Hi community,
I am looking for advice please as a partner of someone with cleaning ocd. Specifically fingerprints, smears, marks on surfaces, footprints etc.
I met my partner around 20 months ago, we have a wonderful relationship, he is very loving, emotionally available and I am.so incredibly in love with him. We have a great relationship.
However, he moved in around September last year, I was accutely aware he had an obsession for cleaning which has gotten worse as time has gone on. For example, there might be a few things out of place or we pop out for an hour and my teenage children havent washed up and he explodes, the house is a **** tip etc.
We have recently renovated the house and he has become obsessional about every fingerprint left on the fridge, marks on the sideboard etc to the point I am finding myself rushing to the kitchen before him to inspect it to make sure it's acceptable or doing a house reccy before he gets home from work...he will always find something!
I am on edge, my children (12 and 14) feel on edge. I feel there needs to be a balance between him accepting they are children and are getting used to a new routine, more respect for property, the fact that they don't have the same forethought that adults do because their rational brains are not fully developed and mindful that I don't want to enable what I consider to be irrational behaviour.
I have become more aware in an effort to support him but I .equally mindful of not wanting to.enable this behaviour and o certosnyl don't want my children to feel uncomfortable in their own home.
I guess I am.seeking support in trying to navigate this as it's all new to me. I want to support and
