ICKmum61

Thank is great help - I very much accommodate him and know this is not what I should be doing. I guess I don't want him to think I am not supporting him but clearly by helping him with the compulsions I am doing the opposite. I will certainly take on board what you have said and it is very much appreciated. Thank you

My son is 28 year and has undiagnosed contamination OCD which started or got worse during the pandemic. I am struggling to support him and feel myself get angry as he will not seek help and support. He essentially is unable to function, unable to touch anything without scrubbing his hands. He bumped his head today and had to have a shower as his hair touched the wall. His showers are 40mins long. He checks, double checks and triple checks everything that comes into the house from food, to cleaning stuffs. I want to be able to support him but find myself veering from facilitating to getting extremely angry at him for what I fell is totally illogical. I have read up on it and do understand he can't help it but it is hard to live with and taking over my life and happiness now. I just want him to get support of which I said I would fund but he just won't do it. He doesn't work which I think makes things so much harder - he can't get a job as he can't function. Just looking for some guidance around tools, resources to allow me to better support him as I love him dearly.