Emmaloowho Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 So my 17 year old daughter is going out of town for a week starting today. I am so nervous because that leaves just me, my husband and my 14 year old son (and our three pugs) . If you’ve read any of my previous posts you’ll see that my fear current y revolves around making sexual advances to my son. And now that my daughter is out of town, I feel Like that’s one more buffer of protection that is gone from the house. I don’t know why I feel like it makes a big difference, but my mind is telling me that with just the three of us in the house, it would be easier for me to act inappropriately. As I said, it makes me very nervous. Any suggestions? Link to comment
PolarBear Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 Yup. Carry on. Keep on living. Dismiss the thoughts as the irrelevant junk they are. Work on slowing down your rumination. Link to comment
grams88 Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 Only natural to feel anxious in general about the situation but don't let the ocd have it's way here, relaxation is probably the advice I would give, take things easy which will probably give the ocd less power. Link to comment
Emmaloowho Posted November 24, 2020 Author Share Posted November 24, 2020 @PolarBear or anyone else: Is it normal that even when I am actively dismissing and trying not to ruminate, that I still have this automatic nervous reaction whenever my son is around, or even when I get a text or call from him? It doesn’t last, but it’s like an involuntary nervous feeling. Have I conditioned myself to have that response? I really hope it will go away with time. Link to comment
BigDave Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 3 hours ago, Emmaloowho said: @PolarBear or anyone else: Is it normal that even when I am actively dismissing and trying not to ruminate, that I still have this automatic nervous reaction whenever my son is around, or even when I get a text or call from him? It doesn’t last, but it’s like an involuntary nervous feeling. Have I conditioned myself to have that response? I really hope it will go away with time. I actually think the more you ruminate on these thoughts and think about them, physical checking for reactions and all the what with all, the more power you give them. You kind of have to just accept that these thoughts are just that and they don’t describe how you feel. They are just intrusive and irrelevant. Link to comment
PolarBear Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 4 hours ago, Emmaloowho said: @PolarBear or anyone else: Is it normal that even when I am actively dismissing and trying not to ruminate, that I still have this automatic nervous reaction whenever my son is around, or even when I get a text or call from him? It doesn’t last, but it’s like an involuntary nervous feeling. Have I conditioned myself to have that response? I really hope it will go away with time. That's what we call a trigger and yes, you've basically taught yourself to have those reactions. Link to comment
Emmaloowho Posted November 25, 2020 Author Share Posted November 25, 2020 @PolarBear Can I unteach myself Link to comment
PolarBear Posted November 25, 2020 Share Posted November 25, 2020 Yes. Absolutely. You make sure you know what your compulsions are and you work to stop them. You show your mind that the thoughts are not a big deal, not worth getting worked up over. Link to comment
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