I’m really struggling with my husbands ocd and don’t know where else to turn.
He has had ocd for the last 5 years or so but since October last year he has been extremely bad. He is currently waiting to start EDMR treatment but I am at breaking point.
I feel like he (or rather his ocd) is controlling me and the kids 24/7.
If I don’t do something that he asks and actually say no they he flips out at me until I give in and do it to keep the peace. And then he says after, if you’d just done the compulsion we wouldn’t have argued and it would have been done quicker. But I don’t want to just give in to everything anymore.
I’m tired and exhausted.
I’m not allowed to drive the car (his ocd started with the car)
I can’t go up or down stairs without telling him first (noises trigger him)
I cant just go outside when I went I have to tell him first
He stays in one room all day and I have to take his breakfast, dinner and tea to him.
He makes me get in and out of bed until it feels right for him, and the same when I want to get out in the morning.
Is this controlling behaviour just what I’ve got to accept? Or can I say no? What do I do when he flips out at me and I say no?
