Handy Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 I've completely lost interst in everything,everuthing in life has just become a choir the tt races which are on at the moment used to excite me now I can't even be bothered to watch them You have not lost interest in posting, Link to comment
Guest MrsF Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Its the sidecars tonight Bruces. Link to comment
whitebeam Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Hi bruces - i think medication may well be a way forward for you. i know not all meds work and not all people respond to meds.....but there must be some you haven't tried and there really could be one (or more) that really would help you. When you are depressed it is so difficult just to get through day after interminable day......if some medication can pick you up - lift your mood - you can really start to help yourself. Please try contacting someone with the view of seeing a (different?) psychiatrist. I suffered from depression - thankfully only for a short time...........meds really helped me and gave me my life back. OCD then reared its ugly head.....eventually meds helped me with that too. Take care :original: whitebeam Link to comment
bruces Posted June 11, 2015 Author Share Posted June 11, 2015 I thought there was some I havnt tried but the specialists just said no they don't work for me Link to comment
ACE Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 Bruces I'm sure you've tried many different types of meds but vrtually impossible that you've tried everything & what about combinations of medications? where one hasn't worked on it's own it can be very effective combined with something else to do the trick for you.I had tried just about everything & i mean just about everything, I had that many hospital stays all kinds of shock treatments, the latest treatment that came out you name it& I couldn't get better & I was stuck in the pit of major depression fo so long.I was told I seem to be treatment resistant but my Doctor didn't say this in an offensive way he said it's been tough to find something but we don't give up& we keep going until we find the right mix as difficult as it is. I just want to say this to you again to let you know that it can be achieved not only really can but does :original: . Link to comment
bruces Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 I just want to be like other people is that really too much to ask ? Link to comment
bruces Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 I've now realised I'm completely worthless Link to comment
Purplepiper7 Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 Why would you say something like that, bruces? Ignoring the fact that it isn't true at all, saying that you're worthless isn't going to do you any good. Link to comment
bruces Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 There is truth to prove it Link to comment
PolarBear Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 So long as you keep saying such things you will continue to feel worthless. Link to comment
Caramoole Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 What are you doing to try and change the negative self-talk you feed to yourself Bruces? It's hardly surprising you feel as low as you do when you constantly feed yourself such self-loathing. It's thought that a cognitive approach can be as affective in depression as medication but it has to start with you making the decision to make those small changes. If you bombard yourself with negative messages all day, that is what will result, negativity and depression. I know it's not easy when you're depressed.....but you can make changes, you can resolve to try and change the self-talk. You can decide on things that you will do on a daily basis, even when you don't feel like doing them. Sometimes it's a "Fake it 'till you make it" approach that helps. As the old saying goes "You are what you eat".........similarly, "You are what you think" and your low mood is responding faithfully to the input you're giving it. Can you try a different approach, even though you don't quite believe it? It has to be a better option than the current pattern Link to comment
bruces Posted June 13, 2015 Author Share Posted June 13, 2015 I try to find a reason to like myself but I can't find anything,I've messed up with pretty much everything now Link to comment
bruces Posted June 13, 2015 Author Share Posted June 13, 2015 I'm nearly 40 and I feel my whole life has just been wasted Link to comment
Caramoole Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 I'm nearly 40 and I feel my whole life has just been wasted These are the sort of statements, the negative self-talk which help to keep you stuck. I try to find a reason to like myself but I can't find anything,I've messed up with pretty much everything now In a way, just like the OCD you have to stop searching for reasons and just "Be" for now. It's rumination, going over things, scanning your mind, having an internal dialogue all the time. You have to try and ease up on this aspect Link to comment
bruces Posted June 13, 2015 Author Share Posted June 13, 2015 I can't help it my career has gone down the toilet I've messed things up big time there's no way out Link to comment
ACE Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Bruces I know this is the Depression talking a lot & perhaps the OCD as well with the obsessional thoughts& or rumination too.I think you need to try to challenge this as much as possible for e.g the thought says I ruined everything & responding with maybe where is the evidence? If you think there is sort of such evidence you can try to challenge this you aren't & weren't well at all & I'm sure you done nothing out of clear intent to hurt or offend anyone.And very likely anything can certainly be redeemed & people do have understanding at the end of the day, I doubt really people out there will be holding things against you at all :original: . Link to comment
bruces Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 I really can't see a way forward I really can't Link to comment
Caramoole Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 There can be but it does have to start with you making those small changes. Isn't it even worth trying a different way? Link to comment
bruces Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 It's taken over half my life it's tainted everything Link to comment
Caramoole Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 You're just carrying on with the negative statements Bruce, you didn't answer the question. Isn't it worth even trying a different way? Link to comment
bruces Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 Yes I suppose it is but there's so much to deal with Link to comment
bruces Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 Is love to have my life over without problems Link to comment
Caramoole Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Yes I suppose it is but there's so much to deal with Maybe so......but all you need to do is start You have to work on this negative self-talk, the rumination, to look at what you're actually doing to yourself. I'm not surprised you feel wretched, you spend every waking moment telling yourself these things and how dreadful life is, what a waste of space you are. You can change it. How's about this evening, just as a start.....you catch those negative thoughts and try not to debate and converse with them? Link to comment
bruces Posted June 14, 2015 Author Share Posted June 14, 2015 I try not to tell myself how much I hate myself but I just look in the mirror or think of things I've done and it all comes back it's really bad Link to comment
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