Anonymous18 Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 I struggle with intrusive sexual thoughts. I have a girlfriend. These thoughts will be about other girls, the thoughts can range from sexual acts to wanting them to be my girlfriend and this thought specifically always seems true. The way I overcome all of these thoughts by telling my girlfriend all of them. If I don't tell her they will stick in my head. The thoughts will go when i tell her. When I tell her she is obviously upset by the things I tell her. I need a way of not telling her and breaking the cycle. Link to comment
PolarBear Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 Hey there. The obvious solution is to stop telling her. What you are doing is confessing, a well known compulsion. You think doing it fixes the problem but it doesn't. Becsuse it happens again and again and again. You aren't fixing anything. You are stuck in a repetitious loop. Compulsions never solve anything. You can't bresk free of this until you see the thoughts as just thoughts and dtop rescting to them with compulsions. Link to comment
Anonymous18 Posted May 18, 2020 Author Share Posted May 18, 2020 3 hours ago, PolarBear said: Hey there. The obvious solution is to stop telling her. What you are doing is confessing, a well known compulsion. You think doing it fixes the problem but it doesn't. Becsuse it happens again and again and again. You aren't fixing anything. You are stuck in a repetitious loop. Compulsions never solve anything. You can't bresk free of this until you see the thoughts as just thoughts and dtop rescting to them with compulsions. Thank you Link to comment
Hdigtts Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 This is very similar to what I have been/occasionally still go through. It’s so hard not to confess but it is the only way. Link to comment
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