  3. I guess the obvious (but potentially antagonistic!) question is... do you imagine your partner fantasises about your friends and family?
  4. Pretty much. My attitude to alcohol, drugs and chocolate bars has always been ‘why stop at one?!’. It’s safer for me to avoid anything that could be used to fill the hole in my soul.
  5. I agree with this. A pal of mine once said ‘if you feel it, you feel it’. Nobody has the right to dictate whether your emotions are justifiable or not. And being sensitive (as I’m often described) should not be viewed as a slur. Being sensitive means you care about yourself and you’re conscious of others’ feelings too. Here’s to all us sensitive souls! Long may we refuse to hide how we feel.
  6. Hi BelAnna I can relate. I went through months of binge eating last year. I put on about a stone in weight. Like you, I was careful to count exactly how many of each item I scoffed. And, again like you, I only stopped once I reached a ‘round (no pun intended!) number on the scales. I’ve since lost the weight and largely steer clear of ‘treats’ now. Your issues surrounding food are clearly complex and enduring. I’m not an expert on eating disorders, but I have read that professional intervention can work wonders. I do believe that our predilection to binge eating and OCD are related. I’m sorry that I don’t have a solution to offer you.
  7. Taboos will always represent a unique temptation. I’ll wager the majority of folk have fantasised about their brother/sister in law. It’s because it’s ‘wrong’ that it’s alluring. But (as always) it’s our actions, not our thoughts, that define us. And it’s this fact alone that you need to accept.
  8. Ironic that a thread about IQ was conveived by the most obvious imbecile ever to darken the forum.
  9. Hi Chels. Personally, I believe it’s a matter of finding the right partner. Once you’re acquainted with ‘the one’, he won’t be put off by your OCD (and the fact that your last boyfriend was says far more about his failings than it does about you). Hang in there. We will all have our day in the sunshine.
  10. Do you believe that our thoughts are automatic? I do. Involuntary. Often unwanted. Devoid of intent or blame. And so entirely unreflective of our true selves.
  11. Hi battlethrough. That’s what’s known as a (heavily!) loaded question. Some truths are best left unexposed. If your partner fears the truth, she shouldn’t ask scary questions.
  12. Morning GBG. I’m feeling sane enough thank you! I did not enjoy the slumber of the righteous. New meds wreaking havoc I suspect. I note from your thread that you and your wife are gliding through smoother waters. Good on you.
  13. Hi Avo. Thanks very much for your post. Not quite that long, but that’s a generous compliment. Much obliged. Ultimately, if someone with the capacity to ‘do me in’ also had the inclination, there would be very little I could do about it anyway, so worrying (as always) is pointless. As you rightly say, how self-absorbed most folk are is a blessing in situations such as this.
  14. Hi folks Thank you so much for all of your thoughtful responses. Much appreciated. It’s comforting to learn that my kin’s response seems to have been untypical. And it does highlight how an ill-considered remark can have a devastating impact on the OCD mind. I don’t know why I allowed myself to become so affected by this entire situation. In fairness, one of the guys down the pub I broached it with was kind enough to reply with ‘the difference between him and you is that you haven’t done anything’. So I’m going to assume that’s the general consensus and go about my business whilst avoiding avoiding certain people and places (if that makes sense!). If I don’t post for a while, file a missing person’s report! (Though I’m now far more convinced that this is just another manifestation of OCD.) Thanks again y’all. I do feel considerably less distressed than I did this morning. I might even treat myself to some kip tonight!
  15. Fair dos GBG. But if you feel you’re about to combust, do share. Talking is our most effective weapon against madness I believe.
  16. Hi GBG. Would it feel disloyal were you to divulge details of the row here? Perhaps an outside perspective (from folk who don’t know either of you) might be beneficial. Just a suggestion...
  17. Oh, and let this be a cautionary tale to anyone wondering whether OCD and alcohol are a winning combo!
  18. Good morning folks. Here’s hoping you’re all well. Way back when, towards the end of the beer years(!), a man I occasionally drank with was prosecuted for being a paedophile. For reasons I still don’t quite understand, having known one ‘in the flesh’ had a profound impact upon me. Until then, such people were the stuff of news stories I didn’t read, and documentaries I didn’t watch. Out of the blue one day, I began to imagine that the bar flies might suspect me of being of the same ilk, to the point where I actually volunteered to a couple of relative strangers that I was paranoid about being accused of such and protested my innocence (despite there being no evidence that anyone was having such thoughts towards me). I divulged all of this to a family member recently, who replied honestly but unhelpfully that, had be been in their position, he’d have assumed (because of my unprompted protestations) that I WAS that which I was desperate to deny being. Since that conversation, I’ve been terrified, to the point of being unable to sleep, that a section of my town believe that I’m a paedophile, and that they’re plotting some manner of unspeakable retribution that will result in my being (potentially fatally) harmed. I’m even considering upping sticks and relocating as I’m that afraid. I’ve never needed a rational, supportive voice more than I do now. Thank you in anticipation of anyone who can help quell my fears.
  19. Hi Jennie. I can relate. A therapist once said that, to me, the world must seem a very dangerous place. I catastrophise about how others have deadly vendettas against me for the most innocuous of reasons. I believe it’s a byproduct of a highly anxious mind. Neurosis can breed paranoia. But I believe that both you and I are quite safe! Regarding the dude at your climbing club, I would ignore him. It sounds like you would only be befriending him to safeguard against him harming you. Which would be a compulsion. I’ve been threatened with being stabbed on a couple of occasions (back when I wasn’t living very wisely). I’ve learned that if someone has genuinely malevolent intent towards you they don’t advertise it. So if this joker IS glaring at you, that should be viewed as a comforting sign.
  20. Hi BelAnna. Would you consider having CBT to address your emetophobia?
  21. No need to be sorry pal. I just don’t want to see you waste your life.
  22. There’s something fundamental that you’re just not getting bruces... Life is what you make of it. It’s only ever worth it, for anyone, if they, themselves, make it so. No matter what hand you’re dealt, it’s entirely your choice how you play it. You’re in control of your own destiny. So your options are straightforward: do nothing, remain unhappy, and spend the rest of your life whining about how pointless it all is; or take charge, make the necessary changes, and celebrate the precious life you’ve been gifted. Once and for all, you need to decide how the rest of your time on this planet is going to play out. And only you can do that. So my advice is for you to cease immediately posting defeatist, cryptic, one sentence moans, and to have a long look at yourself in mirror. Because what happens next, whether your life is worth living or not, is ENTIRELY down to you.
  23. It’s a case of hanging in there pal. Supported by your therapist (I’m assuming he/she is well versed in addressing OCD) you’ll gradually begin to address the ruminations. It’ll require graft on your part, but the payoff will be well worth it. Conincidentally, I have my second CBT session tomorrow. We’re all in this together bruces.
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