Let's Try To Look For The Positives Today!

[taurean]

Enjoy your meal!!

If you start to feel that sneaky black cloud coming over you, come on here and talk to us. I personally have some funny stories that will cheer you up. Like the time I was a bank manager and locked myself in the safe after hours. Twice. Oh and the time (last week) when I was out with clients for lunch and the police were walking past. And they came up and said 'hi jay, hope your keeping out of trouble'. Very embarrassing.

I do swim at the beach most days! Maybe I am puff the magic dragon. Lol. Let's hope so!

I 'll remember that.

Many years ago I once called the police because I couldn't find my car in the car park. then I went all round it again and found it.

So I called the police back and explained that i had found it, then started to drive home.

Suddenly a;police car filled up my rear view mirror, siren wailing, and I was forced to pull over. They insisted on going with me to my house, to prove I lived there and show the ownership papers for the car.

Mobile communications and the time to action them weren't what they are now. They threatened me with wasting police time, but obviously thought better of it when they found eveidcne of my second phone call , confirming I had found the car!!!!!

[taurean]

Hey heartplace, try this

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/ride-life/2014/07/5-things-you-can-do-in-the-next-5-minutes-to-be-happier-in-the-next-5-days/

It sounds real cheesey, but I tried it and it worked for me

I had a look too, good ideas there!

[Guest heartplace]

Hey heartplace, enjoy the party you deserve it.

Re the depression, you are of use to a lot of people on this forum,. your posts when you come on are constructive and very helpful.

I found that when people are struggling as you are, it can be useful to challenge that feeling of hopelessness by drawing up a list of things that you can do, you are good at, that people appreciate about you; you might well surprise yourself . For example, you are very knowledgable and articulate, and look where possible to help others, even when you are pretty down yourself - that's very commendable.

Thanks! I guess it's just hard for me to see when I'm being of use to someone. I do want to try and help people out, and if my posts are helping others that's a good start for me, lol. It's not easy to help others when you're feeling bad yourself but it can be rewarding.

Hey heartplace, try this

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/ride-life/2014/07/5-things-you-can-do-in-the-next-5-minutes-to-be-happier-in-the-next-5-days/

It sounds real cheesey, but I tried it and it worked for me

Haha that's awesome! I need to bookmark this and try it out. I have a busy weekend ahead of me so I'll have to wait for Monday to come around. Thanks!

[Gareth22]

Negative.realy bad anxiaty woke up after 3 hours of sleep couldnt get back off.3 straight days of panic attacks

Posertives.on holiday with my fiance and moving into are first place together on the 18/8/14 and getting married 09/1/15 :-)

[taurean]

Negative.realy bad anxiaty woke up after 3 hours of sleep couldnt get back off.3 straight days of panic attacks

Posertives.on holiday with my fiance and moving into are first place together on the 18/8/14 and getting married 09/1/15 :-)

Hi Gareth

If the anxiety is a consequence of OCD intrusive thoughts, remind yourself they are OCD not your thoughts and saying nothing at all about you as a person.

Looks like you have some very big life changes coming up imminently. Are they causing you stress? Stress is a major trigger of anxiety and OCD.

If you need to ,use your phone or whatever to raise a separate topic.

How is your fiance coping with your anxiety problems? Is this a part of your concern?

Best wishes

Roy

[Gareth22]

Hiya thanks for the reply roy.she is fine with it luckily but i tend to panic more about telling her things becuse i dont wqnt to be a burden to her.i think one of the issues is im also stepping down of my paroxitine ive gone from 10 to 20mg in 6 weeks but have been on them since i was 18.

Thankyou for taking the time out to respond

Gareth

[taurean]

Negative

Steroid tablets for my "glue ear" knocked me for six in the middle of the day - treatment starts with a high dose for a week. So planned activities for the moment are somewhat limited.

Positive

I have been given a little kit to help equalise the pressure in my inner ear by blowing up special small balloons to the size of grapefruit, using just each nostril.

It seems beneficial, and it's become a little fun, like a game.

This afternoon - my wife being exhausted having been worried over my trip to the specialist (she's worried I am losing my hearing permanently , as she has otosclerosis from before we got married, and her hearing is limited - even after an implant and using hearing aids, and I am her kind of "hearing dog!" - and she has a phobia of medical people [white coat hypertension]) - I went out to pick some fruit.

I found four more peaches to pick, a load of eating apples and lots more blackberries!

[taurean]

Negatives

On waking up, knowing I had to persevere taking these powerful anti-inflammatory steroid drugs for my ear problems.

The lovely Accurist watch given to me by my work colleagues as a retirement present has a strap that is way too big - I have to send it back to Accurist to alter as only minor adjustments are possible by the owner.

Positive

My wife is feeling better today. She is up for filling in her part of the financial questionnaire that has to be filled in for our financial adviser.

If its not too windy this afternoon - bit of a breeze at the moment - I will be in our beautiful garden with "Spotty" the cat dozing and letting the tablets do their work, and reading another retirement present, a nice book on fishing!

And later I will prepare the watch packaging - I'll turn this into a positive; it's a nice walk to the post office, and I shall look forward to when the watch is returned "ready to wear".

And when I do wear it, I shall have happy thoughts about those wonderful, kind colleagues who generously donated towards it.

[Guest jayjay89]

Good job turning that around to a positive

Negative, I cannot work out what is going on with me and food at the moment, I'm not sure if it's OCD or a return trip to anorexia, or something new, but regardless I have to treat it the same and just EAT SOMETHING. Regularly, like 3 times a day. So that is the plan. It's so frustrating when new/old problems sneak up on me. Also I found this new black spot on my toe, which is quite large. So don't know what that is about.

Positive, I finished my painting of my friends at their wedding, just in time for their anniversary gift for next month

[Guest Heryn.]

Negative: guilt OCD.

Positive: watching iPlayer.

[Guest heartplace]

Negative: Had a heated discussion with my mom about why I act so irritable (9 times out of 10 because depression and OCD anxiety are bugging me so it's not really anything personal), and I just feel like I'm not being heard the way I need to be. My mom is trying hard to understand and she says she does, but I feel like there's just SOMETHING about my problems that is not reaching her but I don't know how to describe it or what it could be.

Positive: Had a hardworking day that was very fulfilling. Roleplaying with my sister and listening to music makes for a nice night at home

Edited August 4, 2014 by heartplace

[taurean]

Negative

None today so far

Positive

My friend said I could take my retirement present watch to any H Samuel and they would adjust the strap.

I have done that this morning, snd I am now proudly wearing the wonderful watch!!!!

Ears are popping - and I can hear more today!

Edited August 4, 2014 by taurean

[Guest jayjay89]

Negative, I was too lazy to put my socks in the microwave today and tried to warm them up on the heater and they caught fire!

Positive I didn't burn myself! Phew.

Glad to hear your ears are improving Roy!

[findingithard]

negative: can't get the thought that I decided to

touch my daughter whilst changing her bum earlier because it's like I made myself feel like I

was going to but didn't realise, all happened before I even unfastened her vest and ofc I had to tell myself I wasn't gonna touch her which obviously is bad and doesn't help as it just makes me feel like I decided to and changed my mind again...

positive: not really any positives atm, gonna have time to finish reading my book and watch a few TV shows I like as my daughters at her dad's tonight. as much as I like the free time, I feel guilty constantly when she's at her dad's because I feel as though I'm pretending everything is ok. Hopefully the rest of the day will be better.

[Guest sophie13]

Positive... although I'm going through hell because of my new OCD sexual thoughts, I am at work and I actually did some work.

Negative: I've spent too much on this forum...

[Guest jayjay89]

Negative, Tuesdays are the worst day of the week for me :/

Positive - im feeling good about my new plan of action

[Guest lizinlondon]

negative - I have had a bad year due to OCD

positive - I start cbt with erp tomorrow and am going to do whatever it takes to get my life back!!!

[taurean]

negative - I have had a bad year due to OCD

positive - I start cbt with erp tomorrow and am going to do whatever it takes to get my life back!!!

I'd say that was a very positive statement liz. Good luck with the therapy, keep in touch with us on your journey.

[Guest heartplace]

Negative: fear of losing control or that I have already lost control. Also I accidentally slept in until past 3 this afternoon!

Positive: Sent an e-mail to a psychologist asking if she accepts my insurance and if she is knowledgable about OCD. I really hope it works out.

[taurean]

negative for this afternoon.

My wife had real difficulty grasping how the solution our financial planner is suggesting operates - unfortunately all the paperwork is very confusing.

Now I am very used to explaining how what were my own insurance products (not financial services products) worked to my clients. But this is not an area I traded in, and although I understand it (but have a few questions) I am not used to explaining this sort of thing to others, and least of all my wife.

We got there in the end, and there had to be lots of hugs and high fives and we felt pretty stressed for a while

positive

Ears still improving, and I am spending some time on here seeking to help others. The worry I had that the steroid tablets (for my ears) would trigger a mental health problem and OCD triggers would flair up has not - at least not yet - eventualised. I came across a really nasty trigger in a bookshop this morning, but was able to do as I have been taught and not connect or interract with it, and distract my thoughts away from it.

Edited August 4, 2014 by taurean

[taurean]

Negative

I am doing the gardening and none of the neighbour's cats have come out to join me - usually they love gardening but they don't like a breeze in their fur.

Fickle friends

Positive

Showed my cafe retirement club friends my retirement gift watch this morning - I am SO proud to have received it, and SO pleased with it.

The ladies loved my shorts. My wife tells me I have good legs for a man, so maybe I am spreading a little happiness in other ways - branching out so to speak.

Our forums are attracting lots of new members - there is a lot of competition out there, so it pleases me when new members choose us - they must see that we are going about things the right way!

Edited August 5, 2014 by taurean

[Guest aleuk]

Negative:

Got a lot of admin work to complete today

Positive:

Going to University in September and secured my accommodation, off on holiday at the end of August and generally just feeling quite good.

[Guest OCD-in-ireland]

Negative:

Feel like my eating is out of control since I came into inpatient treatment and am afraid of getting fat (Have to watch these thoughts as would have ED tendencies in past)

Positive:

My appetite is back :original:

I have began to be kind to myself again

Intrusive thoughts have calmed down alot

I can think about the possibility of a happy future again at times

[Guest heartplace]

Negative: Didn't get as much sleep as I should have.

Positive: Busy day today, in a good way. So far my day is pretty good, no significant problems with intrusive thoughts or anything so far. I can't guarantee what thenext hour will be like but I have to take things as they come. No point in worrying about what might happen.

[Guest Sisyphus]

Negative: life looks very bleak these days; feeling inferior about Roy's amazing legs

Positive: I saw my sister's dog which cheered me up