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Coping with intrusive thoughts
Charley replied to MRT's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Hello No problem at all! I’m really pleased to hear you have felt better recently. Exactly that, I view my anxiety as a part of me but it’s not who I am and does not define me and does not define you either!! Keep up the positive work! Wishing you the very best! -
I think I could have responsibility OCD
Charley replied to h011y's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
No problem at all I hope you are feeling better and feeling more confident in applying the above Take care of yourself xx -
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Sorry - Did something stupid (Merged Thread)
Charley replied to Nolightleft's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
THIS!! Thoughts are NOT facts!! Don’t believe everything your mind tells you, you are not your thoughts/fantasies. You are above them. Approach your thoughts as an observer. Say that was an interesting thought, so what? Then carry on engaging in something outside your thoughts like an activity/chore/work and try and fully immerse yourself in that (mindfulness). The goal is not banishing the thoughts, just acting indifferently to them and your anxiety will exponentially decrease, providing you keep up your indifferent attitude. It will feel counter productive as your thoughts are screaming at you to be heard, but that’s all they are. Thoughts! How liberating is it to know we are NOT our thoughts/feelings/sensations!!! -
Just finished third round of CBT
Charley replied to MarieJo's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Kind of. They both overlap very closely, both benefit from CBT. The worry diary exercise is more specifically used for GAD and disengaging from your thoughts/reframing benefits both. In my experience anyway -
Just finished third round of CBT
Charley replied to MarieJo's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
I believe that you can tame it and learn to better manage it so it doesn’t have as detrimental an effect on your life it’s having now! It’s just being gentle with yourself and trying to remain patient. Hard I know as GAD/OCD can demand fast instant results but it’s a process and one in my opinion that is worth taking your time with and riding out. It’s not ridiculous at all, he’s your son and you worry and care for him. Completely understandable. You’re right, we can never have 100% certainty or control. Impossible. What you can do though is practice mindfulness, and embrace the here and now, use your worry diary as advised!! Be curious with your thoughts, observe and record. This will help you better understand your thought processes and you can then reframe -
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I'm tired of my past mistakes
Charley replied to Cora's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
OCD is causing this, there is nothing wrong with you. Your thoughts are not facts Cora. Don’t believe everything your mind tells you. You choose what you want to respond to. You are not your thoughts. The reason you feel the way you do is because you’re having a scary thought ie finding your brother sexually attractive, then you get a feeling and the obsession cycle starts. It keeps you stuck and ruminating more. Have you considered the fact that because you care so much about being ‘sexually attracted’ to your brother that you’re actually not? Sounds illogical I know, but if you were sexually attracted to him you wouldn’t care and would be acting completely opposite to what you’re doing now which is confessing, knowing it’s wrong, hating the thought of being sexually attracted to him. Does that make sense? OCD clings to things we find important and then thwarts the truth and distorts reality. In order to get better and feel less anxiety, you need to trust this process, nothing to lose in doing so, and COMMIT. Nothing will ever change if you don’t commit! -
I'm tired of my past mistakes
Charley replied to Cora's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
That’s okay Cora I understand, it can be difficult to find motivation to do anything when stuck in the OCD cycle. It may be worth thinking though that it will be beneficial engaging in those topics or discovering new hobbies despite not wanting to, they will be great for mindfulness in giving you another focus. I think you should give these a go! There’s nothing to lose. Clearly you’re committed to getting better and you desperately want to get out of the OCD rut…. So why not give them a go? -
No problem at all From what it sounds like, it doesn’t sound like it fits hypothetical in the sense of categorising with the worry diary. In that context, it’s more future potential situations/scenarios that may or may not happen. It generally sounds like those questions are just ruminations from an OCD point of view. It’s not unusual for OCD and GAD to overlap though and sometimes it’s difficult to tell what’s what. I just tend to think its anxiety in general!! Sorry, not sure if this was very helpful!
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Oh I will check this out!!! Thank you for recommending
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I’m currently watching a travel vlogger on YouTube videoing his adventures all around the world…. getting serious wanderlust!! It is my dream to travel, explore the world and just appreciate how beautiful and soothing nature is Totally awe inspiring.
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You’re welcome lovely In my experience, another thing I’ve found really empowering is recognising that love is a choice not just a feeling. Feelings come and go all the time very much like emotions, so they’re not reliable necessarily for making decisions. You choose what you want to do! When I was going through rocd, I found this very liberating. Despite feeling distant from my partner and like it was wrong I acted against my feelings and continued treating him as my partner. It felt strange at first but that was because I was simply engaging with my thoughts. Once I became indifferent to them and shrugged them off, I went back to my ‘normal’ happy self completely besotted with him.
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I'm tired of my past mistakes
Charley replied to Cora's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Hi Cora, Great self-awareness there In answer to your question: YES. I know you have strong urges to seek “answers” to your questions but this is still a compulsion. OCD is clever at clinging on to different loopholes of the same topic. Answer is still the same, act indifferently, don’t go there by answering the questions. Be firm but kind to yourself, every time you get one of those thoughts- say “nope no time for you” “whatever” “ I have more important things to be doing” or something similar. I know it will feel wrong (that’s OCD tricking you to staying in the rumination cycle) but you need to stop engaging with the thoughts and your anxiety will dissipate and the thoughts eventually will have no meaning to you ( however hard that might seem). What do you like to do for fun? Do you have any hobbies like reading, walking etc?