Powerless

Hello we saw the psychiatrist yesterday, before hand i had sent him a full report of the situation. he did one hour assessment with her. he said she has severe ocd and she needed to be on medication straight away. he prescribed fluoxietine, 20 mg the first week then 40 mg for 3 weeks then 60 mgs for the next 2 years. hes confident she will get much better with the medication. yesterday she took one and after she was a bit different and more relaxed even if the contamination is now everywhere in the house. today she is at home with my husband. she is llying down not happy that everyone walked in the corridor after she walked. so we are all contaminated. my husband went in the samll room where i keep all her clothes and shes saying i need to rewash them. i know you need to wait a few weeks before you start seeing the effects of the medication. he also said she needs cbt and erp, is threre a list t of good practionners online? i also got the book but she said she read it before and she thinks its just general chit chat about ocd and does not really help.

Can't wait to see the specialist. Monday had to stay with her at home we went out a bit. Tuesday she went to work but had a bad day. Spent ages in toilet. She sleeps in living room. This morning she woke up to pray then decided she had a wet dream because her pad was wet. I said it can be normal discharge. But she went back to sleep. She did go toilet quickly twice but of course of contaminated. I'm going to bring her some food. The wet dream requires extra cleaning in the shower in Islam. But I know it's not wet dream. I'm exhausted and so depressed. I lost 5 stones since April.

How did you manage to reduce your stress levels when it went out of hand? Yesterday she told me to clean everything in her room once she would go in the shower.

Hello We are seeing him in 7 days. In the past 3 weeks the contamination issue went up to 1000% before we were washing the clothes and shower was 30 minutes. But suddenly I don't know what happened. Issue is the same she gets out of showet and think she has peed herself. So even if she put her clothes on her clothes are contaminated and her hands because she touched her clothes. Today was hell. She brought back the clothes from the small room but I went to see her and she accused me of deconcentrating her. So I gave to wash it again. Floor. Door frame. But because she's dirty I can only clean her room tomorrow when she has the shower. I really don't know why suddenly it went like this. She was seeing a Councillor specialised in ocd but really she was just talking.

I have a question. How do I help her getting if that shower.she doesn't want me to talk even because she needs to concentrate she says.

We came home. She was tired so just used the toilet. Convinced she peed her self. Went to sleep in living room and send me this text 1. Laundry: clothes in my room, small room, duvet, any clothes or fabrics you touched in ayoubs room. Front towels in first shelf. Take your shower and dress. 2. Mop corridor downstairs and upstairs and stairs. 3. Bathroom handles, bathroom wall and taps. 4. Towel cupboard handles and railing. 5. Wipe my desk, chair, desk draws, handles, light switch, floor, inside my bed draws, wipe curtains and radiator. 5. Wipe bathroom bath and side of the bath and taps. 6. Your duvet in your room and floor and anything you touched when you came in. 7. Living room door and handles, wall where plants are, laundry holder, floor, carpet, cushions, couch. 7. Kitchen table and items. Kitchen couch. Kitchen radiator . Corridor floor and radiator. Back to square one. She was crying and swearing at me even. She's increasing her demands. Even the cat was not allowed in. Cat went in and she was distraught because cat walked out of living room. I had to mop again.... Its 1.30 am waiting for the wash to finish.

Thanks I ordered it now. Now she has been in the shower for 90 minutes. She started at 9.30.at 10 she told me to do the rituals cleaning. At 10.40 she got out. Me next door not saying a word. Then she said I couldn't do it meaning she peed herself. She's back in now. Then I noticed her stress levels are increasing and she can be aggressive in her tone. That's when she starts counting more when she washes. Now my question is. How can I help her getting out of this shower.

Thanks everybody it is so hard. I am so tired and so sad. Yesterday I told her I cannot carry on rewashing everything and she must think if she's contaminated before touching anything and then telling me to rewash it. She agreed. I keep all her clothes in a spare room. She's not allowed to go. And when she's ready she can transfer back in her room. But how to gradually reduce my involvement. Because now she's telling me to wash and change my clothes and if I touched something belonging to her she would ask me to rewash it. For the book can you provide me with the exact details or is it it on Amazon?

I have already told her that many times, that im dry, clothe are dry, theres no wetness, but still she is so convinced, plus she will say that if i dont wash she will have no clothes so she cant go out to work or she will not come home

its funny how after 7 hours after finishing her shower she is still thinking about it. so now she said she peed herself after the shower when she put her underwear on, she went through a pile of clothe sin the spare romm and so did it and she asked me to take a jumper from her wardrobe. now she told me I have to rewash all the clothes in the small room , in the wardrobe, clothes behind the door, handles, chair , desk, the duvet cover in the small room, all items in kitchen, basically everywhere she has been, as if the pee has transferred everywhere, how can someone has irrational thoughts like this?

sorry what do you mean by "pulling your help" (english not my first language)

where is the conference? For the time being how can I help her?I think she has phantoms sensations, when she gets out of the shower we all have to be silent so "she can concentrate" she will put her underwear quickly then she is convinced she felt a drop of pee running down her leg. and she will go back, this morning she had a 40 minutes shower so she was pleased but still felt the drop. So the other issue is that she prays 5 times a day so of course if she is impure she cannot pray. My main question is how do i reduce my help . because now she is asking me to wash and change my clothes

Thanks for your reply she saw a councellor but really what she did was talking to her, not much more than me. I thought she would have done cbt but she did not.what about TMS does it work? She has an appointment with a psychiatrist specialised in OCD next week. At this stage I think she needs medication to relax her.

I agree with you but how do I tackle this? if for example I don't clean the floor she will refuse to leave the shower and will get very distressed? I have to spoken to her in length about contamination that the transfer of one drop of urine is absolutely impossible, that it cannot go everywhere but she is conviced. People with OCD see things we do not. So is there something in the brain which is not working? can medicine change that?

My 22 year old daughter has contamination ocd. I used to manage it well with her but for the past 3 weeks it has gone worse. 1 to 3 hours in the shower. She has to shower after going to the toilet. Then once in the shower I have to de contaminate the place. Floor toilet radiator. Then she comes out quickly dries herself down there but is convinced she peed herself (1 drop) and goes back in. It can happen 3 times. For example today it happened twice but she ignored it. And went to work. But still for her she is contaminated. So tonight all her clothes will have to be washed. Everything she touches will be contaminated. For example she will ask me to wash and change my clothes if she think I touch something she walked past. Like she went upstairs and they were clothes on the railing. She walked past them but she thinks that pee magically goes everywhere. I touched the clothes so I am contaminated. It's very hard. I keep on telling her it's not rational but she really believes in it. I told her that she wouldn't be able to paint a wall with a drop of pain and she knows that so how can a drop of pee dripping on your leg (if it's there) is going to contaminate a whole room. She made me clean all her clothes in her wardrobe because she said she was looking for something so her hands touched everything. I told her her hands were dry but there's no point. I believe you need to repeat ocd sufferers that it's all lies until it clicks. But I'm wondering if medication would reduce the symptoms? I keep on washing towels and underwear a lot. Because everytime she Stepps back in the shower I have to give her a new towel and underwear.she really goes to the extreme in her thinking.