Feeling trapped

[Julie17]

Feeling trapped! I live with my husband and I have OCD, I can’t stand him being in the house!! I find he makes my OCD worse.. he don’t clean or tidy after himself and it makes me so stressed I feel I need to live alone that way no one will touch anything in the house.. I can’t stand the thought of him touching anything it’s driving my crazy.. I don’t know what to do anymore... I just follow him around with antibacterial wipes all the time!! 

[Ashley]

Hi Julie,

I can empathise, I have been there with similar contamination thoughts about family and flat mates. But the thing is, even if you lived alone the OCD would still make you wander around with antibacterial wipes. I lived alone for a while, I have moved flats and all that happens is OCD finds me eventually, after 3 or 4 weeks, less sometimes, my OCD continued, OCD would simply focus on something else... it's what it does best! 

Remember, the problem is not your husband and his untidiness, the problem is your OCD.  

Have you had, or are you getting any kind of support and treatment for your OCD?  On the NHS there are various treatment options, there is a specialist OCD service not to far from you in Hertfordshire. There's the even better specialist OCD services in London (CADAT at Denmark Hill) and the newly formed clinic in Oxford that offer intensive and home based OCD treatment.  So the good news is there are options, although access to the specialist clinics can sometimes be a challenge, but not impossible. 

Things can and do get better Julie

 

 

[Julie17]

Thank you, yes I’m under the nhs and having treatment.. I feel like I will end up on my own just me and ocd.. living happily ever after!!! Crazy.. he don’t really understand my ocd.. thinks I’m just fussing but I’m not.. I feel like I have a gun to my head making to clean .. clean or die! Type of option! I’m exhausted too. But seriously thinking I can’t have anyone in the house.. 

Edited June 25, 2019 by Julie17
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[Ashley]

19 minutes ago, Julie17 said:

I feel like I will end up on my own just me and ocd.. living happily ever after!!

Oh I know that feeling and I know a lot of our members know that too, but sadly it's not true, there is no happy ever after for us and our OCD, we will eventually end up broken hearted.... so my OCD motto is hurt the OCD before it hurts us!

You just need to keep hold of the fact that the problem is not the person (anyone) being in our houses, the problem is the OCD!  So somehow, on our own or with a therapist we need to remove the OCD, not the person.

 

[Guest OCDhavenobrain]

Your husband is not the problem. Your OCD is

Edited June 26, 2019 by OCDhavenobrain

[Fed up]

On 25/06/2019 at 09:16, Ashley said:

Hi Julie,

I can empathise, I have been there with similar contamination thoughts about family and flat mates. But the thing is, even if you lived alone the OCD would still make you wander around with antibacterial wipes. I lived alone for a while, I have moved flats and all that happens is OCD finds me eventually, after 3 or 4 weeks, less sometimes, my OCD continued, OCD would simply focus on something else... it's what it does best! 

Remember, the problem is not your husband and his untidiness, the problem is your OCD.  

Have you had, or are you getting any kind of support and treatment for your OCD?  On the NHS there are various treatment options, there is a specialist OCD service not to far from you in Hertfordshire. There's the even better specialist OCD services in London (CADAT at Denmark Hill) and the newly formed clinic in Oxford that offer intensive and home based OCD treatment.  So the good news is there are options, although access to the specialist clinics can sometimes be a challenge, but not impossible. 

Things can and do get better Julie

 

 

Hi 

where is the ocd centre in hertfordshire? 

Thanks 

[Ashley]

Hello Fed Up, 

We have some information on our website here - https://www.ocduk.org/overcoming-ocd/accessing-ocd-treatment/accessing-ocd-treatment-through-the-nhs/specialist-ocd-treatment-services/

But effectively, your GP in Hertfordshire in theory should be able to refer you there. 

[Ashley]

Actually they now have a clinic webpage - https://www.hpft.nhs.uk/services/community-services/highly-specialised-services-for-obsessive-compulsive-disorders-ocds-and-applied-neuroscience/hertfordshire-obsessive-compulsive-disorders-service/

How to refer - https://www.hpft.nhs.uk/services/community-services/highly-specialised-services-for-obsessive-compulsive-disorders-ocds-and-applied-neuroscience/how-to-refer/

[Fed up]

Had a really bad day today..don’t like going on motorways and had to travel,to surrey for the weekend to see some friends. Decide to take a non motorway route which took my husband and I all,over the place and ended up on the m25 anyway. Major panic with intrusive thoughts about jumping out f the car. Then to  make things worse major accident on yeh