KatherineV

Hi everyone, I have a bit of a worry at the moment. I separated from my husband 6 months ago. He has quite severe contamination, controlling and checking OCD that has gotten worse in the last 2 years. He has isolated himself from almost everyone and hardly leaves the house. He isn't getting the help he needs and is struggling through. We haven't been able to go on holiday anywhere or visit his family because of his struggles. Now we are separated he has told me he wants to take our 6 and 3 yr old to his mums who lives in central France. He wants to go by train which he will have to travel on the metro through Paris and get another train down to his mums. This makes me very nervous because of his mental health and whether he can cope and look after the children properly. However the thought of saying no and the children missing out is upsetting too. Any advice would be great x

Hi there, Im after a little advise. My husband has always had intrusive thoughts OCD, contamination OCD which makes him quite controlling. He always managed to cover it up with alcohol but a few years ago he stopped the drink and faced it. He got help from a therapist and through meds and seemed to get on top of it. However since COVID appeared it seems to have spiralled and getting worse and worse. He's currently between therapists and is really struggling. He's disinfecting everything all the time and washing/sanitising his hands constantly. He tries to hide it from me but i notice. He is so worried about catching and passing COVID on he has cancelled our cleaner and doesn't want anyone coming into the house. He doesn't go into work anymore, he doesn't go on trains and doesn't like going out. I have now noticed he doesn't want to drive anymore because he's worried about running people over. And if he does drive he has to go back to check he hasn't run anyone over. He's always snappy now and shouts at the kids all the time. He tells me how he is feeling alot and I'm feeling quite overwhelmed. I'm not sure how to deal with this and I feel I can't talk to anyone because they won't understand. I'm feeling super trapped and the only rest bite I get is work.