My partner moved in with me a couple of years ago and initially I thought he was just quite particular and wanted our home to be like a show home. Over the years I have got rid of most of my furniture ( he didn’t like it) and many of my possessions in order to be tidy and clutter free. We are now down to the spare room which is where things were put and short of parting with things I need I am a bit stuck. Sadly I think I have made things worse instead of better, as I thought becoming ultra tidy would help. I think I am getting drawn into his rituals and I now hate my house, I also feel completely exhausted with it all and don’t know what to do. I have mentioned ocd to him and he claims I am the one with the problem as I am too messy, cannot organise my life, waste time, etc. He also completely over reacts whenever plans change and he can’t do things his way. He won’t accept he has issues and I don’t know what to do. It isn’t just the house either, I get told where to put things in his car, what and when to do things on holiday. He seems to be in a high state of anxiety a lot of the time and he often blames me for it. What can I do to manage this situation better? Is it selfish to want to reclaim part of your own life back when you’re living with someone with these kind of difficulties?
