Completely given up hope now

[Guest Kitty]

I guess the title says it all (and apologies in advance to Bobby who is no doubt utterly sick to death of me and hearing all about this at the moment).

When I first started the sessions with my therapist she assured me that we would be taking things slowly and surely and really getting to grips with the eating problems and the illness fears. In our last session I was told that my sessions are stopping in a few weeks as I've had my 'allowance' of them and am not allowed any more. We've barely even started covering the eating problems, and at the moment I am really really finding things hard to deal with. I told her last week how down I'd been feeling and that I didn't think I could cope, and it was then that she told me about the sessions stopping.

I'm at a loss to be honest with you. I thought that I was going to be getting some structured help with overcoming the problems and now it seems I won't be. A few weeks ago she said she was going to organise a Dietician to come in to see me for some help, and made it sound like I'd be having a few sessions with whoever it is to talk over what could be done to help. She also said last week that the Dietician could only do one half of a session with me and that was all.

I did speak up and I told her that I was unhappy with it all, but there is nothing that can be done - apparently I have to leave it for 6-12 months and then go back to the GP get re-reffered and start the whole process again . If I'd broken my leg and it was set in plaster - they wouldn't whip it off before the bone had healed would they? So why are they doing this to me now?

I've really given up all hope now, I just don't think that I will ever get better - I thought that my therapist was going to help me to help myself and at least give me some strategies for dealing with the eating, but it seems not - there just isn't enough time left now. I thought that I was going to be monitored with the eating, but I'm not. So in short, I can't see any end to this and I can't see any point in fighting it anymore when the help that I need is being withdrawn. I just want to curl up in a ball and for the whole world to **** off. This illness has ruined my life and it's continuing to do so and I just can't cope anymore.

[Northern Star]

Hi Kitty,

That's terrible that your sessions are coming to an end because you've had your "allocation" . Is there nothing that can be done???

:hug:

[Ashley]

When I first started the sessions with my therapist she assured me that we would be taking things slowly and surely and really getting to grips with the eating problems and the illness fears. In our last session I was told that my sessions are stopping in a few weeks as I've had my 'allowance' of them and am not allowed any more. We've barely even started covering the eating problems, and at the moment I am really really finding things hard to deal with. I told her last week how down I'd been feeling and that I didn't think I could cope, and it was then that she told me about the sessions stopping.

This is part of the system that really ***** me off. Kathryn, happy to fight for you to ensure your sessions continue. The way I see it is like my broken knee, they would not just say right, thats 10 visits, your knee is not mended yet, but we have decided we don't want to go beyond 10 sessions. It just does not work like that.

Let me know if you want us to do anything to help you.

Ashley.

[Northern Star]

For you, Kitty

[Guest cat1]

i really feel for u kitty.im worried that with the new access to therapies government programme,this awful treatment will happen to lots of people.As the government seem to think that cbt is the answer for everyone and that they will probably only offer limited amounts of sessions.When i went to the drs for another issue i refused counselling as i had a serious issue and they could only offer me four to six sessions.I am still waiting for cbt for my ocd though....after an eight month wait theres still no sign,and the place i was referred to hasnt got any ocd specialists so going there will be a waste of time..i feel hopeless about getting help too,but i dont know what else to do!

[Biccy]

hi kitty

sorry to hear things are still so tough honey kick and scream if you have to but please dont give up.

also i would advise talking to your gp this week and tell them what they have said and get them to fight for you as well.

Please also take ashleys offer up it can only help.

hugs

xxxxx

nicky

[Guest duracellbunny]

aaaggghhhhhhhhhhhhh screaming for you hunny

:blowup: now i'm exploding for you

i'm soooo sorry - same thing happened to me ......like cat1 said i reckon this is gonna happen more with the governments i.a.p.t scheme - when i went to parliament t'other month i told them the treamtent we get wasnt working and was rubbish - they seemed to listen - who knows ?

owww hunny - aggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh another scream for you aaaggghhhhhhhhh

my dear can you go back to the doctors and ask for person centred counselling...or rebt counselling - completely different type of counselling - just thinking that you might not have to go to the back of the que if it was a different type of therapy .

dont know if you have had person centred at all hunny - but it is excellent

xxxxxxxxx

[Ashley]

my dear can you go back to the doctors and ask for person centred counselling...or rebt counselling - completely different type of counselling - just thinking that you might not have to go to the back of the que if it was a different type of therapy .

Hi Hayley,

Please remember that CBT is the evidence based treatment for OCD, and I believe some other anxiety related treatments too. Counselling is not thought to be effective for these illnesses, so going to the front of the queue is hardly a benefit if the treatment is ineffective. Although that is not to say what you suggest will not help Kitty, the point of Kitty's post from the way I reading it is not that it was not working for her, it is the fact it is being stopped before it as begun kinda thing.

Ashley.

[Guest cat1]

i personally believe that both cbt and person centred counselling (which every counsellor should be givine anyway,the core conditions i mean) is best for treating ocd.

[Rachie]

Kitty, hope you are feeling a bit more hopeful now. Do take up the offer from Ashley if you want to as I think it might really help you. x

Cat, I like person centred counselling too but don't think it's the best for OCD although maybe in conjuction with it, yes, it could be very helpful. I think a lot of people probably won't know what you're referring to when you mention the core conditions.

[Guest Lizbeth]

Oh K, that's absolutely ridiculous.

Please don't give up, sunshine. I know it's probably the last thing you feel like doing but don't let this go. You deserve to be helped. Go back to the GP if you can.

As my mum says, don't let the b******* grind you down.

Thinking of you.

xx

[Guest duracellbunny]

i personally believe that both cbt and person centred counselling (which every counsellor should be givine anyway,the core conditions i mean) is best for treating ocd.

i agree hunny - i guess that we are perhaps looking at it from the angle of having studied it - so we see the benefits - whereas unless you have studied it personally you only have second hand info to go off .

thankfully research trials are now under way into the effectiveness of rebt theapy on the nhs(which is a combination of cbt and person centred)

sorry just my opinion - (back to the more important stuff about kitty !!!)

sorry kitty hunny - i know that this post is about you and babe you are sooo in my thoughts :hug:

Edited May 17, 2009 by Guest

[Guest Kitty]

Thanks everyone. Means a lot to me. I must admit I had wondered about contacting PALs and seeing if they could help me. I just worry about doing it though, don't feel like I can fight it at the moment - and I certainly don't want to put my psychologist's nose out of joint. I know that this whole business of the sessions stopping isn't her choice per se, it's the rules and she has to stick to them. I wish she'd been a bit more honest about it at the beginning though.

I haven't got a session now for a good two weeks or so. I actually got quite upset when I spoke to my mother about it - I told her about the sessions stopping and she just said 'well it's perhaps just as well, they don't seem to be doing you any good - in fact it might just be better if you stop going.' But that's just typical of her.

I am actually interested in all forms of therapy, not just CBT - and the methods Bunny suggest sound interesting to me.

I think I'm just tired of fighting for everything all the time, I fought to get the therapy, waited patiently twice to get it and now this. Fighting to get up and get through the day then realising I have to do it all again the next. It's just all too much. I'm barely eating much, and just ill all the time. The more down I seem to get the worse the anxiety goes and the less I eat. Not really sleeping much either.

[Biccy]

hi kitty

fighting is the best option dont let the ocd etc win i know its very very hard for you but i for one know your much better than that and you can beat this back.

hugs

nicky

[Kylie]

Hi Kitty,

I can't really add any more to what has already been said - except, please do try to keep fighting. It will be worth it all one day.

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you - and sending you some hugs.

Kylie

xxx

[Guest legend]

Just to let you know kitty, that im thinking of you, and that things will hopefully start to improve for

you,

take care,

legend

[Guest Muse_Man]

Sending you one of these ((hug)) :original:

Take care x