fefee
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- Birthday 20/11/1978
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pocd
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Usually with previous cbt therapist i have found talking about whats bothering me 1st ,then we move to challenging thoughts and thinking about them in a more positive way then we do exposure therapy if needed. Then non engagement and sitting with tjose feelings . All my last 3 therapist have worked this way. I find it bizarre in 2nd session to just say dont engage .
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Thanks for everyones replies. Its helped me organise my thoughts to write a letter to the therapist explaining what i want from therapy as ultimately its my choice. If shes not comfortable offering talking therapy 1st then thats totally fine. Ive also talked to another therapist who does CBT but intergates other therapies for a more intergrated approach.
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Hi Gemma, yes i had 3 years of CBT therapy for pocd before i could let the thoughts be in my mind and not engage with them . I know how to let thoughts pass through my mind . However because its about loosing my job and dealing with feelings of anger, embrassment , loss of identity, self esteem. For me, and i know every one is different , i need to work threw those feelings 1st.
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Hi Sophie, You definitely sound like your suffering from ocd . I would seek out a cbt therapist as soon as possible for treatment.
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Im definitely not ready to straight to ignoring the thoughts.
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Ive had alot of stuff happen to me lately and struggling to get over. Such as loosing my job , struggling to cope around my mother law as she constantly bosses me. Find it really upsetting. I have decided to see a cbt therapist to help deal with theses issuse. The therapist has said to not engage with the thoughts. Ive said well i need to talk about it first and maybe think about alternative ways of looking at the thought. I feel i can't go straight to not engaging. The therapist has said a couple of times it would be very easy for her just to let me talk and her just listen but thats not what im saying either. Its getting very frustrating and im 2 sessions in . I find very difficult to explain what i mean or what i need sometimes because I just get so anxious. Maybe i need someone to a mix of traditional therapy and cbt.
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Cant get a job and reputation ruined
fefee replied to fefee's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
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OCD, Obsessive Thoughts, Relationship
fefee replied to Kels's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Dont beat yourself up for confiding in a friend. It was his behaviour that was wrong not yours. -
Cant get a job and reputation ruined
fefee replied to fefee's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Thank you Hidigtts. I appreciate your words. Hopefully something will pop for me. -
Hi 3 years ago i moved to a small island with my husband. I hated where we living and was really impacting my depression. We spent all our savings on the move . It turned out to be the best decision and we both so much more happier. We both secured excellent jobs . I got a job in a school with top pay and benefits. Every day i pinched myself at how perfect everything was going. I was so happy and really enjoyed my job. 4 months in my boss brought me in and said they wouldn't renew my work permit . Some sort of permit issue. I was really shocked and straight away new they where telling me that because they wanted to get rid of me but refused to tell me the reasons. Depression assended on quickly and not functional well at all. Breaking down in the classroom inside and out . In front of staff and kids. Not sleeping. I had meetings to try and get to the bottom of what happened but they wouldn't budge on the permit issue. The meetings just angered my boss more and i caught him out telling me B.s. I had 6 months to my contract finished. Its was unbearable. Very embarrassed in front of other staff members. I could do nothing as their no protection for expats their. covid hit and we had to go work from home. Until my contract finished. I did manage to get a job in another school 2 months later. I was fired after 2 months as they treated me really badly .i hated it their .Again my depression came back and bursted into tears at school and was fired the next day. Since then i haven't been able to secure a job. Everyone knows everyone and knows that i have mental health problems. I love my job and i know im good teacher but worry no one will give me a chance because of my reputation.
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Thanks for all your replies, it has helped alot . I contacted my friend to say im coming to the party. It will still be difficult with thoughts of what ifs What if, he says it again ...... I will try not to rumminate with that.
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Really struggling with my pocd please help
fefee replied to Shanai's topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Hi Shani, I used to suffer very badly with Pocd and i know how gut wrenching and distressing those thoughts are. So understand and sympathise. I had 2 years of therapy before i could handle the thoughts and not get upset by them . Their is light at the end of the tunnel. When the thoughts come in and you dont engage with them your anxiety can get more intense but just sit with it and eventually fade. I needed therapist support with this before i could do it myself. -
Ok thanks pb.
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Hi A year ago me and my friends were on a group zoom call. I have a group of friends boys and girls most married with kids. We were all having drinks. One of the said about a tv program thats showing on tv that was all about young people having sex and i would love it. I guess its is because i often talk about sex when we younger and when i first met my husband. Anyway one of blokes said , why would i want to watch young people have sex. Is she a pedo or something. Well it was extremely embarrassing and hurtful comment. Very anxiety and depressing to think about. I never said anything or talked about. Only to my hubby who said typically not to let it upset me. So i haven't seen him in a yr and my friend is inviting me to her house and he will be their........ i said im not going but she wants to why and she doing a party esp for me. I can't face him. What should i do ? I actually do suffer from pocd to.