Ryukil Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 So, one night I jerked off, changed my underwear to a pair of pants I had, so a bit of semen probably got on these pants. One day I went out, didn't have any clean laundry (OCD kind of makes me lose sight of normal things), so I put these on as they were like the only thing available. As I was getting out of the car, the metal part of the seat belt rubbed across my crotch. So, perhaps it touched some semen. I had meant to go out into the car and clean the metal part with soap, but I didn't, and today my mom was in that seat and so that part of the buckle potentially touched her clothes. I feel the need to say something, like - I feel like if I don't say something it's akin to rape because my semen could have made contact with her. I'm so bothered by this but I also don't want to say anything because I might just make it worse. Link to comment
Guest OCDhavenobrain Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) " confessed out of desperation, got that release of endorphins." What can you do this time? If I was you maybe I would consider getting my life in under so I had clean clothes because that is what a normal person would value, instead of occasional and highly arbitrary events. Edited June 8, 2019 by OCDhavenobrain Link to comment
Handy Posted June 8, 2019 Share Posted June 8, 2019 Follow what we said the other numerous times. Link to comment
Ryukil Posted June 9, 2019 Author Share Posted June 9, 2019 I want to ignore it but the anxiety won't go away. Link to comment
malina Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Hey Ryukil, you keep writing about wanting to do ERP and exposures but this is the moment, this is your exposure. The anxiety is meant to be there right now, if it wasn't there, this wouldn't be a worthwhile task in overcoming OCD. You know that if you confess, you'll get temporary relief and be on to the next worry in no time. You can do this! Link to comment
paradoxer Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 4 hours ago, Ryukil said: So, one night I jerked off, changed my underwear to a pair of pants I had, so a bit of semen probably got on these pants. One day I went out, didn't have any clean laundry (OCD kind of makes me lose sight of normal things), so I put these on as they were like the only thing available. As I was getting out of the car, the metal part of the seat belt rubbed across my crotch. So, perhaps it touched some semen. I had meant to go out into the car and clean the metal part with soap, but I didn't, and today my mom was in that seat and so that part of the buckle potentially touched her clothes. I feel the need to say something, like - I feel like if I don't say something it's akin to rape because my semen could have made contact with her. I'm so bothered by this but I also don't want to say anything because I might just make it worse. Ryukil, OCD's more contaminating than anything you can come up with, get a grip. Excuse the puns, but not the advice. Link to comment
Ryukil Posted June 9, 2019 Author Share Posted June 9, 2019 Is it morally wrong to not say anything? Link to comment
Guest OCDhavenobrain Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 (edited) So the exact same question as before. Sorry but nothing will change if you behave the same Edited June 9, 2019 by OCDhavenobrain Link to comment
PolarBear Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Yes. It says in the Bible, Thou shalt not put semen on seatbelts. What you are doing is asking for reassurance. OCD is making you doubt what you should do, so you rely on others. This can't go on. With OCD, the best course of action is no action at all. Link to comment
Angst Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Say nothing. Saying anything in this context is feeding your obsession. Nice line from PolarBear. Plus -believe me-people especially your Mom don’t want to know. It’s not important. Link to comment
paradoxer Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 1 hour ago, Ryukil said: Is it morally wrong to not say anything? It's more dishonest (and selfish) to say something. It's just a silly disorder talking ... and a need for you to find relief. (Those damn puns!) Link to comment
Handy Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Just give up masturbation. You won’t die. Link to comment
PolarBear Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Geez Handy! Really? Beyond the fact that is deprivation of an entirely natural experience, it would be a compulsion called avoidance. Link to comment
paradoxer Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) 6 hours ago, PolarBear said: Geez Handy! Really? Beyond the fact that is deprivation of an entirely natural experience, it would be a compulsion called avoidance. Yeah, that'll do it. Absolutely, a preposterous, and more to the point, clueless suggestion. Edited June 10, 2019 by paradoxer Link to comment
Ryukil Posted June 17, 2019 Author Share Posted June 17, 2019 Still worried about this and it's over a week later. Link to comment
Binxy Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 So... can you identify the compulsions that you're carrying out? These will be the reason that you're still stuck I reckon.. Link to comment
Ryukil Posted June 17, 2019 Author Share Posted June 17, 2019 Probably posting about it and trying to figure out whether or not I should say something. Link to comment
Binxy Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 (edited) Good- the "trying to figure out" is a classic. You'll lose hours to this. As others have said- your OCD is giving you an overblown sense of responsibility with this. I get it- I've had some similar issues, I still do some days. You've got to trust everyone. It's clear to us that it's OCD. Treat it like any other intrusive thought. Edited June 17, 2019 by Binxy Can't type :-( Link to comment
Ryukil Posted June 17, 2019 Author Share Posted June 17, 2019 Is it really though? It seems like a legit concern. Link to comment
paradoxer Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 Maybe it is. You've heard others' opinions. Link to comment
Guest OCDhavenobrain Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 You will confess and you will feel better than you will come here qith another "concern". How long will it go on? Link to comment
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