Kaz

well I cant believe that since my last post we are in a worse situation with our 22 year old son. we have had a private counseller come round for over 3 months. This has had no impact at all. We are now after a year and a half getting an hour a week from the mental health team. Our son sleeps on the sofa. He wears the same clothes day and night and although we can sometimes persuade him to let us wash his clothes quickly he has worn the same pants and socks since December. He hasn't showered for over a year and washes his hair once a week. The smell now is putrid. He cleans his teeth once a week. He only has a poo on a sunday night when he gets into the bathroom about 3 am and stays there until I get up for work. even then it can take an hour for him to get out making me late for work. The worst thing is that he is now not eating until gone 10 pm and is now only having a glass of squash and 4 homemade sausage rolls. this has gradually got worse. he is 5 ft 8 and weighed 6 10 . I managed to get him to eat even though it was a limited diet and meant I would spends hours in the kitchen cooking the things on his restricted list. he went up to 7st 10. But at the moment it is bad and he is not eating again. My dr showed no interest when he was at his lowest weight. The mental health team are good but funds are not great. I am beyond despair. Our family is crumbeling and although we are all close and can talk about anything we are getting nowhere. What I really need from this forum is advice on how to go about helping my son. I feel as a family we are feeding his ocd rituals but also end up getting cross and frustrated. please any advice from carers or sufferers on how to help and support our son would be great. thank you x

Hello My son is still in a bad place. We have been passed from pillar to post to get help for him. I decided I had no choice than to find a private counseller. I have found a lady that has a space for him. However when I told him he got really distressed and a bit angry. He has been sleeping on the sofa as he can't face his bedroom. But he has decided that he is going to attempt to go in his room Thursday of next week. He said if he had to go to the apt he would associate that with going into his room and he can't do it. I don't want to think it but I do worry that he may be manipulative as he is scared to face help as he will have to push himself. Everything he does has a feeling associated to it. Any advice. Should I put off the apt and see if he can get back in his room or risk the apt and have him not able to try. Many thanks Kaz

Hi everyone. It's been a long time and we are still suffering as a family He is in the kitchen as I type this trying to decide on the right slice of pizza to choose. He is getting do frustrated and I really don't know what to do. He is still sleeping on the sofa not working and still not back at uni. I really am devasted and don't know what to do.

I'm feeling so desperate. My son who has ocd is getting no help. I noticed tonight that he has worn away the fabric on the sofa from the ritual of standing up and sitting down He has no quality of life at the moment and we are all desperate for help for him. Please please any advice good. Any one used private counsellors Xxx

Hi Mel. I have managed to get him to see a dr . I was disgusted as he wanted to start him on citrilipram straight away with no CBT. He also didn't seem concerned that my son is 5 ft 7 and weighs 6 st 10 !!! I have got an appointment for him with the local wellbeing clinic but I am so so worried about his mental health at the moment x

Hello. I am trying to follow the advice given but find it so hard to get tough with him. We had a break through and he managed to be ready for a family party but spent the next day in his room We are eating our dinner and leaving his to go cold. As he failed the uni year we are waiting to see what his options are. I am really happy to suggest that he either has to get a summer job or sort his ocd. That is a great bit of advice. Thank you.

THello and thank you for the welcome My son does live at home. He is at the local uni . He has so many rituals now that it really is impacting on his and our lives. He stays up late and often falls asleep downstairs. He sleeps most of the day and even if I'm not at work I can't get him up as he never feels ready to get out of his room. He is not making it down to dinner and eating about 9.30. All due to the routines he has to do. He keeps telling us he is getting fed up with some of them and trying to get downstairs earlier but this has not happened so far. He has finished uni as well for this year. He keeps telling us he will get through it so doesn't need help. My husband and I are seeking as much advice as possible to help him and us. We have a younger son as well who is taking his a levels. The boys are very close too Any advice great Thank you

Hello and thank you for the welcome My son does live at home. He is at the local uni . He has so many rituals now that it really is impacting on his and our lives. He stays up late and often falls asleep downstairs. He sleeps most of the day and even if I'm not at work I can't get him up as he never feels ready to get out of his room. He is not making it down to dinner and eating about 9.30. All due to the routines he has to do. He keeps telling us he is getting fed up with some of them and trying to get downstairs earlier but this has not happened so far. He has finished uni as well for this year. He keeps telling us he will get through it so doesn't need help. My husband and I are seeking as much advice as possible to help him and us. We have a younger son as well who is taking his a levels. The boys are very close too Any advice great Thank you

Hello I am the mother of a 21 year old suffering from ocd. I am beside myself. I love him so much but finding it hard to deal with. I have read all the available information. My husband and I are so patient. We are a close family and our son talks to us and doesn't seem to hide any of his ocd. The frustration is that he wont seek any help and as he is 21 it is impossible for us to intervene. Any advice would be great