Starbuck Posted December 21, 2016 Share Posted December 21, 2016 This is one I struggle with a lot. I have just seen someone who lives in my neighbourhood, I waved at them and they didn't wave back. Ever since I've been ruminating, wondering if I've accidentally offended them in the past or even if I've done something and can't remember (e.g when drunk). Of course, all the false memories then flash through my brain and I wonder if any could be true or if .........and then my mind just runs wild. Link to comment
alisando123 Posted December 21, 2016 Share Posted December 21, 2016 I also have these thoughts and for me it relates to social anxiety as well! Try to distract yourself from the rumination and just accept the uncertainty that you may or may not have offended this person! Link to comment
Starbuck Posted December 21, 2016 Author Share Posted December 21, 2016 Thanks, I know this is the best course of action. It's just I'm new to a close knit small village community which is causing me to worry more. It wouldn't have bothered me as much when I lived in the city. Link to comment
PolarBear Posted December 21, 2016 Share Posted December 21, 2016 There could be a thousand reasons why that person didn't wave back. But you don't need to figure out what the reason was. It's not your responsibility. You need to change your attitude and the way you think. You have to be okay with not knowing whether you upset someone or not. It's not a big deal either way. You're making it into a big deal but in reality it's not. Think to yourself, "Oh well," then get on with your day. Link to comment
Starbuck Posted December 21, 2016 Author Share Posted December 21, 2016 Thanks PolarBear, I suppose the OCD has given me a sense of self importance where I think everything is about me. You're right, there could be thousands of reasons. Link to comment
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