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Pressured and tangential speaking? Does anyone else have to deal with these two things?

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Has anyone else on here been diagnosed with "tangential speaking" or "pressured speaking" where you talk on and on and feel so embarrassed during and after it? You just cannot help it? I have had this problem for many years and it seems to be getting worse again. I have OCD and GAD and just wondered if there were others out there with this problem and how do you deal with it? I have gone thru much BT/CBT for OCD but no shrink has ever suggested how to deal with annoying the **** out of people with this incredible pressure to talk on and on and rudely interrupt others. I cannot even imagine how many people in the last 15-20 years that I have turned off with going on and on and knowing i can not stop and feeling so embarrassed about it.

Any replies would be welcomed.

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Has anyone else on here been diagnosed with "tangential speaking" or "pressured speaking" where you talk on and on and feel so embarrassed during and after it? You just cannot help it? I have had this problem for many years and it seems to be getting worse again. I have OCD and GAD and just wondered if there were others out there with this problem and how do you deal with it? I have gone thru much BT/CBT for OCD but no shrink has ever suggested how to deal with annoying the **** out of people with this incredible pressure to talk on and on and rudely interrupt others. I cannot even imagine how many people in the last 15-20 years that I have turned off with going on and on and knowing i can not stop and feeling so embarrassed about it.

Any replies would be welcomed.

I've never been diagnosed with this, however, feeling like an OCD expert at this point, I'd have to say it would be due to the obsessions. My boyfriend and I had a discussion about this today. I go on tangents because I am so obsessed with a thought that I have to discuss it until it doesn't exist anymore for some reason(s). I, too, know that I turn people off with never knowing when to shut up. It might be even worse to try and shut up because then the thoughts would build up in your head, something we know is never good!

Nice to hear someone else gets this, sorry I couldn't be of more help.

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I've never been diagnosed with this, however, feeling like an OCD expert at this point, I'd have to say it would be due to the obsessions. My boyfriend and I had a discussion about this today. I go on tangents because I am so obsessed with a thought that I have to discuss it until it doesn't exist anymore for some reason(s). I, too, know that I turn people off with never knowing when to shut up. It might be even worse to try and shut up because then the thoughts would build up in your head, something we know is never good!

Nice to hear someone else gets this, sorry I couldn't be of more help.

Hi lilyelspeth,

Thank you for responding and sending me that link to an earlier thread/discussion of tangential/pressured talking. The link did not work for me but I will try to find that "depression" topic it is under. Thanks again.

Who knows what exactly drives some of us to talk on and on and interupt people as they speak. I do not look at it as OCD as much as I look at it as just another symptom of a severe anxiety disorder. When I OCD/GAD started at age 15, just about 35 years ago, I actually became quite a quiet person. But, when I went off to college/university, I tried to be more outgiong and I also starting seeing shrinks where I did most of the talking. I think that started my talking incessantly. I also went into high tech sales after college so that helped my speaking skills but not my AMOUNT of talking.

I just always feel the anxiety pouring down from my brain and thru my body when I am going on and on, feeling more and more embarrassed. I usually start sweating under my arms. I trry to look at the bigger picture now. I think less in tersm of OCD this or GAD that and just remind myself I have a crippling amount of fear/aniety going thru my brain and pressured/tangential talking is just another "fun" thing I have to deal with.

When I was seeing some shrinks at a place called Dartmouth-Hitchcock Med center here in New Hampshire, USA back in '97, I was given my med records and saw that one of the shrinks wrote that I had these two types of talking. I coluld not have agreed more with him. I also liked that I had a name for it just has I did not have a name for what ailed me under 1991 when i was 32. It is always nice to know what is wrong with u even if there is not much can do about it.

I also feel like I am an expert on OCD/GAD at this point in my life. After diagnosing myself in a bookstore in 1991, I quit the last psychotherapist I had seen and would only see OCD specialists from then on. I read parts of 6-8 OCD books, many articles, went to OCD support goups, joined on-line groups like this and picked the brains of at least a dozen BT's and OCD specialists. I have also watched as many TV news shows and documentaries on OCD and other mental illnesses. I think it is very important to educate oneself as much as possible on whatever illness is affecting you.

So, that was very nice of U to respond and I hope you see this post. Good luck you and if I am ever in England again, maybe we can meet and have a "talk-off" or talking competition!!! Hahaha!!!

Take care,

Runninonempty (that name is no joke!)

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I've never been diagnosed with this, however, feeling like an OCD expert at this point, I'd have to say it would be due to the obsessions. My boyfriend and I had a discussion about this today. I go on tangents because I am so obsessed with a thought that I have to discuss it until it doesn't exist anymore for some reason(s). I, too, know that I turn people off with never knowing when to shut up. It might be even worse to try and shut up because then the thoughts would build up in your head, something we know is never good!

Nice to hear someone else gets this, sorry I couldn't be of more help.

Hi again lily,

After just writing the previous post, I thought about the OCD aspect on talking on and on and not be able to stop. Yes, there might be an extra element of Obsess/compuls/ in why some of us feel so pressured to speak and go off on tangents to make the "perfect" and all inclusive point.

The bottom line for me, is that I want it to stop as with ALL my other symptoms ( scrupulosity, driiving fears and morbid/riutalistic thinking). I just know if med science could get a med/surgery or something to rid us of the fear/anxiety, all this **** would go away....cease to exist.

The fear and anxiety are the engines behind OCD/GAD/phobia's/PTSD, panic attacks and so on. No fear/anxiety, no disorders.

Oh, and of course, I DO get it and you DID help me just by responding and letting me know I am not alone.

Always makes me feel better to know others understand and care.

Best wishes.

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No problem!

As hard as it can be (even with us "talkers"), getting it out there at all to another human can be so helpful. It's young, but I started a blog last night about my adventures with OCD: http://joiedeocd.wordpress.com/

Hope that link works! :blushing:

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