Guest MajesticShannon Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 hi everyone, something has been bothering me recently at work. My boss has recently insisted I use her financial support when it comes to CBT. A great gesture, but one im not sure if i should accept. I consider her my friend due to the time we spend together at work (me being her deputy), and have always got on well. However, this has got me thinking.... in the past I have moaned/said she has been nasty to me/annoyed me to my parents and girlfriend, which makes me feel bad for accepting her help. Does this mean im not really her friend? I see other people complain about their friends, is this normal and am i just ocd-ing? any comments appreciated. MS Link to comment
Kylie Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Hi MajesticShannon, I personally believe, that every person will complain about even their bestest of friends at times. I know I have some very close friends, but there have been times where I've moaned about them to my husband - due to something they have said, or haven't said - a way they have acted etc.... I think it's common nature, and life would be really boring if we didn't have differing opinions to others. So, the fact that you have complained about your boss doesn't make you a bad friend - it makes you human. People without OCD wouldn't think twice about making the odd complaint, but people with OCD tend to obsess over things like this at times. It's fantastic that your boss is offering you financial support to access CBT. Although we can't make the decision for you as to whether you should accept the offer - don't allow an OCD obsession to stop you if it's what you want to do. Kylie x x x Link to comment
Guest Mirza Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 hi everyone, something has been bothering me recently at work. My boss has recently insisted I use her financial support when it comes to CBT. A great gesture, but one im not sure if i should accept. I consider her my friend due to the time we spend together at work (me being her deputy), and have always got on well. However, this has got me thinking.... in the past I have moaned/said she has been nasty to me/annoyed me to my parents and girlfriend, which makes me feel bad for accepting her help. Does this mean im not really her friend? I see other people complain about their friends, is this normal and am i just ocd-ing? any comments appreciated. MS Hey. I was in a very similar situation. I was mooaning about my co-worker and once I called her up if she can drive us to work tomorrow. I felt it was immoral - even though I would reciprocate the drive to work as well (it ended up so that only I drove us, heh). I felt as if I wanted to just 'use' her. What does it mean? We're just human and most of us moan about each other. Does it mean we don't help each other? Link to comment
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