Needs to end

[TimeToStop]

I’m with my wife now and had been feeling good as we’d had some intimacy that I felt was proper and went well. We only have foreplay right now. My wife is a virgin with some issues around penetration which has made it easy to avoid sex given my problems above

however tonight I couldn’t become erect and now feel like it’s the end of the world. It feels like I have to be dominated to be excited, like I’m not the man. But this worries me and I feel best when I’m in control but I don’t feel like that enough 

im scared it’s all an act and really I should be with a man but honestly I can’t imagine that. The problem is it’s not a compulsion I can practice, it’s my married life and I’m 34 and want children. I can’t hide it and everytime we try to be intimate its another trigger