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I’m at the end of my tether, I really am. I don’t know how much more of this awful disorder or whatever it is I can handle.

i keep in picturing images/scenarios involving children sexually sometimes they pop into my head , sometimes I make them up to see how I feel about them. 

I keep on getting the feeling that I’m aroused by them , I told myself sometimes that’s ok because they involve sex and it’s just my brain reacting to sex. Sometimes I’ll feel physically aroused but sometimes I’ll just fee aroused like emotionally turned on. I thought that was ok until I read about aarousal non concordance which says if you fee physical arousal it could be that the thing is sexually relevant but if you feel mental arousal then the thing is actually pleasing to you. Completely freaking out . 

I’ve been picturing sexually touching my niece , I didn’t get a feeling so then I thought what if I did it quicker and with lube and then I got this feeling of arousal. I’m trying To tell myself it’s ok because I was picturing a sexual act but I’m also really losing it big time.

im at my wits end, I don’t know how to feel well or normal again. I’m getting cbt from ocd specialist and I know I’m supposed to let the thoughts be and distract myself but how can I when I’m so scared and I’m so confused?? 

Pleae help x

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Well I’m not coping too well with my own issues at the moment but some of the advice on here has definitely helped me from the awful place I was at six weeks ago, don’t give you’re OCD the time to think about these images and remember it has an arsenal of weapons at it’s disposal to make you feel these things, are you on any meds at the moment? If you aren’t these can help with the intrusive thoughts you’ve discussed and hard as it maybe distraction is one of the best ways to help yourself, you have to convince yourself it’s all an an OCD lie and ignore it and try not to give it mind air time as I said I’m struggling but thanks to some brilliant people on here I’m in a better place than I was. All the best.

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Thank you for replying. I am on meds and have increased them a month or so ago.

It’s just so so hard, I’m really getting bored of it now. I’ve lost all my joy for life.

How do you convince yourself it’s an ocd lie? I know the saying if it feels like ocd, it probably is, but I just don’t believe it because I’ve thought/ felt things in the past that I’ve felt unconfortable about other things and I’ve ruminated on them, analysed then, told myself they’re not true etc , all the things I do with pocd thoughts but deep down I know they are true, for example i did this about my brother’s new business and wanting it to fail. I told myself no no no and I felt anxious and like I do with pocd thoughts but deep down part of me wants him to fail because I don’t want him to be more successful than me and I don’t have a good career etc. So if that’s true, what about all the pocd thoughts? Am I just using ocd thinking as a way of covering up the truth? 

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OCD’s biggest weapon is doubt and it knows how to use it, deep down I’m sure you don’t want you’re brother to fail you possibly may just be a bit resentful of his success. I’m sure the other stuff is pure ocd b/s and that’s how you have to try and see it, I’m in the same predicament at the moment but mine likes to play on my past mistakes of which I’ve made many and I’m lucky enough to have a rock of a wife who I’ve hurt in the past and it now makes me sick to my stomach. Don’t let the illness fool you into believing you’re something you are not and the feelings you are getting are real they are not.

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Interesting. Those who have OCD with an obsession with kids must avoid looking at kids, being nearby & thoughts of them otherwise they get extremely anxious.  CBT exposure for this is to try to be around children again  

If you’re doing meds, which won’t cure your OCD, you must give them 12 weeks to be effective   Good luck  

 

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For the umpteenth time, it is NOT true that someone taking an SSRI MUST wait 12 weeks for them to be effective. You keep saying that, Handy, but it is simply not true.

Many people see a positive result much sooner than 12 weeks. It may take that long to see the full benefit, if there is going to be one, but nothing says they won't start working well at four weeks.

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Making up scenarios in your head to see how you feel is a checking compulsion. It is keeping you stuck and needs to stop.

You also need to stop telling yourself the thoughts aren't true. That's self reassurance and a compulsion.

Instead, try to do absolutely nothing about the thoughts. Let them be and get on with your day.

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