Lisa86

Thank you. I don't mean to demean anyone with OCD I'm just trying to make sense of this. We've been cool since then but they act like nothing happened and what bugs me the most is that I am up for getting help and they originally said they were not, and that they couldn't be bothered to make an effort. I'm clutching at my last straws here just seeing if anything makes sense or there's any hope. Since saying they can't be bothered to make an effort they have been extra nice. I'm making more of an effort to do less. They have had help in the past for addiction and other issues.

My partner shows the classic symptoms of OCD - talking in 8s, switching the light on and off 8 times and obsessing about minor things a long time after others have forgotten about them. After injury and subsequent surgery they are prone to sneezing fits, mucus build ups and sniffing. Suspected allergies make this worse. After trying various remedies they invested in a machine to clean the air. We have had arguements about the machine from electricity usage and how long it should run to if it really helps and where it should be placed. It's at the point that if anything happens to the machine my partner flies into a rage, shouting a story which in the end has little to do with the machine and more to do with unrelated things. Because I care I suggested we try the machine on the lowest setting in the bedroom. It's extremely quite but still makes a low hum. I can sleep through it but if I wake up in the night or just relax in there, the machine keeps me awake. I went away for a couple of weeks and requested we move the machine from the bedroom just until my sleep cycle returns. My partner agreed. A week ago he had a bad sneezing fit and I came home to the machine on high, I left it alone. He did change the setting, before bed I moved the machine as agreed. My partner flew into a blind rage and wouldn't here that I didn't know he intended the machine to be in the bedroom that night, that he hadn't discussed it with me. My partner shouted and banged and kicked the machine violently while it was still plugged in, shouting about how they wanted to leave and find somewhere else to live. I spoke softly and quietly, trying to calm them down. I made a cup of camomile tea which they threatened to scold me with but actually poured down the sink. They drank mine instead before looking at houses on the internet and eventually coming to bed. The next day after being angry they cried about this and said that I didn't care because I couldn't accept what was important to them. Since that evening they have been in denial about the whole episode, although I have finally managed to negotiate the machine back on a timer. The machine has become a source of tension. I don't have a good night's sleep most nights and I don't feel that I can enjoy my own bedroom anymore whilst the machine is on inside it. If it moves they'll get angry, we can't even discuss it. I don't know what to do. My main point is I feel that OCD is contributing to the anger and obsessiveness - they have obesssions about other things. Any advice?